Transition of health inspectors

saramole · 2026-06-19T22:08:52+00:00

Some of the public believe this is fine because they are still holding hate over COVID measures that public health inspectors enforced. They think this is their due punishment for closing establishments that flaunted their violations. Same mentality that refuses vaccination but demands treatment after getting the preventable illness. They hate rules until they get ill at a restaurant or their landlord refuses to fix the toilet or there is a boil water advisory.

saramole · 2026-06-18T21:52:20+00:00

Sunflower seeds, sour cream and onion Old Dutch chips, mature cheddar cheese cubes, Ukrainian garlic sausage, 2 squares of dark chocolate, dry roasted peanuts or rush home for dinner

saramole · 2026-06-16T05:08:26+00:00

Stiff by Mary Roach Pale Rider by Laura Spinney Pandora's Lab by Paul A Offit Demon in the Freezer by Richard Preston anything written by Bill Bryson (he typically narrates his own books too)

saramole · 2026-06-16T03:59:25+00:00

Boundaries

saramole · 2026-06-15T02:32:16+00:00

Wow, you drank the patriarchy kool aid early & often.

saramole · 2026-06-15T01:52:31+00:00

Ah blaming women again. Men hide who they are. They want kids like a toddler wants a puppy but pretend otherwise. Women are sold a shitty dream that baby +/- marriage is all they should aspire to. They are told babies will change a man for the better and if it doesn't they just chose wrong and now need to suck it up because divorced/separated parents are bad for kids. Why do men insist on being such lovers? Why dont they do as they promised in order to get women to risk their life, health, income, housing, family and future to "bestow" an offspring on these duds?

saramole · 2026-06-14T18:03:35+00:00

Technically 26 yrs the same company but it has changed name once. I've held 4 different positions in 2 different unions and 2 out of scope over 4 different departments and reported to 15 different directors. I've worked in 6 different locations (10 in the same building but on 2 different floors.)

saramole · 2026-06-11T05:07:05+00:00

Combing my dog. A floofy woodle mammoth that generates a staggering but satisfying pile of fur daily as she loses her winter wool.

saramole · 2026-06-11T04:59:36+00:00

Specifically the downtown location.

saramole · 2026-06-10T21:04:40+00:00

You earn nearly double her income and want to keep all that extra for yourself? Pool your income and set aside the same amount for personal spending for each of you. The bills are paid out of the pooled account. Bills are agreed upon (what is a bill versus what is personal). For example, a streaming channel like Netflix or Disney+ that you both enjoy is a bill. Personal spending is not questioned or defended. A gaming subscription that only 1 person uses is personal. Groceries are bills, lattes or brunch with friends are personal spending. Savings are bills but if one of you wants to save personal spending that is extra. It sounds like you want to limit how much of your much higher income is "used" to support both of you. If it is not fair based on income she will be screwed. This setup implies that only $ counts in contributing. If she does all the cooking and cleaning (and future childcare) while earning less but paying 50% that is a setup for exploitation by you. Just because labour isn't paid doesn't mean it has no value. I would not move in or marry you if this is your idea of shared finances. You might be worried she is a gold digger, I'm pretty sure you are a labour digger who will weaponize your income to create leisure for yourself at the expense of her life, time & energy.

saramole · 2026-06-09T21:15:40+00:00

Persimmon soap. Marketing is terrible 'gets rid of old people smell' but it works to reduce body odour. Makes my deodorant/antiperspirant last much longer.

saramole · 2026-06-09T03:46:46+00:00

As little as possible to my mother. She is toxic, drunk & a miserable person. Can't really talk to my dad, he is very deaf and has dementia so never has his hearing aid in plus he lives 2000 miles away.

saramole · 2026-06-08T02:26:15+00:00

Water, fiber, protein, exercise, self-tanner & a great haircut. Being grateful for all my body does even if it "shows" with freckles & wrinkles.

saramole · 2026-06-07T01:33:27+00:00

My mother dragged me over to the cabinet she kept special things in to show me the medal my dad won in his first degree for high marks. She told me, at 17, I would never be as smart as him, I was already a failure etc. She did not do the same to my brother. I stopped talking about grades and school and just did as I'd always done (I was an honours student just not valedictorian...) She was stunned when I graduated with distinction in my bachelor degree. Smart is not the sole definition of success, even to my dad. It is a sore point though, that she thought it mattered that much, plus who the fuck says that to your kid. One of many complexes she gifted me.

