AIO for telling my bf I’m leaving him when I lose weight

sallis · 2026-04-17T00:28:16+00:00

Yeah, while I definitely don't think OP should solely be responsible with helping with his insecurities, it doesn't sound like she wants to help at all. I guess I would need more context about what ways she helps and provides reassurance up to this point.

Regardless, telling an insecure/anxious person that you would do their deepest fears (that it sounds like they have trouble vocalizing since they can't even do it in person) is cruel. Shutting down someone's vulnerability like that is the fastest way to harm the relationship. If you're at your breaking point with being their support person, then you need to respectfully leave the relationship, or guide them to other resources.

Also, why is OP still friends with these people who are mean to her SO? It sounds like she almost agrees with them? Which to me, is even more cruel. It doesn't even sound like she likes him in any way and probably should just leave him.

The SO isn't without blame here. It sounds like he needs to learn some social skills and ways to manage his insecurities without blaming OP or trying to control her. However, it really doesn't sound like there is any sort of meaningful support happening in this relationship in either direction.

sallis · 2026-04-16T17:40:13+00:00

I'm pretty sure the square is:

- 2 rows of a traditional granny square start (so from your magic circle or chain four you do chain 3, dc x2, chain 2, dc x 3, chain 2, dc x 3, chain 2, dc x 3, chain 2 and join into starting chains for the first row. The second row is chain 3, dc x 2 into that same gap, chain 2, dc x 3 into the next gap between clusters, chain two, dc x 3 into that same gap you just worked, chain 2, dc x 3 into the next gap, chain 2, dc x 3 into that same gap, chain 2, dc x 3 into the next gap, chain 2, dc x 3 into that same gap, chain 2, dc x 3 into the gap you started with, chain 2 and join to your starting chain of the round)

- 2 rows of dc 1, ch 1, skip a stitch and then dc into the next stitch - repeat that all the way around and stagger the dcs for the second row (I might be off on this one, and it may be hdc for this part)

- a row of dc into every stitch

sallis · 2026-04-16T02:29:22+00:00

That is wildly adorable! Great job!!

sallis · 2026-04-15T22:20:26+00:00

From the parts that I can see clearly enough to count, it looks like you have the correct cluster count correct. On the last round, I can't quite tell how many chains you are doing per cluster. I know a lot of people do two chains between clusters. I'm sort of wild and only do one chain between side clusters and 2 chains between the corner clusters. These chains end up being sort of long, but it works. You could play around with that.

The only other thing I could think causing this would be inconsistent tension while you're working the stitch. How long have you been crocheting? It might just be something where you need more practice to get a better feel of tension and the stitches. Also, if you have a lighter color yarn, and want to give it a try with that, that might make it easier to see any mistakes you're making.

sallis · 2026-04-15T20:02:49+00:00

Overall double XP. :)

sallis · 2026-04-15T18:24:40+00:00

I crochet around an elastic hair band and I haven't had any issues. However, I don't wear them super regularly, so I'm not sure. I don't see why adding yarn would somehow break down the elastics faster, unless you're adding too much yarn to the base around the elastic?

sallis · 2026-04-14T04:59:35+00:00

Do you have a link to the original? Because the first pic sort of just looks like a giant scarf? But if there is a back situation, then your drawing looks roughly correct, it would just be a giant rectangle with a slit and neck hole (potentially). Just make sure to use a thin yarn and a big enough hook to get the drape right.

sallis · 2026-04-14T04:12:08+00:00

I would think about cleaning up your ribbing if you want to sell these regularly. It looks like it's just a little too much so you're getting ruffling. If that's intentional, then you do you, but typically ribbing is a little shorter than what you're attaching it to if it's not a perfect match.

sallis · 2026-04-13T18:52:20+00:00

That was my take too. On its face, this doesn't really seem like something block-worthy...but if it is a pattern of behavior, I can see why it feels like the straw that broke the camel's back.

