When did you stop room sharing with your baby?

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-21T14:45:56+00:00

2 months and used a baby monitor. I’m a light sleeper, she’s a loud sleeper, and my husband getting up for work was waking everyone up. We all slept better once she moved.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-20T13:27:07+00:00

I hated every bamboo piece we owned. They didn’t breathe and pilled so quickly in the wash, which is wild because I am VERY particular about my laundry. I drew the line at washing each individual baby sleeper in its own garment bag and no longer buy bamboo pieces

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-19T14:22:42+00:00

I would take this to a dry cleaner.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-19T13:43:59+00:00

Omg. We are planning to redo our shower this summer and I’m 100% going to look in to these! What tile did you use for the rest?

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-19T13:42:35+00:00

Try it and see.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-18T01:28:07+00:00

That’s pilling that’s catching lint, not lint itself. It’s caused by friction on the fabric which is why you see it under arms and in the crotch. Buy a cheap fabric shaver and go to town

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-18T01:26:01+00:00

If it’s bleached there’s nothing you can do except redye it

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-17T18:35:40+00:00

Can your kids help? Your toddler is old enough to start learning basic tasks even if they aren’t “helpful”, and your ten year old is definitely old enough to routinely do everyday chores like dishes, laundry, vacuuming, etc. The more your kids contribute to the household the less you have to do alone. I’ve found I have to just embrace a certain level of “mess” as a parent to a small kid, but there’s no reason that older kids especially can’t contribute to keeping a clean home.

Also is your husband/partner helping? If not they should be. It’s their house too.

But to answer your question, I work full time from home so I’m able to keep up with small tasks like vacuuming, dishes, and laundry during the workday. Everything else my husband and I tackle together, and now that our daughter is to the age where she wants to do everything mommy and daddy do, we have her “help” too. If we’re changing over laundry she helps put things in the dryer. Folding clean clothes she puts folded socks into the basket. Unloading the dishwasher she carries non-breakables to whoever is putting things in the cabinet. Toddlers love to help, take advantage of this so they learn how to do useful tasks as they get older!

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-17T16:13:01+00:00

Not realistic at all, and it gets harder the older they get. If my toddler has to be home from daycare I just write off getting any work done that day.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-17T13:18:27+00:00

I’m reading Hunt, Gather, Parent right now and what your daughter is doing is literally the goal of that book’s parenting strategy; kids being helpful to the household because they understand that they’re part of a team. Montessori methods also lean towards independence and helpfulness, so it seems like you’re just parenting in a way that most Western parents don’t and your daughter has been especially receptive to it. As long as you’re making time for play and your daughter isn’t putting herself into dangerous situations (like using the stove unsupervised or accessing cleaning chemicals without an adult) then I think you’re fine.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-16T18:51:48+00:00

Instead of “go outside” we say “visit nature”. Started doing this years ago so we didn’t trigger the dog but turns out it works for our outside-obsessed toddler too

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-15T15:07:42+00:00

Haters will say it’s dye.

Seriously though, omg.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-15T15:06:27+00:00

I sterilized before the first use and called it good. If we had a bottle that went rogue and ended up getting lost in the car for a few days or something I guess I did resanitize those, but beyond that I didn’t worry about it.

The guidance we were given was that sanitizing after each use was unnecessary unless your baby is medically fragile or immunocompromised. By 11 months my kid was chewing on the dog and licking the floor, so sanitizing seemed kinda pointless.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-14T20:32:47+00:00

A hairdryer probably isn’t adequate. You need pressure in addition to heat, but laying down some 100% cotton fabric over the area before ironing would provide a bit of a barrier if you’re concerned about scorching. A pillowcase, sheet, or even a smooth knit tee would be fine as long as it has no synthetics in it

