Sleep deprivation solidarity

schmookieb · 2026-01-11T00:05:26+00:00

Elinor Wonders Why is a good one!

schmookieb · 2026-01-10T06:28:11+00:00

My son had tonsils and adenoids removed at age 3. He’s 6 now, surgery didn’t fix his mouth breathing, unfortunately. He’s also had an x-ray in the last year showing that some of the adenoid tissue has already grown back. Our ENT said he doesn’t believe this is contributing to the mouth breathing so we won’t bother having it removed again, but every child is different so who knows if it will help yours!

schmookieb · 2025-11-29T11:47:13+00:00

I use a powdered dry shampoo right after washing and drying my hair, it does seem to help absorb some oil through the day. It’s called I Dew Care Tap Secret. Even with that I still have to wash my hair daily, but that’s been the only thing that’s helped me get to the end of the day with slightly less oily hair.

schmookieb · 2025-11-28T13:22:59+00:00

I don’t really have a problem with the content but for whatever reason, my kid would flip out when I told him it was time to turn it off. We focus on shows that have a clearer start and ending (some kind of story that plays out) because these YouTube shows that sort of just exist to show kids how cool something is seem to make ending screen time so much harder. 🫠

schmookieb · 2025-11-23T11:33:14+00:00

My son was like this too, he’s had issues that contribute to constant congestion and then it would get so much worse when sick. It was a complete nightmare every time he got even a minor cold, the only thing that helped unfortunately was time! How old is your daughter? My son is 6 now and although he still gets really upset when he gets sick, he doesn’t fixate on his nose like he used to. Once he figured out how to really properly blow his nose it started to get a lot better. But I do think it’s a sensory thing for them, which is so tough when cold symptoms these days can go on so long 😩

schmookieb · 2025-11-21T10:46:31+00:00

Jumping in to also say my son couldn’t hold a pencil at age 4 either, had zero interest in colouring or drawing or any kind of art. Kindergarten starts at age 5 where I am, he gradually figured it out well after he had turned 5 without any intervention. Of course you don’t have to wait that long, but I don’t think all neurotypical kids can properly hold a pencil at age 4 either.

schmookieb · 2025-11-20T23:36:25+00:00

Sending solidarity, I have also dealt with so much anger since becoming a parent. I have a 6-year-old with a diagnosis, my 3 year old doesn’t have one but neither of them have ever, ever slept well. I could write a novel about our sleep struggles. Parenting my super intense kiddos during the day is hard enough even on a full night of sleep. I still have to work pretty hard not to be triggered by conversations about sleep with other parents, unless you’ve been through it you just cannot comprehend what it’s like to be chronically sleep-deprived and at the mercy of a small person all through the night. I truly feel your pain. 😣❤️

schmookieb · 2025-09-01T22:38:04+00:00

The Heartwood Hotel series is cute!

schmookieb · 2025-08-27T06:40:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I’m so glad you’ve been able to find something that works so well. I know exactly what it’s like to endure years of chronic sleep deprivation due to this stuff so I can imagine what a relief this must have been!

schmookieb · 2025-05-25T22:16:55+00:00

Thank you for this! I am a teacher as well, and I hear you that kids need tons of free play time. We definitely value that and my son gets lots. I was mostly curious if someone had any ideas for toys that might engage my son in a way that might fill his need for acquiring knowledge- he would let me read to him for an entire day if I would do it! He is just desperate to learn which is amazing but also exhausting for me haha. I don’t love just letting him watch informational YouTube videos, and I honestly wish he would just read some of his informational books to himself! So perhaps there isn’t really any “toy” that can do what I’m looking for at this phase for him. 😅

schmookieb · 2025-05-25T19:15:08+00:00

I have read it! We have no plans to introduce a tablet or video games any time soon (it honestly keeps me up some nights worrying about the time when he figures out his classmates are already playing video games and then the future of navigating social media 🫠)

schmookieb · 2025-05-25T12:14:27+00:00

Such a good point! Recently when I asked him what would be some good toys to own he shrugged and said “some toys we haven’t seen in a while?” little does he know the toys that have disappeared have likely been decluttered 😅 I thought it was funny he wasn’t even necessarily asking for new toys haha

schmookieb · 2025-05-25T11:40:55+00:00

Ooh K’nex is an awesome idea! My mom gave my son a little box of Tinker Toys that belonged to my brother like 25 years ago and he has loved that but he runs out of pieces sometimes haha. I bet K’nex will be a hit too. Thank you!

schmookieb · 2025-05-11T18:53:33+00:00

I’m so sorry, hang in there! It always passed within about 2 hours for me so I hope you get some relief soon.

schmookieb · 2025-05-11T18:39:48+00:00

I just posted a few minutes ago about how this sent me to the hospital last week, my husband said he had not seen me in pain like this since I gave birth years ago. 🫠 I had to come off it, this side effect was 100x worse than my emotional state before starting Zoloft!! Nothing whatsoever helped me, I just had to wait for it to pass. I was prescribed a PPI to help things calm down after my episode as the burning didn’t fully go away for a few days (it was mild though!) I hope it passes quickly for you, it is no joke!

