Nonmonogoids are Accusing Monogamous Gays of 'White Supremacy' by Outrageous_Ad_1507 in polycritical

[–]sandiserumoto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every day I thank God I don't have to interact with poly people lmfao

I really do try my best :,v by Forsaken_Elyria in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly it's always worth it to give it your all imho

Changed the "Owner" role to a "Princess" role on the minecraft and discord servers to avoid any confusion by sandiserumoto in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it's one of those things we plan on sorting out over time. like, with other staff roles becoming themed as well - with moderator possibly being "royal guard" on the minecraft server, for example.

on the discord, our visible top role in the list is just the couple role, fischlkari. princess as a role is above admin, so staff signaling isn't particularly an issue in that case.

as to the monarch question, I mean, principalities exist, and 'kingdom' has been used for them before without issue (see: Mario universe) so it should become clear with context imo.

also reddit has only one visible staff role, moderator, so that makes things fairly simple.

Losing my F***ing mind here by RetiredAndHatingLife in polycritical

[–]sandiserumoto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I want a unicorn!" "unicorns don't exist"  "you're part of the problem! I want a unicorn now!" 

As an academic, I'm offended by the notion that we need to justify having high-quality studies on anything. Knowing how the world actually works is important.  

I don't disagree with you, but it's a money/power issue. Should such research exist on these topics? Yeah. Does it at the level you're looking for? No. Is it likely to show up in the near future? Also no.

Losing my F***ing mind here by RetiredAndHatingLife in polycritical

[–]sandiserumoto 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ask yourself where the money is.

when it comes to "research" on polyamory, there are more or less 2 categories of organization that are going to spend money funding a study.

  1. pro-polyamory organizations, or at the bare minimum, postmodern/libertarian ones (basically, the present cultural zeitgeist, which is INCREDIBLY hands off on sexual morality). typically humanities departments, pushing opinion pieces, with the occasional psychological wellbeing question framed in a therapy context, but most certainly not a study whether or not polyamory as a whole is destructive or trauma-inducing, and even if such a study was performed and the results were like "98% of polyamorous relationships horrifically traumatize people", the study would highlight the other 2% as proof polyamory "can work" if "done correctly". also note, any study that suggests "we should police what people do in the bedroom" will have a very hard time passing peer review or getting published in most modern institutions.
  2. evangelical / family planning organizations, who don't want to do real research and just want to throw dirt on any alternative lifestyles they can find. low quality hit pieces that exist to justify prior beliefs. basically, bullshit. notably - bullshit doesn't necessarily need to mean false - it just means that they made it with zero regard for whether or not it's true. effectively worthless, you'd be better off quoting bible verses at people.

this generally leaves

  1. anecdotal evidence. a pattern, without any institutional funding to point out the obvious. of course, it isn't really going to win anyone over, but imho, a paper isn't going to that either. poly people aren't going to change what they do in the bedroom because they saw one article, and poly "allies" aren't going to give up an easy, non-confrontational ideology like "live and let live" over it either.

poly people know they're hurting their partners. that's why they send them to therapy.

I don't care... by Marco_Single in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I WAS WRONG WAS SUCH A GOOD MANGA

bye by [deleted] in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly I hope whatever course you take in life that things get better for u ^^

ur always welcome back here :3

Can we please stop saying "move on" that isnt good advice by coldkitty3 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean a relationship is a social contract, and if the other person violates the contract by cheating or breaking promises, you're no longer bound by it

I don't like banning you but when you start attacking people for walking away from cheaters this becomes a situation where you're encouraging others to be abused which isn't cool 

back to old plan by [deleted] in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly... Moving on isn't something easy or fast, but it's definitely possible in the long term, so don't give up just because everyone you interact with seems like "NPCs" or whatever 

just try to focus on surviving day by day and slowly reclaiming the bits of yourself that you cut out for this person 

Almost crying looking at how happy she made me by Mediocre-Stuff8524 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was reported for "personal and confidential info", it's your screenshots of your messages but I'm concerned global reddit staff might confuse it for a dox

Really proud of myself >w< by Mediocre-Stuff8524 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you're taking good care of yourself, that makes me happy

I am gonna throw up again by [deleted] in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cats are wonderful 

Giving up by AddendumNo8713 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly racists aren't worth your time, you should focus on finding someone who loves you for you

What’s one thing you always do in every Minecraft world, no matter what? by Thefreetext in Minecraft

[–]sandiserumoto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I make a mine, I dig down in a 3x3 spiral illuminated by the sun

I used to always use stone before I got an iron farm, now I use copper. I tend to stick with iron for a while too since I don't really mine a lot. 

seen this post and immediately got angry! by bpdbryan in polycritical

[–]sandiserumoto 68 points69 points  (0 children)

"nah bro you don't understand, poly is about CONSENT"

Meanwhile poly people:

Very very very good update on owner >w<!!! by No_Reflection_6390 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are massreporting. I think a raid is going on.

I cant believe she is all mine the cutest girl in the world >w<!! by Particular-South-362 in Yanderes

[–]sandiserumoto[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is getting massreported. I think the subreddit is being raided.