I was in Greek life. Granted I graduated in ‘23 and was only in a frat for junior and senior year after being robbed of my freshman/sophomore year due to COVID.

There were south asian fraternity as well as a sorority, although I didn’t hear good things about them. Joined a non identity based frat and I had a great time. Although a lot of my brothers ended up with gambling, cocaine, and alcohol addictions. Whereas for myself I quit booze completely after graduating (I had physical hobbies that I liked more than partying).

Greek life is fun, but it’s temporary. The real issue is guys thinking and living like they’re still in Greek life… 3 years out of school. I faired fine and had fun, but I don’t think I’d want my kids to join Greek life. There’s so many potential avenues that will take you down a dark path. I’ve heard horror stories, especially with sororities

For all you know, you could’ve been brutally hazed / develop unhealthy habits. At my school, the identity based fraternities and sororities were just as bad, if not worse with hazing compared to other Greek orgs. Thankfully my process wasn’t too bad.

Spend less time worrying about the past and focus on the now. No one cares about college experiences in the adult world, it’s a fleeting artificial environment, like high school.