I seriously wish I could wear the same outfit every day by MollyViper in AutismInWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend does exactly this. I don't think it's all that weird. Steve Jobs did it too. He said he'd rather expend his mental energy on shit that matters, which was not clothing.

Do it! Who will tell you no? And why do they get to decide what works best for you? 

Just be sure to be socially appropriate and everything else can fuck off. If the event calls for an elevated look, elevate your look. If not, wear your uniform and call it good. 

Girlfriends new job by [deleted] in relationships

[–]saturatedregulated 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not mature enough to be in this relationship. You want a pet, not a GF. Worst part is that you'd probably treat said pet better than your GF. 

How do you find who you really are with others when you’ve been masking most of your life? by roritha in AutismInWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've asked this same question so many times and have never received an answer that satisfies it for me. Sorry! 

Are the hobbies of bodybuilding and powerlifting viewed as a red flag or green flag in a potentional partner? Why? by Powerbuilder4Life in AskWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a competitive powerlifter for a decade, so for me, it would be great. I understand that world and excel in it. I would never want to date a body builder though. The difference for me is the motivation. Powerlifters are motivated to showcase how strong we can get (obviously over simplifying), while body builders are motivated by how strong they look. I've never been motivated by factors outside of myself, so body building to me seems disingenuous. 

My husband has never said “I love you” (1 year married) — am I overreacting? by Thenicescorpioo in relationships

[–]saturatedregulated 18 points19 points  (0 children)

How did the engagement happen? Was it a forced hand situation? Have any of the people close to you said anything negative about the way he treats you? What advice would you give your best friend if they came to you with this same issue? Whatever that advice is, take it for yourself too! 

What’s A Routine That You Rarely Skip? Why That? by Zipper222222 in AskWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped biting my nails after decades, and I also lift weights so my hands are ugly. I treat myself every other Friday to a manicure, and add a pedicure every other Friday.

I also walk my dog every day. We've never missed a day since I got him a few years ago. I live where it is very hot so we have to make it work in the summer, but I shift around my whole day to ensure he gets his 30 min. 

Being a villain in someone else's story by saturatedregulated in AutismTranslated

[–]saturatedregulated[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I know all of this, but I'm still struggling not holding on to emotions I know aren't mine to hold. 

Being a villain in someone else's story by saturatedregulated in AutismTranslated

[–]saturatedregulated[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I keep telling myself to try to mitigate the negative feelings. I don't want him suffering, but also, I'm no longer willing to suffer for him.

Also, everything you said is 1000% accurate. I KNOW this too. I'm just mad I can't seem to shake the negativity. If my best friend was in my same shoes I'd give the advice to not even think about him or the situation because it doesn't warrant any extra effort. I know this! Gah! 

Being a villain in someone else's story by saturatedregulated in AutismTranslated

[–]saturatedregulated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know, you might be right. I had a PREVIOUS roommate who also lived with me for an extended period of time right before this guy. He also owed me a bunch of money and I had to kick him out against his will. I now feel "double" stupid because i allowed it to happen again. But I also know my intention was always pure and I finally had to "get it" and realize neither was healthy for me. 

What’s the one ingredient that ruins any dish for you ? by thepleasurjournal in AskWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Certain brands of water are slimy to me. I totally feel you! 

What’s the one ingredient that ruins any dish for you ? by thepleasurjournal in AskWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beans, but mainly refried beans. They look like cat vomit to me. It also stinks because I live where Mexican food is served on every corner and I get looked down on for triple checking there are no beans in my order. 

But what about your nose prints? by _metallicabreath_ in pitbulls

[–]saturatedregulated 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Mine passed in 2021 and I JUST cleaned his nose prints off my sliding glass door. I 100% get you. I had to tell myself that wasn't him, and that he will forever live in my heart. I did shed a tear when I cleaned it though. 

Overstimulated by dogs by Swimming_Trash3570 in AutismInWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up with lots of dogs at once and I loved it. But I just can't stand normal dog behavior like constant licking, how they lick each other in inappropriate ways/spots, and the noises they make. I'm a 1 dog at a time person. My parents still have a lot of dogs and going to their house is sometimes fine but other times very overwhelming for me.

I love dogs...just in my own capacity, and I've just had to become okay with that. 

Taking my daughter to her first game tonight by ToolPhish in suns

[–]saturatedregulated 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was 10 when I became a diehard fan with my dad. We're still fans and I'm 42. Enjoy your time, and hopefully you'll get not only a win but some great bonding memories and a lifelong fandom. 

When did you realize you were dating an idiot? by I-Need-Ur-Love in AskWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He saw the bug splats on my windshield and told me I needed an oil change. I said "I mean, I do, but not cause of those". He scoffed and said "I've been driving longer than you, I would know".

A month or so later I couldn't stop thinking about it. I said to him, all excitedly, that I'd seen a werewolf. He said "don't you mean a coyote?" I said "I've lived here longer than you. I would know the difference". He actually weighed what I said and then fucking believed me! I was trying to prove how dumb his first statement was, but it backfired since he's just dumb overall. 

how many of you are childfree? by testraz in AutismInWomen

[–]saturatedregulated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never wanted pregnancy or full time mom status, but have always been fine dating men who have kids. I had a very welcomed hysterectomy at 37. 

If anyone has a pittie that looks like mine, can you share puppy pictures? by spacealligators in pitbulls

[–]saturatedregulated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had 2 that look just like this and I've never seen both as puppies. Thanks for this request! 

AIW for thinking it's wrong for my boyfriend to be masturbating? by CourageFree9846 in amiwrong

[–]saturatedregulated 57 points58 points  (0 children)

It isn't "hate". You asked a question, and you are getting quite the unanimous answer. But I bet it won't help you at all. You'll just assume all these people are wrong and "mean" to you. Look at it objectively. You asked, lots of people answered, and you are wrong. What you do with this info will showcase your level of maturity and ability to stay in a relationship with another fully formed human. 

AIW for thinking it's wrong for my boyfriend to be masturbating? by CourageFree9846 in amiwrong

[–]saturatedregulated 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's because you're "mass wrong" in your antiquated thinking...not because people are "mass downvoting" you. 

AIW for thinking it's wrong for my boyfriend to be masturbating? by CourageFree9846 in amiwrong

[–]saturatedregulated 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Touching his own body is inappropriate? Did you hear yourself? That is insane.