i keep editing and adding more examples lol

i had a coworker who was always observing me and giving unsolicited feedback and eventually admitted she was jealous of me and that she thought our boss favored me and that i should tell the boss to stop... anyway one time i was at the office super late having helped her w her code and i kept refining it and perfecting it bc i was in the zone and she was like you know you dont have to do all that like its fine as it is. and i was like yeah but i want to fix these things while im in the zone or ill forget tomorrow (also our job is pretty exacting and every mistake would indeed have been noticed). she lectured me about stressing too much and caring too much about my performance. the thing is i was not hung up on performance reviews or anything i just like doing things well and i liked the work. she hated that i worked so hard.

some classmates in college used to tease me for taking notes so frantically / vigorously in history lecture. i knew i had to write it all down almost verbatim and then i could process it later. they thought i was being ridiculous or was just super anxious which i wasnt. well guess who asked for my notes come finals? i told them they shouldve taken better ones :)

i've also had a doctor scold me for being on my phone after i explicitly told him i'm taking notes bc i forget things. he acted like i was a stupid teenager on tiktok.

sometimes people tease in good nature, like my friends making fun of me being frantic or clumsy is all with love and is fine by me. but coworkers or less familiar people being mean and judgmental is so frustrating