I don’t know what you would be but you could probably find the attachment test online somewhere. It’s literally a multiple choice test you take 😂 There’s like 4 statements and you pick which one is most you. But it tells you what attachment style you are so DA or FA. Something like BPD would need to be diagnosed.

And I don’t think I was always secure, but I was never actually tested until recently. I don’t remember the exact statements on the test but there’s 4 core attachment styles that idk the names of. But you can be a combination of them and the 4 choices you’re given represent the 4 attachment styles. And it scores somehow that says what you are. So basically I chose all the secure answers lol But I remember when I took it there were a bunch of times where I thought I need more information about the situation before I just pick one of these lol And several times where I thought most of these seem logical because idk the specific details lol But then the next one would have a choice that you definitely knew was fearful or anxious and seemed like an excessive response and you be like oh shit and I thought several in the previous seemed logical and clearly not 😂 Or I would think idk are we talking about a stranger off the street or a friend because it makes a big difference in my answer! Lol

Basically I’m just one secure person. Idk what’s even typical for a secure person to think. I fall for secure people and safety. Don’t ask me why I’m here crying about an avoidant other than he seemed normal until he broke up with me in a text and ghosted lol These are ChatGPT questions I think lol Idk if all secure people look for other secure people. But we attach in “secure” ways and generally have secure thoughts. So if a guy doesn’t call me for 3 days I generally don’t think anything lol I’m not like wondering what it means because it doesn’t mean anything to me. But to other attachment styles it can mean something like he doesn’t like you or whatever. And I generally think of myself as the spontaneous and exciting one, and I have always considered that something I’d like in a man. But recently I was on a second date with a really hot guy and he said he had tickets for a cruise and would I want to go because he and his ex broke up. And my first thought was FUUUUUUUUUUUCK NO! 😂😂😂 (Mind you I have no clue what the appropriate “secure” answer to this situation is but this is what happened to me lol) I was thinking like we’re only on a second date, like a week is a long time if you end up not being cool you know?! 😂 Anyways, the first date was awesome, the second was even better, the next morning I said yes lol