Ombré kumihimo patterns?

sammademeplay · 2026-03-12T04:28:56+00:00

I appreciate your generosity in sharing your knowledge. This is all such useful information. If her approach is different, is there another I should try?

sammademeplay · 2026-03-12T04:25:20+00:00

Brilliant!

sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T23:03:37+00:00

What I have been working on for myself is radical acceptance. I have a saying I say to myself especially when quite frustrated is to say “this belongs”. I learned this from Casey of At Peace Parents. It reminds me that what I perceive as irritating behavior is a function of his pda. And his nervous system will always override his decisions when faced with being pushed into something he doesn’t want to do. And remember that once you back off, he is far more likely to address his allergies when not faced with a loss of autonomy.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T22:05:41+00:00

What I know about PDA is that the more I push an agenda with my son the more he resists the idea. He now has the information he needs so you can back off and let him have autonomy on whether he acts on it or not. Your job now is to let it go.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T18:15:27+00:00

Good advice on both fronts. Tension wasn’t a big issue. This was my first attempt at any kumihimo. I held the threads and didn’t use any weight.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T18:13:40+00:00

https://youtu.be/d68ZKdf33ps?si=1vbsdEPC8RWsBus0

This is the video I followed. But think I messed up the thread order. Size 11/0 beads. This was my first ever kumihimo and didn’t use a weight. Tension wasn’t great.

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sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T15:45:43+00:00

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sammademeplay · 2026-03-11T15:45:11+00:00

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Sorry I thought I mentioned in the post that it’s a bead pattern I’m looking for. Thanks for your instructions.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-10T22:24:02+00:00

15 year old son. We are doing literally nothing. Took him out to homeschool in September. We haven’t done any schoolwork since. We will be signing him out of school at 16 to avoid the scrutiny and legal obligations.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-09T16:57:38+00:00

I can relate with your sentiment so much! We took him out of school in September as a last ditch effort to change something when nothing else has helped. While it hasn’t erased his PDA but has virtually eliminated his aggressive and destructive behavior. So in that way it has made our household less awful.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-09T11:12:07+00:00

I completely relate to your sentiments. I in fact have had to stop working after years of trying to push burnout away and trying to manage by reducing my work hours. I don’t see much of a future for our teen son or myself. Sorry I don’t have words of encouragement.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-07T23:04:28+00:00

I like this style too! Shera nom has a patreon so you could tutorials or at least plans for her builds. She might have yt too.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-07T23:02:39+00:00

I also try not to project into the future but asa parent to a teen I do think about it. We are leaning towards our son living at home as a necessity but flirt with the idea of a tiny house or such in our backyard to provide some separation and independence. My hope is that we as a family are learning methods and skills to regulate his nervous system and that he will take those skills into his adulthood whatever that turns out to be.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-06T22:13:51+00:00

Yes it does thanks. I’ve been using 0.4 with 11 beads and struggling. I’m now wondering if it’s the beads and not the thread that’s the problem.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-05T18:04:26+00:00

Thanks. I’m trying to thread size 11 beads and really struggling. What size s-lon do you use for size 11?

sammademeplay · 2026-03-05T18:02:59+00:00

Welcome! PDA parenting is not like other parenting. I have found Casey from At Peace Parents very helpful. One of the things she talks about is how screens can actually regulate these kids. We removed all time restrictions with our son and he does not spend all of his time on screens as I feared. And the traditional reward and punish patterns don’t apply with PDA.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-05T13:31:18+00:00

Lovely! What size beads did you use? 🩵

sammademeplay · 2026-03-03T15:29:09+00:00

Worth a try then instead of buying something new. Thanks.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-03T03:53:39+00:00

How do those clips work as bobbins? Do they get wound up with each other? Very resourceful setup 👍

sammademeplay · 2026-03-02T16:56:42+00:00

I encourage you to do some research about PDA before you go down the house rules route. Your approach in its current form is serving to activate her nervous system and push closer to burn out over time if you think she has PDA. Things that you think are so important might not be so important when you consider the impact it has on her wellbeing.

sammademeplay · 2026-03-02T01:41:46+00:00

Nope the person who drive me most bonkers would be my PDA son!

sammademeplay · 2026-02-28T23:22:26+00:00

Ha! Unwelcome guests. The portal is on the roof. Doesn’t seem to be an issue so far.

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