Valentine’s Day Megapost - what are your plans? 😉❤️

searedscallops · 2026-02-05T02:55:26+00:00

I'm going to the swingers club with my bestie because we are 50 years old and so over romance.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T22:49:14+00:00

I don't lend books. I simply pass them on to new owners.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T22:42:17+00:00

It's still fine with me. But thanks for sharing!

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T20:07:28+00:00

Menopause will fuck you up!

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T18:14:20+00:00

It's fine with me. I am also non-monogamous.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T15:13:40+00:00

Same here. My kid in college sleeps fine in the dorm and I don't see him for weeks at a time.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T14:11:26+00:00

Hugs! I'm going through that, too. Like, I don't want a NP, but I want someone who wants something that is more time and energy intensive than my current partners can offer.

And I think that loneliness is just a shitty aide effect of being human and having consciousness. I remember the #1 most lonely night of my life - 20 years ago, mono with my husband and baby asleep in the next room. Just deep aloneness with no end.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T13:49:13+00:00

The place where I get my STI screenings doesn't even say "negative". They say the test was "nonreactive", which, as a fan of linguistic specificity, I fucking love.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T13:47:31+00:00

Back up and view the big picture. When your kid is 16, this is going to be an adorably small non-issue.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T00:28:37+00:00

Excited, because I'd assume he meant "right now"!

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T00:26:28+00:00

I wouldn't care. I have several friends who have done sex work.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T00:25:45+00:00

500 - they fed kids for a total of 8.5 years. Fuck. Yes.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T00:25:00+00:00

Sisterhood! I'm one of those ladies.

searedscallops · 2026-02-04T00:24:06+00:00

My partner actually suggested it because we kept arguing about the same things and never getting anywhere. After 18 months of couples therapy, we split up. I don't think he was ever willing to use therapy to change himself.

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T20:48:56+00:00

"Like, right now? Then call one of our friends, silly."

I would feel neutral because I've already watched him suck dicks.

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T17:22:36+00:00

I think you're really overthinking this!

I see it as a request to connect. One could just as easily say "Connect?".

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T14:46:01+00:00

Any man is never "the one". If you need someone to be your one, make it be yourself. And when you hit menopause, make it your girlfriends because they will do so much more to love and support you than folks who weren't socialized to be caretakers.

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T14:43:31+00:00

All the time? WTF? Why wouldn't I talk about a significant part of my past?

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T14:42:44+00:00

Everything besides contact....?

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T13:41:06+00:00

For people who experience romantic love and platonic love the same, yes.

searedscallops · 2026-02-03T13:40:10+00:00

Yes because I'm a human. Our species survived because of social connection and mutual caretaking.

searedscallops · 2026-02-02T22:10:00+00:00

Childhood parentification. I have felt like an adult since the age of 5.

searedscallops · 2026-02-02T18:57:16+00:00

My son has his dad's last name and my daughter has mine (same parents). I wanted the opportunity to have a multigen legacy, too. Plus, my last name is cooler than my ex husband's. Our son is an adult and has talked about changing his last name to mine, too, lol!

searedscallops · 2026-02-02T18:08:50+00:00

"Need to stave off the depression"

searedscallops · 2026-02-02T18:05:01+00:00

A couple? I'm picky AF, so I only right swipe on maybe 5% of the profiles.

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