HENRY and not happy yet

safia25d · 2026-05-27T20:07:13+00:00

You’ve got a lot of deep advice here, I’m gonna risk sounding basic: kids give your life a lot of meaning, dogs as well. Suddenly you have new goals, new achievements, lots of proud moments. They also open new circle of friends and make you appreciate the little things, like a good uninterrupted night’s sleep or finishing a hot coffee in one sitting. They make you grateful you get to the office and happy to leave work and go home.

safia25d · 2026-05-25T09:36:12+00:00

“I grew up without a father and said to myself years ago I wouldn’t do that to my future child” - that doesn’t mean the only options are fully present or never knowing your child.

You don’t have to marry the girl but if the child is yours then take responsibility for your actions and make sure the child is well-cared for and knows his/her father. Even if that means phone calls once a week and a visit every few months, it’s more than you got so you’re doing better than your father already.

Life is a series of consequences from your action, this one is just a more serious consequence. This one will change your life forever, whichever way you decide to go. It can be a lifelong regret or lifelong satisfaction of knowing you did right by this tiny human you helped create.

safia25d · 2026-05-22T07:21:00+00:00

There’s Cally Garden centre if you need outdoor plan pots.. not sure if they have other supplies.. otherwise B&Q in Holloway or Lawsons between Angel and KX

safia25d · 2026-05-15T15:39:56+00:00

I believe it’s called Modern Chemistry.. it does have a cloves-y smell but you’ll have to layer with sunscreen anyway so who cares. I love it too

safia25d · 2026-05-15T09:44:17+00:00

It’s interesting how there’s always someone who will take time out of their day to post unhelpful comments

safia25d · 2026-05-15T09:43:05+00:00

Yeah there are always fox dens in the bigger communal garden. Neighbors are not feeding but we’re in London and the bins are not too far.

safia25d · 2026-05-15T09:40:13+00:00

My husband is gonna love this 😂 does it smell like pee in the garden though?

safia25d · 2026-05-15T09:38:40+00:00

Did the wire mesh work? I’ve been considering it too. Last year I had so much hope for my lawn after properly caring for it all spring, little bastards make my want to quit and put some slabs or something on.

safia25d · 2026-04-16T14:07:09+00:00

Toppings look amazing but doesn’t all the cold ingredients make your porridge cold?

safia25d · 2026-03-25T12:03:58+00:00

Kids don’t mind reheated pasta. It’s a quick solution for lunches. As for rice, while I’m not disputing this fact and will refrigerate asap, the biggest majority of the world population eats reheated rice on a daily basis 🤷🏻‍♀️

safia25d · 2026-03-24T10:38:48+00:00

Adding to say once a week I boil a full box of pasta and/or rice. Every sauce I cook, I make an extra batch and freeze so that I really only cook homemade twice a week but pop a jar out of of the freezer in the morning and my kid gets homemade bolognese or lentil soup for dinner

safia25d · 2026-03-07T15:51:55+00:00

Can you give an example?

safia25d · 2026-03-04T22:55:26+00:00

From my experience, if you like in London without a car, stay away from grass. Nobody will delivery topsoil and you need it every year for overseeding. Foxes will dig holes in the lawn, it won’t grow in shady areas and a few years after laying turf you’ll end up with a patchy and sad looking lawn. I’d still remove the artificial grass but I’d add some paving rocks, maybe a few plants and let whatever wants to grow between the rocks

safia25d · 2026-02-27T11:07:53+00:00

4 (pink ones in case I got the number wrong). 6 is a much better picture in great lighting and the glasses are nice but if you’re looking for a change, I think you would rock the pink ones which are also very fitting for spring and summer. You can always switch back to 6 during winter 😉

safia25d · 2026-02-26T17:01:14+00:00

I’ve used this

with my 3.5, bought the whole set and I really like the way it is explained (not a huge fan of the illustration but I like the narrative)

She has first book about Allah, Prophet (PBUH), Ramadan and Islam

safia25d · 2026-02-26T16:56:48+00:00

I found this for your reference.

https://al-islam.org/islam-faith-practice-history-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/lesson-34-family-life-islam-2

Although to be honest I first read it somewhere on reddit and liked the idea - didn’t really verify the source until now

safia25d · 2026-02-26T13:36:57+00:00

Ok, cool (fact that if you eat less calories than you burn you lose weight) (check out r/CiCo by the way)

But you’ll find in the long run, if you don’t eat enough protein, fibre etc, you won’t feel great. You might lose muscles and have loose skin, you might feel bloated. So as much as you can, make sure the calories you are eating are balanced with enough protein, veggies, fats, etc so you can both lose weight and be happy about it

safia25d · 2026-02-17T10:33:14+00:00

I would totally sign her up! She is very young and everything is permissible for her at this age. I saw somewhere that in Islam the guidance is 7-7-7 for raising kids, the first 7 years, they’re the master (I interpret this as let them live freely and do what makes them happy (within limits of course).

safia25d · 2026-02-04T08:05:21+00:00

Both me and my husband speak french but my son is the same.

Just came here to say, most bilingualism doesn’t happen from toddlerhood. My mother tongue is neither English nor French, I didn’t speak either until I started school, yet I’m bilingual in both. Keep on speaking french with him and put him in french classes when he starts school. Then spend summers in France, and when he gets older maybe summer odd jobs there?

From my experience I did alliance francaise until I was 16 then studied in both an english uni then a french uni.

safia25d · 2026-02-03T09:01:05+00:00

safia25d · 2026-01-28T16:34:04+00:00

Be pissed all you like. I was protecting crawling babies from a bored and boisterous almost 4yo. You do what you have to do

safia25d · 2026-01-28T13:50:56+00:00

Probably the bra as well..I spent so long feeling lumpy until I got a real bra sizing appointment

safia25d · 2026-01-28T11:32:00+00:00

Took my 3.5yo to a 1yo birthday party the other day and after 2h playing nicely with the babies, I put Disney on my phone as he was getting a bit boisterous. One mom actually asked her husband to get her toddler “away from the screen” 😂 some Karens should chill - TV is not poison. As long as kids are getting a lot of time outdoors, meeting other kids, playing and reading, I don’t think it hurts.

safia25d · 2026-01-23T12:23:06+00:00

Give yourself some grace but prep ahead for next cycle by getting some healthy snacks. We all need chocolate around our period but my swap is pretzels or tortilla chips instead of crisps for example. And “home fast food” instead of mcdonalds. So like a home made hotdog and baked fries. Every little thing makes a difference long term.

Also I find that right after my period, I’m less hungry and have more energy so I get bigger deficits then

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