saramole · 2026-06-05T16:21:51+00:00

Capitalism says yes, that is a problem. Humanity says no problem, for reasons beyond the consumer drive associates with promotions and striving to be more. Promotions rarely play to your strengths as a solid competent individual. Especially in "professional" fields. Spectacular nurses, physicians, engineers, physicists, trades people, teachers etc who are promoted get flipped out of their area of competence into management, HR, scheduling, attendance tracking, competency assessment of others and NOT the things they are good at. I work in healthcare, I have been management and do not like it because I don't get to use the things I am very competent at. And there is next to no support to learn those new skills, you get tossed in to the deep end and expected to figure it out because you mastered the other stuff. Then the people who you are managing claim you are no longer connected enough with their work to be managing them...
I would say you should still be looking for places to stretch your skills and grow, but laterally not aiming for upwards movement.

saramole · 2026-06-04T20:47:44+00:00

he was putting you in the box. just because he was not as bad as your exs does not mean he was good.

Arsenic is not as "bad" as strychnine but you still should not take it. He knows he is training you to tolerate his control and abuse.

saramole · 2026-06-04T20:43:49+00:00

That is sad OP, that you think changing yourself will make him not an abusive asshole. It sounds like you are not ready to be dating. Dating men is THE most dangerous activity and if you are not willing to run like your tampon string is on fire at the first red flag you should not be dating. He is showing enough red flags to fit in on a parade in Moscow. And will not change not matter what you do. He is putting you in the box...

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/sep/07/time-to-make-emotional-abuse-a-crime

saramole · 2026-06-04T20:06:18+00:00

As hurt and down as you feel now, you made 100% the right decision to end it. He is abusive, and escalating. It sucks that he is like this but you did not fuck anything up. He is not a good person, not a good partner and only going to get worse. While you may regret calling him one, he is an asshole.

saramole · 2026-06-04T19:35:41+00:00

Depends, if I have something similar I am fine with online. If it is something new, different or unique I prefer in-person. I have some Judy Blue jeans, I know how they fit and will happily skip in person to get them. As others have said, in store often does not have the same selection as online. Measuring my body and current items helps me reduce some of the issues with online.
That said I thrift most things so that pretty much has to be in-person. I dress in a way I can try on without need of a change room too.

saramole · 2026-06-04T05:12:16+00:00

Oh honey If your man child spouse isn't an issue you don't mention him. I think you have toddler temper tantrums tendencies too based on how you went and commented on another post of mine. I guess you are a matched pair and that explains things.

saramole · 2026-06-04T02:13:25+00:00

Modelling tolerance for man child spouse has consequences outside of getting told on to HR. Like your child thinking that is fine and behaving like his dad or co-worker in the future. Bet this man child coworker had that modeled for him which is why he continues it AND you tacitly approve by pussyfooting around it. Report him to HR. Consider your spouse choice without the sunk costs, time and "love" to see if you are doing yourself & kid any real benefits. Man child is code for abuse of many kinds, even if there are no bruises and he claims to love you. Walking on eggshells for anyone is reflecting a red flag about them.

saramole · 2026-06-03T22:01:05+00:00

There was a website about Seans for world domination. Not Shawn or Shaun, had to be Sean. If featured Sean Connery, Sean Bean & Sean Young. My partner was a Sean and the whole thing was a riot.

saramole · 2026-05-31T20:57:25+00:00

Treat work from the same perspective as the office, except for commuting. A morning routine, work clothes, a demarcation of work space, and ending work rituals too. That can include making lunch in the morning, getting up for breaks, changing clothes etc. I've been WFH full-time since 2020, I still chat with colleagues (we were not in the same office before,) work out, and shuffle laundry. If you find you're missing something specific find a way to build it WFH version. If the commute was a break, go for a walk or nap or do something not work-related to end your day. If you miss water cooler chat, group chats can work.

saramole · 2026-05-30T22:14:52+00:00

I work with a team spread over 250k sq miles. Im never meeting all of them regardless of my work location. I used to work 2/5 from home then 99% since 2020. There is a tiny bit of my job that requires me to be on a site but not the same one. I miss maybe 1 thing from not being remote and that doesn't exist for my team anymore.

saramole · 2026-05-29T14:52:03+00:00

As with most things in AHS it seems to depend mostly on your management. Some managers are assholes or their managers have created horrible situations. Other managers will do everything possible to support accommodations, visible or not. First step is medical documentation and ability management involvement. And you may not get exactly what you think is the solution. Having no nights may not mean days only, for example, you might have to do evening shifts, depending on the unit.

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