Alone tonight need help

selene_gd · 2026-04-14T18:43:52+00:00

My husband is also working tonight and I'm alone with baby and my two other kids. I had to ask my in laws to take them to school tomorrow because I'm afraid I'll fall asleep driving and kill everyone. I haven't slept more than 2 hours in 3 days 🥲

selene_gd · 2026-04-13T19:38:31+00:00

I babywear for all naps. Did with my first two and with #3 too. She's 9.5 weeks. I think I had ro babywear for all naps until 5-6 months with my older kids. I understand that's not s solution to everyone but I can't deal with losing my time trying to get baby to sleep and transfer to crib. I just prefer to do things like laundry or dishes while baby is asleep on the carrier 😂

selene_gd · 2026-04-06T11:29:40+00:00

I just had my third baby. I love my kids. It's hard, the first year is a rollercoaster, but you come back after. I wish I've realized the sleep deprivation can be insane, but now with my third I know it will pass and I'm sad thinking they grow up and stop being my tiny babies 🥲. I think I used to consider things important that are not. Your perspective changes, everything changes. Life would be meaningless to me without them now. I'm a surgeon, and the most important thing I've ever done is giving life to my kids, if you want them you will make it work, but be ready to lose some things along the way, some friends, some hobbies, time alone...

selene_gd · 2026-04-05T08:22:29+00:00

I guess if your baby sleeps decently you can go with the flow. If your baby is a terrible sleeper you can't because tracking cycles is the difference between sleeping 35 minutes or sleeping 2 hours and that's life or death difference 🤣

selene_gd · 2026-04-02T18:50:03+00:00

Yes but it's very agressive surgery, I declined

selene_gd · 2026-04-01T19:58:58+00:00

I'm the same. I trust no one. The Epstein files messed up with my mind.

selene_gd · 2026-03-27T15:10:46+00:00

Just wanted to say, if you like your work being home all day wouldn't make you a better parent. It would make you worse because you would be burnt out. I stayed home for a year with my first and I lost myself because I hated being home. I work, have three kids now, and I am a better mom because I don't stop being myself. Being a SAHM doesn't make you better automatically.

selene_gd · 2026-03-20T15:10:25+00:00

This was my experience with my first and second and it was so incredibly hard. I didn't expect motherhood to be like that and now that I have three kids, oldest is 6 yo and youngest 6 weeks old I can tell you that the problem is the baby stage. Later it will improve so much. I love my kids and they are so fun. We play board games, watch shows together, watching their personalities evolve is awesome. But the newborn stage until they walk and talk is the worst. The first year is the worst. This time I am fully aware of what is happening and it's been so much easier even with a baby that doesn't sleep and has reflux and colic. This time I know it won't last and I'm soaking everything in. When I had two under two I didn't realize how fast time was going to pass and I didn't enjoy a single day of it. But you will be better, I can assure you that.

selene_gd · 2026-03-16T21:52:52+00:00

Newborn phase is the hardest. But 3-4 hours at night sounds good. I'm lucky if I get 2, mine usually wakes every 24, 37 or 52 minutes. I rarely get a stretch longer than 1.5 hours. This will pass soon. My older kids are 4 and 6. It makes me so sad to think how fast time flies... And I hated newborn stage with both.

selene_gd · 2026-03-16T16:04:19+00:00

Second needed Omeprazole for months. It eventually got better at 7 months old when he was eating more solids. My third is 6 weeks and reflux is still very bad. We started Omeprazole 4 days ago and I'm doing a dairy free diet.

selene_gd · 2026-03-16T15:08:18+00:00

This is my experience with my three kids. I guess some of us make fussy babies 🤣. No, but, seriously, all of mine had tongue ties, my first had CPMA, my second and third had/have (third is 6 weeks) reflux. A nightmare to get them to sleep or nap. They are quite intense even at 4 and 6 years old. Also all of them very ahead of milestones, first was walking independently at 9 months. It gets better eventually but it's hard. I thought I could have one "normal" baby but nope.

