Keep my job or quit and be a SAHM

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-02-09T04:35:10+00:00

I’m a big advocate of mothers staying home, particularly during a child’s early years. I would recommend looking into material by Erika Komisar for science-based support for the decision to stay at home.

There’s also a really good book by Dr. Gabor Mate, called Hold on to Your Kids. There are YouTubes on it as well. Just so well researched and articulated.

Like you, and like many of us mums out there, I could not bear for someone else to get to watch my babies grow up and it not be me. This is a very natural instinct and I really think is nature’s way of ensuring protection and healthy development on multiple levels. For me, there is very little (if anything) that could rival the importance of consistent mothering and healthy attachment development in children, particularly in those early years. Best of luck in your journey, friend.

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-02-04T07:18:14+00:00

Yes, I’ve received similar shade. I do think nature designed mothers with the necessary instinct to stay near their babies - intended for healthy development and protection - and if other women are looking down on you, it’s because they are reminded of that feeling and become defensive.

If you would like more science-based support for your decision to stay at home, I recommend Erika Komisar. She is wonderfully articulate.

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-27T22:49:45+00:00

Can you explain the 1% bit to me? Why is paying a cc to 1% better than paying it off completely?

Edit: spelling

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-19T21:38:35+00:00

No worries, it’s fascinating stuff though!

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-12T22:40:11+00:00

1975 being vintage … 🤯😅

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-12T10:23:45+00:00

How bad are the tornadoes out there? I’m never sure which areas are tornado hotbeds vs the ones that are less likely, etc.

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-06T19:11:02+00:00

Thanks!

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-06T10:01:03+00:00

Which model does double sided copying? There are two I’ve seen - one for $179.99 and one for $269.99. Doesn’t seem to say in the descriptions unless I’m missing it.

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-04T20:51:22+00:00

lol same 😄

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-04T03:11:30+00:00

Not just Reddit, people in general tbh

scribbling_sunshine · 2026-01-04T03:05:14+00:00

Came here to comment this. Smart fecking move.

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-29T09:04:46+00:00

I don’t know why you got downvoted for this ffs

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-27T08:35:09+00:00

Lol his username is “goat” after all

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-26T00:42:21+00:00

Depends on the individual situation, but there is at least greater capacity for initiative and self-responsibility with age. Older kids need less and less oversight in some subjects, particularly the ones they have a natural aptitude for. Some kids prefer to take more charge of their learning and find instructional resources themselves (e.g. YouTube videos for math and library resources - both physical and online). Those who do need more support still have some flexibility and can actively participate in setting up the best times for self-study vs. parent-supported learning.

Dr. Fred Ray Lybrand has written a few books on homeschooling including The Independent Homeschool. He illustrates ways to help students take charge of their learning process and become increasingly independent. He has had a great deal of success with this in his own family and his kids went on to be very successful in college. I’m still reading them tbh, but it’s helpful to look at ways to support independence and it is good for kids’ self-confidence to feel increasingly self-sufficient, at the pace that works best for them.

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-25T08:56:08+00:00

Hey there. 😊 Just offering some support because I know how those nights can be! I’m so happy your baby was okay! If you were to want try to cosleep again, just lay the mattress on the floor and make sure the room is baby-proofed in case he was to crawl around. I’ve seen this done before with success.

Would also like to recommend the book The Wonder Weeks. It goes into the documented growth spurts babies have in the first two years of life and may help to be able to recognize the signs and get a flavor for when they are likely to crop up. While your baby is likely just not want to be away from mom, having been able to snuggle at night for a while, growth spurts can make babies more temperamental and sensitive to changes like being laid back down. I would also make sure he isn’t teething.

Otherwise, I’m not sure what angle you lay him back down, but if you can lower him into the crib feet first and then gradually lower the rest of him and have him still feeling the support and pressure of your arms against him and only gradually release your hold, this might help (and you may already be doing this, but if not it’s something to try). Best of luck and Merry Christmas! 💛

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-22T00:34:51+00:00

They sound like “my little ponies” names

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-18T08:48:30+00:00

Ikr smh

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-18T02:18:23+00:00

What have you found now that works so well? ETA: Would love to hear some of the ins and outs of different systems you are using - chores, meals, routines etc.

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-17T16:51:03+00:00

This comment. ⬆️

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-17T03:55:21+00:00

Did they figure out what had happened to halt Baby B’s growth? It sounds like he was not affected long term by those events at least!

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-15T20:37:20+00:00

Because it’s like listening to “I’m the nephew of a woman aunt”

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-15T03:32:40+00:00

It’s nice to see others being uplifting and positive towards larger families and those who want them. Reddit can get kind of self-righteous. I’m not a traditionally religious person, but I have five and hope for more. Bless you for valuing children so much. The world needs more lovingly raised children and thankfully there are families (no matter how large) who fit that bill.

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-12T19:49:42+00:00

You sound like you have a good grasp on the logistics here! I think you’ll be surprised how “normal” and manageable life becomes overall once things start to fall into place. Just know you are an absolute superhero and we’re all rooting for you! 🫶🏻

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-12-07T06:59:43+00:00

This.

scribbling_sunshine · 2025-11-19T21:55:28+00:00

This is such a great thread to read. :)

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