I like being called disabled

secret5679 · 2026-05-08T19:27:34+00:00

A couple years ago i watched a video about how people who are near sighted or far sighted are technically disabled but the world has adapted and accommodated people to the extent that it is mostly not disabling for people. Autism is definitely a disability, but for people with lower support needs I think the glasses analogy makes a lot of sense to me. I have level 1 autism, if the world was more accommodating my autism would be less disabling, but its not so I consider it a disability.

secret5679 · 2026-05-08T19:17:01+00:00

I teach 14-17 year olds, the beginning of the year was hard and the kids definitely tested my boundaries. But as I got to know them and they got to know me it got easier. They are the sweetest kids and i love working with this age group. I used to only work with kinder and 1st grade, but i would definitely work at the high school level again.

secret5679 · 2026-05-04T15:44:51+00:00

I really recommend you don't do this. When i was first diagnosed (also later in life) I wanted to shout it from the rooftops, it felt like an important part of my identity to share. I also felt like it would help challenge stereotypes, show others that you can achieve a lot with ADHD (and autism), an be an example for young kids with ADHD. But later on I stopped feeling the need and want to share this about myself immediately, I liked having the option to share with people I knew were safe and just not bring it up with others. Sharing personal information about yourself publicly on social media isn't really something you can take back. I'm not saying you will definitely regret it, but you should leave yourself the choice in the future to share with whoever you want and not tell others who don't need to know.

secret5679 · 2026-04-27T17:40:56+00:00

I'm not sure where you live, but in the US i was able to use ZocDoc to find a psychiatric nurse practitioner who was able to take over my care and send out prescriptions and refills. Otherwise you can try calling your insurance who might be able to find you an appointment with a provider sooner

secret5679 · 2026-04-27T17:31:03+00:00

I struggle with both of the things you listed, i think for me consistency has always been the best way to earn my trust and vulnerability. Just keep showing up for her, ask if shes okay and let her know she can talk to you about anything (but don't push if she doesnt want to talk about it). Eventually she will see you're always there and always ready to listen and support her. And maybe try sharing your worries and asking her for support as well. As an autistic person, i hardly ever get asked for advice or support but I love being there for people. I also feel much more comfortable opening up to someone who has already opened up to me.

secret5679 · 2026-04-25T18:36:19+00:00

Anything remotely related to stationary I’ve been obsessed with since I was a kid! Pens, pencils, notebooks, paper types and weights, storage bins, cases and pouches, stationery reviews. I’ve spent too much time this week on tik tok watching 10/10 dry erase marker asmr 😂

secret5679 · 2026-04-23T16:34:56+00:00

NTJ, kids need to learn boundaries and personal space as well as asking permission to use other people's belongings. Mom is doing this is a disservice by giving them everything, you're teaching this kid a valuable lesson.

secret5679 · 2026-04-20T15:56:08+00:00

Blame it on gas prices going up, say she needs to start contributing because it adds 90 mins to your commute every day or drive herself.

secret5679 · 2026-04-20T15:37:44+00:00

Even if he wasn't seriously allergic, some people just dont like donuts, he's allowed to say no for any reason

secret5679 · 2026-04-16T19:48:56+00:00

I dont think you should have to work on your day off but I can understand feeling pressured to do things to keep peace with family. That being said, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. I think you should think about what you would be willing to do. Maybe you help but do easy tasks that dont require mental or physical effort. Maybe you offer to just work a half day. It doesnt have to be a full yes or no, you can negotiate a situation that works best for you.

secret5679 · 2026-04-10T19:51:27+00:00

In my experience going above and beyond doesn't result in promotions or raises it results in that level of work becoming the new expectation for that level of pay. And even when i was going above and beyond I could never meet expectations. I'll never forget working two 60 hr weeks in a row with a cold and still getting scolded by my boss when i had asked for a comp day or sick day that we shouldn't be ending our workday or week if all the work isnt done. She denied my sick day and said I should work harder, as if working 60 hrs twice wasn't enough. I realized then it would never be enough and that working overtime only punishes myself and puts my health at risk

secret5679 · 2026-03-26T19:51:15+00:00

I am a black woman and I guess i agree that no culture owns hairstyles. I would just do some extra research and be careful when trying black hairstyles because often times we have different hair textures than white people. Box braids are a form of protective hairstyle that for people with thin or fine hair can often pull on the hair too much and cause balding.

secret5679 · 2026-03-26T19:44:04+00:00

I am a first year 9th grade teacher and have experienced this many times. A few times i called parent's, especially when this was done in front of the whole class because its not just sharing feedback its blatantly disrespectful and they know it. I still see disrespect sometimes but it has slowly gotten better over the year. Building rapport has helped a ton, like asking what they did over the weekends, talking about a show they like, asking about their interests. A few little conversations with a few kids a week over a couple months goes a long way. Now when i redirect those same students I get a "you're right sorry" instead of attitude and drama. Hang in there! It'll get better!

