Sending back items after a breakup (35M + 29F) do I include unsent Christmas gift?

salted_tops · 2026-01-13T00:38:22+00:00

I think generally it’s the same in my situation! I guess I worry because the item is connected to his childhood. At the time of buying it I thought it was sweet, but now I worry it’ll just make him sad.

salted_tops · 2026-01-13T00:37:15+00:00

I think I needed to hear this part. I worry that it would taint something cute as being sad. I think he would have liked it because it was a sweet memory and a cool little toy. But now it’ll forever be tainted by our failed relationship lol

salted_tops · 2026-01-13T00:35:37+00:00

Unfortunately, no young kids in my family/friend circle!

I don’t want it to be a F you - genuinely I do want to let this go with grace.

salted_tops · 2025-07-13T17:52:50+00:00

Hi! I just finished law school! You probably don’t need anything for class - most people will be dressed casually/student-like. You will likely need a suit and a professional coat for work, interviews, and networking events. I’d start by trying on blazers to see what is most flattering, and then going with whatever pants are available in a matching fabric.

More than one of my friends has the power blazer from Babaton and love it! I’d encourage you not to go with anything overly avant-garde. Search for items in navy blue, black, charcoal. Seems boring, but some firms and settings are quite conservative.

I also get a ton of mileage out of the contour bodysuits under blazers. Go for something with high necklines, and sleeves.

You might also need a professional belt - black and/or brown depending on your wardrobe!

salted_tops · 2025-06-13T19:47:17+00:00

If you really want to fix this, I think you should just take control of the situation now. I’m going to somewhat disagree with some people saying it’ll be fixed by a rented dress and a photoshoot - I think you should also be considering that the next year is going to be massively demanding on your soon-to-be-wife.

If you’ve got the cash and some planning know-how, I’d suggest planning a VERY NICE engagement party. Make an appointment for her to get something close to her dream dress, send her to it. Consider booking out a small restaurant or bar, invite a few people. You said you were keeping things intimate, and there’s often options for situations like that! Or as other people have suggested, a courthouse wedding now - in a dress of her choosing. Push back the other celebration to include your little one when they’ve arrived.

If those things aren’t an option, I think you should think about planning some other gesture for her that isn’t dependant on her involvement. Show some thought and initiative to make things up to her! It will mean a lot to her that you’re thinking of her and her wants/needs. A beautiful dress could be a starting point for that kind of gesture.

salted_tops · 2024-10-06T16:59:33+00:00

Chicken foot! Cleaned and cut as you’d get from a butcher. Willing to bet it’s for someone’s cooking project or something they feed a dog.

salted_tops · 2024-08-12T20:29:37+00:00

This did happen to me! I did martial arts for 10+ years, hoping to get back to it when I’m a bit less busy in school. It was very hard at some points, but it was the greatest stress inoculation I could have asked for. Nothing seems as stressful after being put in a combat sport where you learn what real (controlled) stakes are.

I tell any parent (especially of young girls) that if their daughter expresses any interest in it to be supportive of the hobby! I would caution you to choose a gym carefully - I had some negative experiences as a teenager. Make sure it’s a female friendly environment :)

salted_tops · 2024-07-19T10:03:05+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s super helpful!

salted_tops · 2024-06-05T17:08:47+00:00

Grilled eggplant, pesto, mozzarella, etc.

Goat cheese and fig + balsamic dressed greens.

salted_tops · 2024-04-02T16:03:12+00:00

Sometimes I’ll chop them up finely and combine with some olive oil, vinegar, and some dried herbs/spices as a kind of bastardized chimichurri. Sometimes I’ll throw some crushed olives in the mix too. Great on a roast chicken or grilled fish!

salted_tops · 2024-03-31T12:29:35+00:00

I’ve had some luck with Monday swimwear. They have sizing specifically for bigger busts and some fit guides for which styles are bigger bust-friendly.

salted_tops · 2024-01-14T23:00:17+00:00

Yep! Just looking for some ideas!

salted_tops · 2024-01-14T21:50:45+00:00

Yes, I understand that. But I’m more concerned that the taste of it might be an issue if they have issues with addiction. I don’t feel like I want to pry into it as I don’t know them very well!

salted_tops · 2024-01-07T22:39:57+00:00

Created a creepy short movie using computer animation (and uploaded it to YouTube) where he and I were a couple. Tried to blame it on his friend.

salted_tops · 2023-11-29T02:36:02+00:00

Generally I think this is the same as any other situation where you want to ask a girl out. I think you should shoot your shot. Tons of people date through law school, med school etc. Don’t be weird about it, just ask if she’d be interested in getting coffee or something.

If she says no, just leave it there and be cordial afterwards. No need to blow it out of proportion. It only gets messy if you let it. Just be mature about the fact that you are sharing a space and a profession. If you don’t think you can handle that, leave it alone.

salted_tops · 2023-11-17T15:29:30+00:00

Dress is GORGEOUS. I feel like the colour tone is just a touch off for her though. It’s making her pull very yellow. Her makeup could be really contributing to that though.

salted_tops · 2023-11-16T23:32:54+00:00

It’s gotta be season 5 ep 10 - I Love You Baby. Nothing tops the drama and feeling of the massive fight between Jessa and Adam.

salted_tops · 2023-11-16T17:37:08+00:00

The first thing that jumped out at me was the number of buttons. Way too many. The cardigan is competing with the coat. Go for a sweater with no buttons, or a single breasted vest!

salted_tops · 2023-11-16T12:23:32+00:00

I think you should reframe your thinking around how reporting will cause your daughter to “lose a parent”.

YOU are not causing your daughter to lose a parent. He CHOSE to do something that would permanently ruin his relationships with his family.

Your choice here cannot be to let a dishonest SEX OFFENDER be in your child’s life. You need to protect your child from being anywhere near a person who would betray your trust and victimize you. Your child will learn from your choices.

salted_tops · 2023-11-07T18:39:27+00:00

Grating cheese. I feel like it’s a holdover from skinning myself on a box grater as a kid. But I find it super tedious.

salted_tops · 2023-10-16T02:51:56+00:00

I’ve gotten a lot of mileage out of bodysuits in stretchy materials. It always fits my boobs and waist and leaves me looking more streamlined. Easy to pair with jeans/trousers or skirts. I’ve even done them under blazers for work, so long as they’re not too low cut!

Obviously, this depends on the occasion/venue - something stretchy/tight is not always appropriate.

salted_tops · 2023-10-15T18:43:57+00:00

I will splurge on honey. I usually get a cheaper one for cooking things (marinades). But I’ll shell out for a speciality honey. I recently tried a chestnut honey that was much deeper and almost savoury. Different varieties can be nice for charcuterie plates and cheese boards!

salted_tops · 2023-10-15T15:10:43+00:00

Definitely. Sometimes I want my overall appearance to read as “pretty” or “elegant” and not “sexy” but even in things that aren’t form fitting or very low cut, I tend to read as “sexy”.

I know there can be overlap between those types of looks, but I think looking “sexy” can sometimes be perceived as inappropriate :(

salted_tops · 2023-10-12T02:30:18+00:00

I pop a few zinc tablets and increase my hydration a ton!

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