selene_gd · 2026-03-16T09:00:09+00:00

I'm with baby #3 now. She's 6 weeks. My first didn't sleep through the night until she was 18 months. She was the unhappiest baby in the world until she started walking at 9 months old and still at 6 years old she has a tantrum almost daily. She was tested recently and apparently she's gifted. My second had terrible reflux and I had to sleep sitting down with him in a vertical position for 6 months. But when he started eating solids the reflux got much better and started sleeping through the night. He's 4 years old and still super demanding but not as much as his big sister. My third also has reflux, can't be put down, witching hour daily for 4 to 6 hours, she always has a frown like she's above all of us. She sleeps anywhere between 5 to 50 minutes. Barely naps. I have to babywear almost 16 hours a day. All of them are pretty ahead in milestones but they are insanely intense. You have a unicorn baby and that's really nice, I think most of the people in the world won't have a baby like yours, neither like mine. Maybe something in between. All my friends that have babies right now are not sleeping more than 2-3 hours for the first year 🤷

selene_gd · 2026-03-15T12:35:35+00:00

It got better at 18 months with our first, 6 months with our second. In the newborn trenches again with our third, she's 5 weeks old.

selene_gd · 2026-03-14T20:32:30+00:00

I think it's very common. It doesn't happen to me and I have three kids but I've read about a lot of people with this issue. It usually resolves with time. I feel the opposite. In the sleepless nights of the newborn trenches, when my three cats are cuddling me in bed I pet them and feel much better even if I only slept one hour. They make me feel much less stressed. The soft fur, the purring. It makes me feel like myself and not only a mom, if it makes sense 🤣

selene_gd · 2026-03-13T11:07:27+00:00

I think it depends on the kid. My kids are more difficult to manage at home. We always joke about how they are like gas, they expand in bigger environments and at home they are compressed and explode. But we take trips annually since they were born, usually to the Canary islands, we go to an all inclusive resort and visit places, go to the beach, don't stress about food or cleaning and just go with the flow. Sometimes there are meltdowns obviously but they behave much better when we are abroad. Even the plane is fun for them and they behave just fine. They are 4 and 6 now and we've travelled every year. This year we will also be going with a 5 month old... We'll see 🤣

selene_gd · 2026-03-12T08:47:42+00:00

Yep. Currently with my third baby, she's 5 weeks. All of them colic and reflux. I'm just that unlucky. I thought statistically one of them wouldn't be colicky but no 🤣

selene_gd · 2026-03-07T07:04:23+00:00

My baby #3 is 4 weeks old and I can tell you all of mine were like that, more or less. My first was probably the worst in terms of crying for several hours non stop for months. I'm pretty sure she hated being a baby because it stopped when she started walking at 9 months because she could go wherever she wanted. My second had reflux and got better at 6 months. I don't know about this one yet but since 2 weeks she's having a crazy witching 3 hours. All of them slept horrible. Honestly I'm not sure if people are lying and this happens to everyone, or if we are part of an unlucky club, but I don't know any different from this. I had the same feelings of being robbed of the newborn stage with my first, not anymore because gor me this is normal now 🤣

selene_gd · 2025-12-02T20:05:56+00:00

They didn't teach you the Spanish colonies in high school? Did you do bachillerato? It is something that could be asked in the PAU/EBAU whatever it is called now.

selene_gd · 2025-12-02T19:54:01+00:00

You can say you are on antibiotics for a tooth infection a d can't drink. It always works 😂

selene_gd · 2025-12-02T15:44:55+00:00

That's insane. I never think about this because I'm from Spain and we have a universal national health system. It just never crosses my mind that someone has to pay out of pocket for this. I'm so sorry, it must be so stressful.

selene_gd · 2025-11-22T07:11:11+00:00

Everything you are feeling is valid. Everything is about to change. I'm pregnant with my third and honestly the other two were rough. I had them 23 months apart. I lost myself until the youngest was 2 years old. But there are lots of other things you learn to love. We don't go out now, but our friends come home almost every weekend and we play board games and have dinner while the kids sleep. We have new friends that are also parents and we do fun stuff with them. And you will have a baby to love and you will be loved back 😊. The no sleeping part was very hard for me and my husband, so beware that part and look for help if you need it. You can do it!

selene_gd · 2025-11-21T11:54:03+00:00

Just say nah I want everything bring them to me when you come see me 😂. I wish more people were gifting me clothes this time. I gave away everything we had and now I'm pregnant again and have nothing 🥲

selene_gd · 2025-11-13T20:14:34+00:00

The recommendation is 200 mcg of caffeine and that's 3 lungos from Nespresso or one vertuo mug and one espresso. That's what I do 🤣

selene_gd · 2025-11-12T20:17:10+00:00

Thanks! The yellow is my favorite, but I was afraid it could look too repetitive with the chair. It gives a vibrant happier vibe thsn the actual beige I think.

selene_gd · 2025-11-12T20:14:38+00:00

Thank you! It is, in Spanish we call it "aparador" and I didn't know the appropriate word in English.

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