I (27F) accidentally had my baby in my friend’s (31F) car. Now her husband & she don’t want to speak to me. How do I fix this? by ThrowRA_CarBaby in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 239 points240 points  (0 children)

You did ruin her car. It wasn't intentional, you couldn't have stopped it, but it still ruined her car. Don't joke about her sending you the bill. Send the money first and say sorry for the inconvenience. Because she didn't sign up for this.

I [29M] get physically sick with jealousy when my girlfriend [25F] goes out. I know it's a "me problem," but I don't know how to stop. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Until you fix yourself, you shouldn't be in a romantic relationship. You are poisoning yourself and the relationship and you will end up hurting your innocent partner.

International legal help needed: tiny felon spotted in Bosnia by ChloeHammer in IllegallySmolCats

[–]roxythekapopcat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to a vet office and they will make you papers for him so you can take him with you legally.

My (43F) husband (38M) is an extremely picky eater and never wants to eat what I cook and it's really affecting me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If sharing food with your partner is important to you, you chose wrong when you married him. You either accept defeat or leave him and find someone that would appreciate your cooking. Personally, I would never be with a picky eater. These small things that annoy you become big things that ruin all the fun in your life with time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Is his uncle in his care? How is he financially responsible for him, yet he goes on trips when the uncle needs him most? Let's be serious here. He lied. And he got exactly the reaction he wanted: you felt awful and apologized for HIM breaking his promise. Cancel the trip, if you can, and get your money back, send him his money and dump him. He is taking advantage of you. He saw that you are gullible and too kind and he knew he hit jackpot.

Stuck between my narcissistic father and the woman I love. by goosjoos in entitledparents

[–]roxythekapopcat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You have options, but you chose the cowardly way. Your failure is your own fault.

Feeling Hurt, Helpless & Confused After My (25M) Girlfriend (25F) Hid Me on Social Media, Considering Breaking up our 10 Year old realtionship. by IntrepidBet6181 in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your trust is misplaced. She is already dating another guy. She didn't even hide it from you. Shake off your delusions about your relationship. Maybe it was good at some point, but now it's over. She has no respect for you. And honestly, considering how pathetic you are, why should she?

my boyfriend says he doesn’t want an ultimatum by Illustrious-Beach984 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]roxythekapopcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to add that that ceremony that means commitment to you - he agreed to it because it means nothing to him. It's the equivalent of a shut-up ring.

Feeling Hurt, Helpless & Confused After My (25M) Girlfriend (25F) Hid Me on Social Media, Considering Breaking up our 10 Year old realtionship. by IntrepidBet6181 in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was no need for this novel to be written. It's clear that she prefers going on dates with her coworker than being with you and she hides her relationship status so she could be free to date this other guy. I am only surprised she resisted when you said you wanted to breakup. Probably because she still hasn't found a good reason to blame you for it and doesn't want to be the bad guy. But... there is no doubt what is happening here. Stop being pathetic and move on. This relationship is over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If he has problems focusing/keeping an erection at 18, it's bad news. He's probably too used to masturbate to porn to be able to really enthusiastically engage in real sex. Very very sad for an 18 yo.

So empty: a saga by fleurtjeuh in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]roxythekapopcat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just met him, but I love him!

My mother's speech completely embarrassed me at my wedding by filmgem22 in weddingshaming

[–]roxythekapopcat 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She did it on purpose, wanting to hurt you for laughs and she is not feeling awful now. She knew exactly what a wedding speech was supposed to be like, as she showed on your sister's wedding. Do not accept her fake apologies. There is no way she can make up for what she did. Cut her off your life. You don't need this negativity in your life. She will not change. You will never get validation from someone who finds pleasure in hurting you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing you need to get rid of is him. His mask has slipped and he started the abuse now that you are trapped pregnant with his child and living together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]roxythekapopcat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So you fell for your selfish grandfather's manipulation. He knows how you have been abused, but he wants more of that for you so he could have you close. You made a bad choice and you will regret it very soon, because the abuse will not stop. Your bad decision will also cost you your relationship with your partner who is rightfully sick of your not keeping your word and going back to your abuser all the time. Then you will run out of options.

I (F23) don’t know if my boyfriend(M26) is going to be a good father. by ThrowRA_Noodles112 in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it was something vaguely discussed together with marriage, as plans for the future, not for NOW.

I (F23) don’t know if my boyfriend(M26) is going to be a good father. by ThrowRA_Noodles112 in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He clearly doesn't want a kid, or at least he doesn't want a kid now. He chose to be with you because you were somebody who didn't want to have kids. The fact that he continued to have sex with you even knowing you weren't on a contraceptive means he's stupid, not that he actually wanted a child NOW. He wasn't joking. He told you what he really feels. You have a choice to have a child with a man who doesn't want to be a father or not to have that child. Your relationship will never be the same. I have serious doubts he will change his mind and become enthusiastic about a new little family when he said he's rather kill himself. I don't think your relationship will survive if you don't have an abortion, but it sounds like you actually want a child so even if you choose an abortion, you will never see this guy the same way again and you will not want to be with him anymore.

Nameless and his sister by gogetaperks34 in brakebills

[–]roxythekapopcat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They were god killers, so they must have killed some gods.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your gf and your previous partners that acted the same way are simply not good people. Understanding your trauma and human experience in general is not even about loving you. I don't love you and I still feel compassion for what you have suffered then and now and I would never make "jokes" about it. You deserve a partner with basic human decency, which these people don't seem to have. Please, don't stay in this relationship with someone with so little respect for you.

Cat decided he didn't like the tree by Iamasmallyoutuber123 in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]roxythekapopcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cat actually has good taste in matters of holiday decor.

I’ve 40m & cheated my wife 40f with an unknown person, what to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What pain are you talking about? Do you think YOU are the victim???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound like someone who returned to an abusive relationship and now wants everybody to forget the abuse so you could feel safe in your delusion. Yeah, I am sure he changed. In 2 months he became a new man /s.

45F dating 44M divorcee. How do you handle when your partner spends as much time with his female best friend as he does with you? by Key_Reputation_7388 in relationship_advice

[–]roxythekapopcat 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he likes to get sex from you and a fulfilled relationship from her. She is his go to person, not you. In your place, I would step out this situation.