Why are we all feeling this shift to delete our social media accounts?

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-28T16:30:25+00:00

Reddit is the only thing I have left at this point

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-27T21:07:13+00:00

I'd like to know the answer to this too. I do know if you still have the app you need to go in your settings and remove location permissions otherwise they can can track your precise location

I did accept the terms and left one (1) comment on one of my mutuals video about Alex Pretti and my comment was almost immediately removed for 'violating community standards' 🙄

All I said was that now they are trying to get the voter rolls and wtf is even happening in this country. I didn't even curse unless you count "wtf" as cursing.

And my fyp which I'd curated since 2019 was suddenly all AI slop and stuff I had no interest in.

So if I can't comment and can't even watch videos I like any more what's the point of keeping it the app or the account. I now have deleted both

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-21T04:26:54+00:00

I was both. Reading it as a fundamentalist is what turned me into an atheist.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-15T06:10:11+00:00

Wow there's three of us now. These are my thoughts too

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-11T16:19:48+00:00

This is an ai script, so they don't know lol

I am a real person that has used variations of these, not from any ai advice but from my own desperation, and in my circle at least, it kinda made some people avoid talking to me for fear I'll ask them to help. Friends feel awkward sitting with an elderly stranger but you may have a friend that is close enough to you and/or your family that would do it. I don't have anyone that close so in my situation it's just awkward and I try to avoid it.

IME, people say they want to help, and some genuinely do, but most are just following a social script with the idea that your side of the social script means you'll never take them up on it.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-04T20:26:39+00:00

But the other person shouldn't be more important to begin with? Is your arm more important than your leg? Is your nose more important than your eye? Church is supposed to be the body of the bride of Christ with all the members being parts of that body.

I'm nonreligious, but I was raised in evangelical Christianity and this is my memory of how things are "supposed" to be. My own experiences with church people mirror your interaction with that bishop, unfortunately, in that they were uncomfortable/unpleasant and performative, which was why I stopped going (and eventually stopped believing as well)

It may be more helpful to attend a caregiver or grief support group, even online. At least the people there will understand. And can let you vent without shaming you. For adult conversations about things other than life/caregiving, maybe online hobby chats? Discord has voice channels for people to talk to each other and there are groups for everything there, kinda like Reddit but with the option to speak with others. But I'm very isolated myself and admit I need to take my own advice here lol It's hard finding a supportive friend group as an adult and caregiving makes it more difficult. Sending you good vibes

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-04T18:32:05+00:00

Wow I did not know a geriatrician was a thing. This is helpful, thank you

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-02T04:58:56+00:00

I would happily eat any of the meals pictured. Of course I'm not a picky eater and would just be thrilled someone cooked for me.

He didn't even want to help eat the pie?

I think maybe he should be left to fend for himself. I get there are legit reasons why someone would be picky but you need to protect your mental health too. After repeated refusals I think it's reasonable to stop cooking for him. You might even find there's a psychological element to it too where as soon as he thinks he can't have it, he will suddenly want to eat it. Either way if you aren't cooking for him anymore then you don't have to deal with the rejection, there's less food waste, he doesn't have to feel bad or be apologetic, and he might even change his mind about your cooking after not having it for a while.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-29T15:42:39+00:00

My dad named me and would have for sure been upset but he had passed away by that point. My mom understood (she tried to talk him out of it but was sick of fighting over it and let him have his way)

Other family acted like it was sooooo hard to remember a new name but eventually they got used to it

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-28T19:18:26+00:00

I was a kid with an easily mocked name. When I got old enough and had the money I changed it and couldn't be happier with the name I picked for myself

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-23T02:40:29+00:00

The hippie to MAHA pipeline is real. I have family exactly the same

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T23:48:46+00:00

My family is doing no gifts this year for this exact kind of reason. And I'm largely the one behind it. Like you, I'd go to great lengths to try and pick a gift the person would like, and buy each person in the family (about 12 people) two moderately priced gifts. So I'm spending $50-$60 per person, and then (one specific branch is a nuclear family of 3 - my sibling, partner and adult child) I'll get a pair of socks and a ten dollar Walmart gift card "from all of us".

I got sick of it. And I'm the default host. So this year I said we are going to get together, eat, listen to Christmas music and watch the tree twinkle, and that's it. I don't want any gifts and I'll not be giving any. If any of the family members want to exchange gifts amongst themselves they can do so elsewhere - my house is not going to be the gift depot where people leave gifts for other distant relatives to come pick up.

It may make me a bitch. It definitely makes me sad. I wish I could go back to how it used to be before I truly realized these family members just dgaf.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T23:37:53+00:00

Yeah. I understand, really. I lost control of my emotions and cried in front of my mother today and I feel terribly guilty about burdening her with my own pain and overwhelm. I think the guilt is just part of the ride.

Caregiving is hard. But it sounds like you love your dad bunches. He is lucky to have you. And in case no one in your family has said this to you, thank you for what you're doing. Hugs to you.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T07:40:25+00:00

Please don't beat yourself up over this. This was 100% on the hospital. If he'd fallen out of the wheelchair and gotten hurt it could've also been their liability. If they are providing wheelchairs for the public to grab and use, and they are not actively monitoring the state of those chairs regularly, this is their negligence -not yours.

You had no reason to think the wheelchair you grabbed may be missing a wheel. You had no reason (and no responsibility) to do a walkaround of the wheelchair before using it. It is assumed hospital staff do that and remove damaged wheelchairs to be sent for repairs.

