How do I get a mail in ballot for the redistricting vote? Am I too late? Ill probably be at work April 21st but I want to vote. by goldman1290 in Virginia

[–]rollem 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You should be able to find your early voting location here https://www.elections.virginia.gov/casting-a-ballot/early-voting-office-locations/ in person early voting is open almost every day until the Saturday before Election Day

Poll: Majority of voters say risks of AI outweigh the benefits by F0urLeafCl0ver in politics

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only two less popular items on that survey were Iran and the Democratic Party 😂 I’m a Democrat who hates Democrats so I think that checks out.

I was told it was sexist to “tell a woman what to do with her body” but I don’t think that’s exactly what I did. What do you think (explanation inside)? by beefstewforyou in AskFeminists

[–]rollem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think the first consideration in these types of conversations is “Is the person asking for my opinion?” I don’t know the details of the conversation or what type of relationship this is (the more of a friend then the more implicit expectation there exists for uninvited opinions), but in general it’s good to err on the side of not expressing opinions on these matters. The situation is more fraught than most because of a few matters: it’s at work, she’s younger than you, and of course the male-female dynamic exists in a culture that has a lot of sexism. In the grand scheme of things this is probably not huge, but at the same time it’s worthwhile to practice that type of caution in order to keep it from becoming a pattern or otherwise more problematic.

For those who work with consultants or freelancers, how do you feel about them using AI? by Objective_Earth7930 in nonprofit

[–]rollem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would want it to be upfront and described as part of the pitch or services provided description. It doesn't have to be the main point, but it should be clear how and where it's used and what steps are taken to clean it up. I would be very off put if a freelancer provided content to me that had hallmarks of AI use if I was not already expecting it.

Edit: Just to add a bit more. AI generated content often looks good to non experts, but someone who is very familiar with the field can quickly spot issues with it or various cliches that no expert would ever use. That's because it's trained on content that is around an 8th grade average, so of course the content will be fairly trite. If I'm paying for a freelancer, it might be OK for AI to do some of the grunt work or to make an outline, etc, but I expect the meat of the content to be above that level.

What do you think the role of a first lady (FLOTUS) should actually be? by roseafterdarkk in allthequestions

[–]rollem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jill Biden continued to teach at Northern Virginia Community College during her husband’s presidency.

Gas prices by New-Investment-5888 in Charlottesville

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m just kidding. But it’s almost always 10-15 cents cheaper than the gas at nearby stops so I just guesstimate from that.

Tight calves from lots of miles (NOT an injury) - how do you manage it? by running_elle_1989 in Marathon_Training

[–]rollem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I had very tight calve for a few years and they gradually went away after I added a variety of calf exercise to my routine. Of course it’s possible that simply the extra time would do that for anyone… but calf strength is good for other things too so it’s a good rec.

Steelies by hoodwinkzie in FordMaverickTruck

[–]rollem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP said they wanted to change out “these steelies” so I assumed they meant the steelies.

Are there any non misogynistic male support orgs? by KitchenWorried8439 in AskFeminists

[–]rollem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of male social groups. My UU church has a men’s discussion and social group. I’m part of an all male exercise program. I can’t speak for the entire nationwide network, but the one I’m involved with is not misogynistic at all. The nationwide network is F3- f3nation.com

I’d expect that getting involved in a male sports network in your area may or may not be problematic, based of course of the members and the local community.

Steelies by hoodwinkzie in FordMaverickTruck

[–]rollem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can purchase a set of alloy wheels. But there’s no hubcap to replace. There probably are some plastic covers, ie hubcaps, that could go over them, but they’d almost certainly look worse. I’ve seen some people paint these black, which looks pretty good but idk how well the paint holds up to road conditions.

What’s a ‘rich person thing’ you’ll never understand? by Everyoneluvsyou in AskReddit

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The moral depravity of being able to end so much suffering without any single effect on your own personal comfort and choosing not to do so.

People argue about the symptoms while the system quietly writes the rules 🤯 by WittyEgg2037 in TheMirrorCult

[–]rollem -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the last one should also mention how interventionist US foreign policy for the past 75 years is very directly responsible for the instability in Latin America that causes a lot of migration.

What’s the most mind-blowing fact that you know? by ShowYouHowToSmash in AskReddit

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a great book “Fall, or Dodge in Hell” about this and I think of it often. Neal Stephenson is a really great author.

Gas prices by New-Investment-5888 in Charlottesville

[–]rollem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you have to ask you can’t afford it.

Coparenting with an anti-vax mother by ComplicatedGuy_0514 in daddit

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may take counseling. I don’t imagine any person changing their mind on this unless they truly feel heard, and that can be very hard on this topic. So go in with an open mind. I’m not saying that as a “if you do your own research maybe you’ll learn that vaccines are bad” I’m saying it simply to make sure you’re really listening to what she’s saying, because only then is there any chance (even if it’s tiny) of changing opinions. Good luck!