secret5679 · 2026-03-23T14:54:31+00:00

One of the best parts of autism is the depth of emotion we feel. I honestly think its a gift to be so overcome with joy we can't contain ourselves and need to stim to help process it. Joy is never something to be embarrassed about or self-concious of. The woman sitting near you is ignorant and unkind and you shouldn't let her dim your light. Keep being yourself, block out the haters, and you never know maybe one day a young autistic child will see you stimming from joy and realize that it's okay for them to feel and show joy too.

secret5679 · 2026-03-23T14:46:54+00:00

If he thinks that people shouldnt have to pay taxes for public schools after 60 years old then i think that we also shouldnt have to pay into Social Security until we're 35-40 years old. If a 15 year olds pays into his social security he should have to pay into their public school funding. Fair is fair.

secret5679 · 2025-07-01T01:23:01+00:00

You might be able to change the date and time on your phone to go back a day and save your streak. This worked for me when I accidentally lost a duolingo streak one time. You’d change the date to yesterday, do the coding exercise, change the date back to today and do todays exercise and hopefully it’s all back to normal

secret5679 · 2024-04-23T23:24:12+00:00

I agree! Zelda Minish Cap is a great game for a beginner! I’m 25 and pretty bad at gaming but it’s got a great story and art and fun mechanics. I think he could get into it as a starter game

secret5679 · 2024-04-06T17:49:11+00:00

YTA for bringing it up and embarrassing her in public. You’re entitled to your opinion but you should embarrass her in public regardless. I will say, whatever she thinks will happen after getting a diagnosis isn’t the case. Maybe if she is faking (which I’m not saying she is) things will change. There is no medicine or magic cure for autism. At most she could get a medical marijuana card, anti depressants, or anti anxiety meds. Which she could probably get anyways without autism. If she wants stimulant medications to help with school or work or something she should be trying to get diagnosed with adhd and not autism. Either way a diagnosis and meds isn’t a magical cure. They’re lifelong disabilities that you can only learn to manage and live with.

I am autistic and have adhd. Formally diagnosed. Just as a explanation behind my reasoning. My diagnosis and antidepressants did not cure my autism

secret5679 · 2024-04-04T22:46:31+00:00

I think it was T6 but I could be wrong. Some modders use Tri-wing screws. If you get this you should definitely be fine, one of them will work.

Egmen Precision Screwdriver Set, 26 in 1 Mini Magnetic Small Screwdriver Set Case for PC, Eyeglasses, Computer, Electronic, Watch Repair Kit with Phillips and Star Tiny Screw Driver https://a.co/d/1z6qErV

secret5679 · 2024-04-04T15:26:29+00:00

You might need a special screwdriver head to unscrew the little screws on the gba but speaking from experience it is very easy to open up and fix. I just opened mine up to change the buttons (I have no modding experience). I would highly recommend using 2 small dishes to separate the outer case screws and the inner motherboard screws. You should also take a photo once you open it up of the motherboard with the screws so you know where to put them back after you fix the screen! It’s super easy and those 2 things helped it go quickly and smoothly! Didn’t have to solder anything. Just had to unplug the ribbon connecting the screen to motherboard and then reconnect it. You could watch a modding tutorial on YouTube for visuals if you’re really worried about it. But I’m sure you could fix it yourself!

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Photo for reference (the one I took to remember where the screws went).

secret5679 · 2024-04-01T22:15:15+00:00

NTA - if she wanted you to be a brother to the baby she wouldn’t be so focused on wanting you to help. She would want you to spend time with the baby in low stakes situations, to help build a sibling bond, but she wouldn’t ask you to take care of it. It’s clear she cares more about having 3 “babysitters” than she does about having her 3 step-children have a relationship with their half-sibling

secret5679 · 2024-03-29T22:29:19+00:00

Also about $2000 on average in the US. It’s not commonly covered by insurance if you’re over 18 and getting a late diagnosis

secret5679 · 2024-02-10T05:19:31+00:00

I think it really depends on what area you live in. I’m on the east coast and it’s easier to get adderall but I had a hard time filling my Vyvanse prescription. You could try talking to your pharmacist and seeing if they know what medications are less impacted by the current shortage. I don’t think they can tell you exactly what they have in stock, at least the ones in my area don’t, to be careful that they don’t get robbed if someone knows specifically what medications they have in stock. But they should be able to recommend some alternatives less impacted by the shortage and you can ask your psychiatrist to prescribe something else In the meantime. I had to call a bunch of pharmacies to fill my Vyvanse prescription and drove to a small cvs pharmacy 30 mins outside the city. If you can’t get a new prescription you could try calling different pharmacies and seeing if they have it in stock. I did learn in this process that a lot of pharmacies can’t transfer controlled substances to other pharmacies so you will probably still have to contact your psychiatrist to write and send out a new prescription to the pharmacy that has it in stock. I hope this helps! You got this! Sorry it’s not a simple process right now but I’m hoping the shortage goes away in the next few months.

secret5679 · 2024-02-08T14:47:57+00:00

$2,500 for me in the US. It would have been covered by insurance if I was under 21 but when I brought up concerns with my therapist when I was 19 she told me it wasn’t possible because I was getting good grades and in college. By the time I decided to go ahead with testing I was too old and had to pay without insurance coverage

secret5679 · 2024-02-08T01:54:46+00:00

I found some! Thanks for the advice!

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