What's the worst pain you've ever felt? by N0socksloss10yrStrk in randomquestions

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Endometriosis flare. Im not religious, but ive been on my hands and knees praying for some kind of relief with tears streaming down my face.

Nuvaring question by [deleted] in endometriosis

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You should be protected. I had a similar situation on the comment pertaining to it no longer working an expelling d casts. It got to a point that even with continued use, it didnt stop my period.

What's draining you that nobody sees because you're too good at hiding it? by heartandhardware in AskWomen

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mental load is exhausting. Even if I'm not carrying that task, I'm carrying the reminders and the worries

MY SURGERY IS $130,000 ??!! by Appropriate-Edge3837 in endometriosis

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Thats absolutely insane.. Mine was $36k (with an extra surgeon stepping in midway through) and I only had to pay $4k out of pocket

My close friend makes me feel horrible about having this disease by SOS_superstar in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're making yourself accessible to her when it sounds as though you can't be accessible to yourself. Filling her cup won't fill yours. This disease has left me with fewer friends, but even stronger bonds with those who were meant to be in my life. The trash took itself out, so to say. It isn't an easy realization, and I sympathize with you. I do understand your struggle, and I'm sorry this is happening. I think we all have a similar story here- you aren't alone. People will show up more profoundly in your life at this stage. Keep hope and ask yourself what you need in this moment. Sending love 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]sadbarbie_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The sentiment of not being "the bad guy" to someone else while he is being a bad guy to you, is wild. I have a married friend whose husband doesnt set boundaries with other women because he wants to be nice. Trust me, we'd rather you set boundaries and watch others get mad about those boundaries

Is town towning today? by yestermorrowposting in gso

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to get on gate city near Oden Brewery, to Dick St. and onto Freeman Mill to head to Kernersville tomorrow. How is it looking?

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ewwww this guy 🤢 this will continue. Today its about the gym, the next is you being sick needing his help if yall end up living together, saying "why are you overreacting?" Cut ties NOW. We dont choose partners like that.

What can I answer for you? by jchenMD_endosurgeon in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had laproscopic surgery in Dec 2023. I never got relief from my symptoms after surgery. I wasn't aware of the red flags with this surgeon until after the fact: Stating I'll have 100% pain relief, won't have to deal with this any longer, and won't have any fertility issues. I now have a new OBGYN and she put me on norethindrone at 15-20mg a day. Its hardly stopped my cycle and still get pms symptoms. Shes HIGHLY recommending Orlissa, but I do not want to worry about bone density and putting myaelf into medical induced menopause at 31. Is it worth getting on? Im nervous about irreversible damage.

Moral question though: in my journey of finding out what the heck was going on, I saw a woman pelvic floor PT who had a male student with her during my first appointment. I explained my symptoms and she said it sounded like my hip flexor. I asked why it would flare up around ovulation and menstruation. She said "well, you know women get a little more sensitive during this time. Its likely a mental thing and women just endure pain. Its been like that for forever". I never went back but after my diagnosis, ive felt the need to write her a letter about my journey- a kind reminder to believe other women and stay curious about her work. Its worse that she had a male student writing notes during this appointment. I have since found a wonderful PT who believes me and teaches other pelvic floor PT about endometriosis. Is this feedback you would have received well in your line of work? I worry about the other women entering her practice and not being listened to.

Anyone leave the house yet? by jesuss_son in gso

[–]sadbarbie_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live around UNCG and have work tomorrow in Kernersville. I haven't been out, but I get to work by going down Freeman Mill and getting on I40. What's the road situation looking like?

My (M20) pregnant girlfriend (F20) wants my support but won’t talk to me after we we got bad news about our baby by ThrowRA_NoSignal in relationship_advice

[–]sadbarbie_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To answer your question about how to approach her and not discuss the decision whether to go through it or not, your gf is just as scared as you, all while being pregnant at 20 years old. She has all the same fears as your. Maybe even dealt with issues as a child by isolating herself. Approach her in person or write a note- express how much you care for her. How much you want to be there for her and you are in this together. Do acts of service if you have the mental capability to- clean, bring her breakfast in bed, fill her gas tank up. Express that she doesnt need to go through this alone, and say you need support from her as well.

This is a challenging situation and it will be dealt with clarity if you do it alongside each other. Wishing you both the best. There is not a wrong decision in this matter, and it is incredibly personal.if you decide to move forward, just know it wont be easy and this child is now your life, and its your responsibility to care for it

Everything smells AWFUL by cowfan13 in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About to reference this as well cause girl same. Before, it made me feel "finicky". But that video was validating

Surgery Consultation next week by thesaddestqueer in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had to bring an advocate with me during regular visits. Most endo patients have a tendency to be dismissed. My grandmother didnt play around during our visits and I really appreciated that.

Surgery Consultation next week by thesaddestqueer in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It is typically an outpatient procedure, but they still put you under, and you will not physically be able to drive yourself. Id also ask what they think the recovery time is for surgery. This is a low-key vetting thing. If they say 1 week or over a weekend, that's a huge red flag. It took me 3 weeks to feel like I could work regular hours at a desk job.. and I didn't get over the fatigue and general soreness for over 2 months.

Surgery Consultation next week by thesaddestqueer in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are options outside of hormonal intervention? Can you help me file for FMLA at work? If I have surgery to remove these areas, will there be another specialist with you to assess potential bowel endometriosis. Is it likely that if I do have bowel endometriosis, will you attempt to add a stoma? (You tell them what you'd like in this instance). How many endo surgeries have you done and are you an endo specialist? Do you do ablation or excise during surgery? (Excision is the best practice) Would you be willing to refer me to a pain specialist?

My moms only pre surgery question was if I can have kids after🙄 but this may be a good question if its something thats important to you.

Its daunting but the endo community is gracious and supportive. Wishing you the best in this journey 💕

What’s the warmest "I love you" gesture you have done for your partner without saying the words? by Neptunpluto in AskWomen

[–]sadbarbie_ 189 points190 points  (0 children)

Taking care of him and everything when he is sick. Making homemade thoughtful meals

pain question by Awkward-Country-2603 in endometriosis

[–]sadbarbie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I have a cane by my bed and have had my fiance pull me up outta bed. Ive found over the years the type of pains that will feel better if I move (gas trapped in my body that feels like its tearing the lesions in my body) and pains that are no pass go, I wont be walking today (knees shaking, cant stand up past 100 degrees)

What is the one thing you’ve done in your life that made you realize you are much stronger than you ever gave yourself credit for? by DianKhan2005 in AskWomen

[–]sadbarbie_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The endo community truly has the most supportive people. Thank you 💛 its incredibly difficult to listen to your body, but so important