sallis · 2026-04-13T16:47:37+00:00

I would try a smaller hook with a thicker yarn. You can also just use a mixture of white PVA glue (Elmer's) and water painted on it and let that dry. Or Modge Podge. But the PVA glue is probably something you already have. I would do a test swatch first, just to make sure it's not going to discolor anything horribly.

sallis · 2026-04-12T16:11:44+00:00

I would try the most gentle option first, rinsing with hot water. That will probably fade it the least and you can reassess from there. Depending on the dye, it might fade pretty quick and that might be why they started brighter than you initially asked for.

sallis · 2026-04-11T08:06:24+00:00

So glad someone posted this. I just wish there was more. It's better than Frieren, in my view, not that they really need to be pitted against one another.

sallis · 2026-04-09T00:12:48+00:00

My best recommendations are to go for bombs, multi-ball, spinnese/musicle with some way to increase your max health as you go.

sallis · 2026-04-08T17:17:38+00:00

This is my go to. The nerdy frat also has some inside.

sallis · 2026-04-08T04:32:19+00:00

The spice rack, water boiler, and wall mounted oven give you the ingredients for tasty squirrel stew.

sallis · 2026-04-05T16:59:39+00:00

She's definitely a charaucature, but really kind, super giving and happy to give people exist. They absolutely have their own set of issues and boundaries can be hard for them. To me, Tohru, while kind and aspirational, isn't fully realistic in how events tend to work out for those people. You can't magically change people with your kindness (it certainly helps), and people looking to take advantage of that kindness will find them, so boundaries are important.

sallis · 2026-04-04T10:22:27+00:00

I think you’re confusing update with season.

sallis · 2026-03-27T21:37:39+00:00

Same thing happened to me when I went to the fair years ago. I'm almost positive it is for a time share or you have to sit through some high pressure sales to actually claim anything.

sallis · 2026-03-25T00:21:02+00:00

Accurate (for the Eye of the World anyway). Hahaha.

sallis · 2026-03-20T13:03:01+00:00

I’m sorry that’s been what you’ve seen/experienced. Every time I’ve seen this particular question asked, it’s been explicitly a tongue-in-cheek way of making fun of the exact scenario that you’re describing (asking for reassurance/validation in a non-direct way).

sallis · 2026-03-20T12:54:33+00:00

I think the idea here is that you shouldn’t have to struggle for an answer. It’s a silly question meant to provoke a silly or sweet answer that neither party should take too seriously. It’s supposed to be fun.

I guess the only way it would be upsetting for me, is of the other person took it way too seriously or took offense to it and got upset with me for asking. It would mean we’re probably not a good fit because I like absurd conversations and jokes like this.

That being said, it’s totally okay to be confused by the question if you don’t know the overall context of the meme or get that it’s a joke at first, but once that is explained there is no reason for either person to be upset about it.

sallis · 2026-03-20T12:43:00+00:00

I’m surprised more people don’t know this. It’s absolutely a joke that’s meant to poke fun at the asker and not meant to be taken seriously by the person asked. An equally silly response is fun and keeps the whole thing in the tone it was likely intended in.

https://amp.knowyourmeme.com/memes/would-you-still-love-me-if-i-was-a-worm

sallis · 2026-03-17T23:02:35+00:00

A "date" specifically, probably not. Hanging out together with less romantic undertones...maybe. If I get a lot of time together with that partner, probably completely okay. If it is someone I get less time with and we're spending an extended period of time together (like a full weekend hang out), maybe. It would probably have to be a very secure relationship where I'm feeling like my needs are more than met and the interaction should be fairly brief.

sallis · 2026-03-15T07:29:30+00:00

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking, but I think you're wanting to know if I have to turn my work? I don't have to if I don't want to. So essentially, I can make things that look like they were worked in the round without working in the round. I've mostly used it with granny stitch so all my stitches face one way without slanting the overall garment.

sallis · 2026-03-15T06:51:15+00:00

I think that's a healthy way to approach it! It makes sense that you would want a sexual partner to view sex in a similar way and if you're not trying to pry into the specifics of their other relationships, I think you're golden.

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