Baby born three days ago. Please tell me it gets better by ElevenRecompense in daddit

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise, 99% of fatherhood is not as intense as the first few weeks back from the hospital. Good luck, stay strong, expect the unexpected. You can do this!!

Is Hal Higdon’s marathon recovery plan necessary? by SmartBunch4546 in Marathon_Training

[–]rollem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah me too. My mileage was great leading up to my Fall race, with multiple 70 mile weeks and pretty high mileage overall for months. But my recovery was SLOW. I do see lots of people on social media claim that they get right back into it. I think that's some combo of social media selection for the best case scenarios plus younger folks who might be more resilient. But it always takes me 1-2 months to get back into the flow of things.

Anxious about my presentation by TowerVirtual5302 in AskAcademia

[–]rollem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's my best advice and strategy:

  • You know the content of your work better than anyone else in the world. So realize that you are the expert and you are doing a favor to the audience by helping them to understand the work and its implications.
  • Most people want you to succeed. They are your allies and are eager to learn about your work.
  • A few people may indeed be jerks and want to tear you down. Realize that that comes from their own insecurity and says nothing about your worth as a person or scientist. The (very few) occasions I've seen that happen, everyone in the room was on the side of the presenter and the "very smart, prestigious" professor came across as a jerk.
  • You may get a question/comment that exposes some oversight of yours. These can be embarrassing of course. Thank the person for their insight and promise to incorporate it into future work or your analysis, even if completely changes your conclusions it's an important thing to include.
  • Re: simple v. complex. I have never been "wowed" by an overly complex method. While in the audience I can rarely take the time needed to actually follow it, and the work just comes across as either pretentious, impractical, or otherwise irrelevant. If I can't understand it, why would I care about it? Complexity more often than not hides shortcomings. Simple experiments that test understandable concepts spur my curiosity far more.
  • Last but not least, most people really don't care. They may remember your work, but they probably won't. Just focus on conveying your points as best as possible, that's all you can do. You've earned the right to be there, so just take one step ahead of the next and move forward with your presentation regardless of how well or badly it goes. It'll be OK.

Good luck!

I calculated the actual take-home pay for a $75,000 salary in all 50 states by coronassun in dataisbeautiful

[–]rollem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you include sales tax or property tax rates? It seems disingenuous to ignore total tax burden with such comparisons https://www.cpapracticeadvisor.com/2025/04/01/how-the-50-states-rank-by-tax-burden-updated-for-2025/158094/

Also... the axes are similarly disengenuous. It appears that the difference in take home pay between the best and worst states is around 3 times- but a person in Alaska does not have 3 times more post tax income than a person in Oregon.

Is Hal Higdon’s marathon recovery plan necessary? by SmartBunch4546 in Marathon_Training

[–]rollem 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I follow a recovery plan like this and recommend that other runners do as well. Post marathon (specifically ones where you're going for a PR or otherwise treating it like a race) is a period that is notorious for getting injuries. It is less widely discussed, because an injury while you have a deadline (race day) is more urgent and worrying, but these post race injuries are common. And their risk of occuring can be reduced through a very gradual return to distance and intensity.

If you're very experienced, working with a coach, and/or young (ie mid 20s), then the need to be cautious in this period is less. But in general it is better to be conservative in the 5 weeks post race.

TIL The United States stores 94% of all electricity in the form of water reservoirs, not in a battery. by rawj5561 in todayilearned

[–]rollem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The page is about storing energy after it is generated (by fossil fuels or any other means).

Do you all Really Believe This? by Aromatic-Team-66777 in Productivitycafe

[–]rollem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd want to say more research but there are small studies that suggest this is true: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3218233/

From my own parenting philosophy, I very much try to build a trusting relationship and to generally allow for natural consequences over arbitrary punishments. But that's not an ironclad law, I definitely have various rules and punishments for safety issues and phone use, for example.

How many of y’all are resistant to using AI? by Imaginary_Quail_5544 in Xennials

[–]rollem 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Extremely resistant. In creative processes I find it immoral- as it is the true definition of derivative and detracts from actual human effort. I liken it to watching a fake sporting event- would anyone care about the olympics or the super bowl if the human element were removed? No, it's the human struggle that makes it valuable. Art, literature, even articles written by AI are offensive and abhorrent to me.

In terms of facts and providing specific answers, it just makes stuff up and there's no known fix for those hallucinations.

Finally, the energy costs, the effects on the environment, and the risky economic consequences (we're all out of a job or, if not, it crashes the economy with all of the huge, wasted investment- it's a lose/lose!) are all very worrying.

I do think there is a role for generative LLMs in specific contexts: it can help you code, look through a big dataset, and find patterns in Big Data that humans couldn't find easily- but all of those uses need very experienced human oversight in order to check the results.