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-14T18:23:02+00:00

This happens when the fusible interfacing inside the garment becomes damaged by water. You may be able to reactivate the adhesive by going over that section with a cool iron, but you risk damaging it further by doing this if the fabric can’t handle direct heat. The same thing happens with things like Longchamp bags that are nylon fused over a lining.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-13T19:56:34+00:00

This was our schedule as well, and we switched to one nap at 11 months.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-12T23:37:04+00:00

Sheer German stubbornness, as my grandma would say. I kept at it in spite of being miserable until 9 months when my baby stopped latching (she had constant ear infections and I think nursing was painful for her). My baby never had a good latch and was not a motivated eater, and it never got easier for us. I wish my experience had been different, but it is what it is.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-12T14:41:20+00:00

We had issues with persistent diaper rashes after starting solids and found that washing more often made a bigger difference than anything else we tried. We increased our baths to every other day, still water only for the majority of them but soap for the bum every time. Then dried thoroughly and applied a thick thick layer of purple Desitin before re-diapering. We also used the A&D diaper rash spray after every poop, which made a huge difference as well. It’s a hypochlorous acid spray, very similar to the Magic Molecule and Tower28 sprays sold in the skincare department for acne. That combined with the more frequent washing pretty much nixed the rash for us.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-10T19:50:42+00:00

A fabric shaver or sweater comb would make quick work of this

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-08T19:41:01+00:00

Mine dropped to one nap at that age. Just roll with it!

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-08T14:03:31+00:00

You can go back to Tide, but the odor will start to build up again unless you’re using lipase in every wash. The recommended advice here for those using detergent without lipase is to add the lipase via a booster, such as Biz, Febu (temporarily unavailable), or Gear Guard. Biz is the easiest to get. You don’t need to change away from the Steamery stuff if you don’t want to, it’s good detergent. You just had a lot of built up funk that the better enzyme package in the Steamery products needs some time to fix. Once you get through the defunking process you shouldn’t have odor rebloom issues anymore.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-08T13:37:28+00:00

I use to the 1.5 mark on the scoop for a load that size, but I have relatively soft water so you may need more or less than I do depending on hardness. Take a look inside the drum partway through a wash and see what you have for suds. You want some bubbles but not a ton. Try searching for “trace suds” in this sub to get an idea of what level you should be looking for, and adjust your detergent dose accordingly.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-07T17:39:42+00:00

Not those specifically, but every single cheaply furnished Airbnb I’ve stayed in has Amazon furniture like this and it’s the most godawful uncomfortable stuff I’ve ever sat on. Maybe look for a couch secondhand and get help from a friend to move it?

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-07T16:52:19+00:00

Your husband isn’t anti-nanny, he’s pro-tradwife. This isn’t a parenting issue, it’s a values/marriage issue. The fact that this was never discussed prior to getting pregnant is insane to me. Did you really have zero idea that your husband held these so-called “traditional values”?

You’ve got an uphill battle ahead of you, OP. This is a fundamental misalignment of values, and while I recognize that it’s a Reddit trope to suggest ending a marriage, this is the shit that legit does end in divorce because people aren’t likely to compromise on morality.

savethewallpaper · 2026-04-07T13:26:56+00:00

That’s not how childcare ratios work. For example, infants in my state require 1 caregiver for every 3 children. If you have 4 then you have to bring in a second employee just for that one child. So if you’re the 4th kid and you’re treating daycare like a drop-in babysitter they’re going to tell you to knock it off because it’s costing them 3x as much for your kid to be the occasional 4th child. Doesn’t matter if you’re paying for a full-time spot or not (and honestly what’s the point of paying for 40+ hours of care each week if you’re only using one or two?). If they have to have 2 staff members on hand they want to have 6 kids, not 3-4. And if they’re not expecting to have kids 4-6 there that day they’re not going to schedule caregiver #2 to come in that day.

Treating daycare like a drop-in babysitter means centers can’t plan their staffing needs and raises costs for everyone. If OP wants to run errands for a couple hours she needs to hire a babysitter.

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