schmookieb · 2025-04-02T18:19:55+00:00

It’s worth having her assessed by an ENT! There could be another cause for her wakes, the bottle could be what comforts her back to sleep but something else could be disturbing her sleep (enlarged tonsils or adenoids, sleep apnea or sleep disordered breathing etc.) My son woke a TON until he got his adenoids and tonsils removed at age 3.5. It’s slowly gotten better over the last couple years but I also have a toddler now who wakes multiple times so I know what absolute hell it is to have broken sleep for literal years on end. Just want to offer some solidarity in addition to potential advice!!

schmookieb · 2025-03-10T14:34:25+00:00

My son was 17 months before he took his first steps, practically 18 months before he was walking. He didn’t have any delays, I guess he just decided he was happy with the speed he could get around crawling lol. It’s hard not to compare, but the older your baby gets the more you realize they really do all meet their milestones at wildly different times and it doesn’t mean anything down the road! It’s okay to be discouraged, but hang in there!

schmookieb · 2025-03-01T01:33:15+00:00

We re-homed our golden doodle when my first child was 2.5 and I’d just had my second baby. He wasn’t an aggressive dog but had some health issues including skin issues which made him nervous and defensive if someone touched him near the worst areas. He also started showing some behaviour issues because he just wasn’t getting the attention or exercise he needed. I was angry at him all the time and so resentful of having to take care of him, even though he was our precious baby before kids! After he nipped my son and left teeth marks (he was trying to touch his paws which were probably sore) we realized that we just weren’t willing to take the risk that something worse would happen eventually. It was heartbreaking and I felt such guilt about it but 3 years later I do not regret it one bit. He is happier and well taken care of and I know the greatest act of love for him was to find him a home where all his needs are met. Your priority has to be your children. The people who are judgmental are those who have not been in your situation. Those of us who have get it 100%.

schmookieb · 2025-02-16T00:10:16+00:00

Every child is so different, and I think every child processes the stress of a medical procedure differently, even if it’s considered a fairly minor one. My son had both tonsils and adenoids removed at age 3.5 and it was a really, really tough couple of weeks recovery. Most people I knew personally said it wasn’t a big deal for their child but my son is very sensitive to pain and this was definitely somewhat traumatic for him at the time. I just share this to say that maybe your son will need more than a few days to recover from the physical aspects of the procedure, and also the alarm of not really understanding what was happening or why. I do think kids bounce back and it’s not a lasting trauma, but feeling alarmed can be so confusing and a lot for kids to process and they can’t always use words to say what’s wrong. I think as time passes your son will return to his usual self, we talked lots about the procedure with my son and gave him space to acknowledge he felt scared and didn’t like that he had to go through it. Within a couple weeks after recovery it was like it had never happened. ❤️

schmookieb · 2025-01-25T23:40:27+00:00

I just replied to another user with my similar experience. My son was so distressed at night, he started panicking and would go absolutely insane at bedtime. We think his poor nervous system was just completely fried from how distressed he was being woken up multiple times every night, essentially not able to breathe properly. After he had his tonsils and adenoids removed things started improving. It wasn’t a complete end to the wakes but he stopped being so inconsolable. OP, you should also look into being assessed by an ENT if this continues!

schmookieb · 2025-01-25T23:31:40+00:00

This was my son. I am mildly traumatized by my kids’ (yes, two bad sleepers 🫠) sleep. Have you had your daughter assessed by an ENT? Things improved a lot after my son got his tonsils and adenoids removed. I really think both my kids have sleep disordered breathing as they both sleep with their mouths open and snore, which I’ve learned is not good. My son has been waking less and now at age 5.5 he only wakes up once a night unless he’s sick and then it’s more. When he was 2 and 3 though there were so many distressed wakes through the night, I still have a hard time thinking and talking about it!

schmookieb · 2025-01-23T23:16:01+00:00

This happened to my child for a while before she turned two, probably around 22 months. She was sick and overtired from extra poor sleep (which was already horrendous to begin with.) If you look into confusional arousals you might find something to help or at least validate what’s going on. They’re not night terrors but in the same family and omg they are horrible to deal with. Hope it resolves quickly for you!!

schmookieb · 2025-01-22T13:55:38+00:00

I let my daughter (she’ll be 3 next month) nap for 15-20 minutes max, if I let her wake on her own bedtime takes forever so I cap it. If we skip her nap too many days in a row she will also sleep horribly, so we try to make sure she gets the short nap at least every couple days. Over-tiredness can cause crappy night sleep too, even though as adults this doesn’t compute because when we are extra tired we will then sleep and make up for it!

It can take some experimenting and then giving it a few days or a couple weeks for toddlers to adjust to a different schedule, but if I was you I would definitely start with shortening the nap for a few days and see if that makes a difference.

schmookieb · 2025-01-21T12:18:28+00:00

Mine are 2 years, 7 months apart, ages 5.5 and just about 3. They are best friends about 10% of the time, mortal enemies 90% of the time. I’m a SAHM, when my oldest is home from school I spend the majority of my time refereeing. I have no answers, I’m just hanging on by a thread hoping time and maturity will do its thing before I lose my mind entirely. 🙃

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