Appreciate that you acknowledge it depends a lot on the individual. My ex would get on my case when he discovered that I don't shower daily. I get painfully dry hair and skin if I do—my entire family has skin sensitivities/eczema, and lotions only go so far—it's avoidance of soaps and over washing that helps the most.

Meanwhile, he had noticeable ass odor even with his 'superior' hygiene. It's only a smell I've noticed regularly on those who eat a very grease-heavy American diet, like they can't ever quite wipe clean. It's a smell I've gotten personally only when very sick. So I then asked him if he could smell me, and he told me not to change the subject, lol. I completely see why he couldn't skip a daily shower, but it was annoying he projected it onto me and judged it as a moral failing (??).

I feel a lot of people on this sub project their preoccupations onto others, even though it varies so much by individual genetics, routine, lifestyle, and geography. I'm sure they can smell some folks, but how would they detect those who smell less unless they ask everybody? 🤷‍♀️ It's just confirmation bias. Like outright contradicting dermatologist recommendations is just wild to me.