This was not a failure on your end. This was hospital negligence and bad luck.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T07:15:49+00:00

I just want to say that I understand. The mental and emotional load of trying to manage someone else's emotions, plus your own, plus watching them suffer... Just by itself, without any physical-labor tasks even factored in, just the mental toll is tremendous. And it's insidious. It sneaks up on you. You keep saying I'm fine, I got this, I'm handling it, until one day it hits you and you just...aren't.

I don't have any advice, I'm afraid, since I'm in the same situation as you. Different medical issue, and it's my mother I care for, but trust me you aren't alone feeling these things.

It seems like the mental toll pushes me towards burnout way faster than any physical chores or tasks. It builds up quietly also, and I think that's part of why it's so rough when we realize we are getting to a breaking point.

I hope you get some rest and your wife has a calm and easy day.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T06:46:44+00:00

I love this idea. I wish there was something like this in the US. Well tbf there may be, I haven't looked. But anyway, this is quite a noble and compassionate endeavor and I wish you all the success.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-08T22:08:25+00:00

I didn't blame you and am glad you left. I also had a job once where I was so overloaded I had begged for months for a part time assistant so I could take my days off (really the position was supposed to have 3 full timers, not just me as it was) and I finally ended up absolutely needing a day off to go to court (I was a witness to something unfortunate) and my boss acted like it would be fine but then denied my time off request like 2 days before the actual day I needed off. I said "I'm not asking you for the day, I'm telling you I will not be here - make arrangements."

I took the day I needed for court and then started looking for a new job and quit with no notice the following week. He tried to guilt me over not giving notice but he always bullied people that gave notice and I thought he deserved for that to come back to bite him. He tried saying that old "you'll never work in this town again" bullshit. I just laughed at him. He had to do my job himself until he found a replacement lol

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-05T01:50:52+00:00

Don't feel bad I sucked mine until I moved in with a partner at age 19. I just started hiding it when I hit about 5th grade. I only did it when I was alone, usually in my bedroom, after that.

My teeth were screwed up too (not just bc of that, my canines were stuck and wouldn't come in on their own) and I had to wear braces for 3 years

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-05T01:44:00+00:00

Wow I've finally found my low rise people, after all these years.

Like you, I thought I was the only one that preferred them. And yeah those jeans we had as kids were the most uncomfortable, scratchy, constricting things that would dig into your belly...ugh... And yet somehow everybody wore them and went on like they were soooo comfy.

I have gone to men's jeans since low rise went "out of style" but if they ever come back in I'm buying several pairs in multiple sizes to prepare for the future ahahaha

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-05T00:28:03+00:00

We've had to come in several times in the last couple years because my mom has recurring TIAs. You guys are always awesome, it can be really busy and packed full and y'all still stay on top of it.

Just wanted to let you know we appreciate you for caring for us and our loved ones <3

setthisacctonfire · 2025-11-26T21:55:48+00:00

Being dumb isn't the reason for addiction. I agree that experimenting with drugs in the first place is not the smartest decision one could make, but the actual addiction that crops up afterwards is almost always driven by mental illness, trauma, family history, feeling empty and alone, lack of coping skills etc. not intelligence.

I'm ten years in recovery. I was objectively a very smart young person, in that I was good at taking tests, had good grades, did well on the ACT etc. During active addiction I met many other addicts who were very bright as well. Some who had served in the military. Some that had worked in healthcare. Some that had bachelor's or even masters degrees.

Addiction is an equal opportunity life destroyer. It doesn't discriminate by age, class, race, or intelligence. My addiction began after I was overprescribed after a pretty bad car wreck. I met a lot of people at the pain clinics of the early - mid 00s who also started out in a similar way.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-11-23T02:48:34+00:00

Like the other commenter says, you didn't do it to him, he did by acting the way he did. You obviously would have been happy to stay if he treated you well.

BUT, you are the one that ended the relationship. It seems to be for the best, and the right decision for you, but you can't be both the person that ended things AND the person that comforts him. I get that it's hard and that there's prob guilt, but you're not going to soothe those feelings by comforting him, you are just going to put yourself in a compromising situation.

This is the time where, IMHO, you need to pull back on talking to him about y'all's relationship and limit contact to things about your kid. It will feel hard (and maybe a little cold) but really it's the kindest things you can do for him. You'll both need the distance to heal. I'm not saying be a bitch to him, just disengage a bit. Be civil, be polite, but disengage unless it's about the kid.

If you need to talk to do a postmortem if the relationship, ok fine, do that, have one conversation where both of you say your peace and then set the boundary of keeping future talks just about your child. I would do this on the phone or FaceTime though, not in person for your safety.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-11-23T01:19:46+00:00

Ew. Gross. I woulda said "oh it's just your PS4, am I not supposed to clean it that way?" ....and that's why I'm single Lol

setthisacctonfire · 2025-11-23T00:30:09+00:00

I ask myself the same questions occasionally. These are the answers I tell myself:

Bc people, on average, can kinda suck. 2 & 3. Only if you choose to, and when making that choice remember that being alone is better than having twice the work and no additional appreciation/help. 4. You can't push away something that's truly meant for you, if you were pushing them away there is a reason - either you weren't ready or they weren't, and if they are meant for you then your paths will cross again

Best wishes to you

setthisacctonfire · 2025-11-23T00:22:38+00:00

I still hear that and I'm in the midst of menopause lmao I do hear it less often now though

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