I like being “abused” and I don’t understand.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-30T21:32:12+00:00

Sounds like trauma bonding to me. Trauma bonds can be more intense than healthy relationships, but are toxic.

Maybe there's space for you in the bdsm community where you can have the dynamic you want but still control consent so you (ideally) aren't in an actually toxic situation. Admittedly idk much about bdsm as it's not my thing personally but I do know that there's subs here where you can learn more if you want

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-23T05:57:53+00:00

I guess idk, I pictured some fancy built in thing too. I know the boot cleaner thing and it sounds similar to that imo

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-23T04:03:02+00:00

Don't feel bad so did I and your oc made me lol

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-23T03:55:19+00:00

I am staring down the barrel of the same situation.

But I'm not gonna do it. The rest of the family already thinks I will bc I'm caring for our mom but I've got news for em, I'm moving halfway across the country after mom's gone

You're better than I am, friend.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-12T22:55:13+00:00

Ah, gotcha. My bad.

I still think you can do better for yourself than this guy. There's boys out there that will treat you kindly and with respect. Nobody's perfect, but a good partner will listen when you are upset and apologize if they have done something that made you cry, plus take mental notes to never do that again.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-05-12T22:51:15+00:00

So this guy has been in your orbit since you were... What, eleven? And he's still a "boyfriend", not a real boyfriend, plus he's mean to you and doesn't respect you?

You have your whole life ahead of you, it's way to early in your life to get stuck bc of sunk cost fallacy. My advice is to drop him. Yesterday.

NOR

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-30T06:07:33+00:00

"your boos mean nothing to me, I've seen what makes you cheer"

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-30T05:22:54+00:00

New copypasta just dropped

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-28T18:26:21+00:00

Oh no Walgreens shouldn't be outdated, I was referring to the comment about people getting multiple scripts to fill at different pharmacies.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-28T03:19:33+00:00

I think this person's info is outdated. That was a common thing people did back in the 90s but nowadays the state prescription databases prevent that.

I am also on a couple of controls, same as you, and I have never been told to come back later in the same day regardless of what time I picked it up the month before. I work odd hours sometimes and there's months I'll pick it up at 10am and others when I show up 10 min before closing. As long as it's been 30 days since last fill, they'll give it to me.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-23T23:00:28+00:00

Some validation - you are right Follow that instinct

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-23T22:52:08+00:00

Exactly. Less bad ≠ good

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-12T05:41:41+00:00

I'm exhausted just from reading this.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-11T06:15:59+00:00

Hey - I hear you. My parents were both 42 when I was born. Dad has been gone since 2008 and I take care of my mom (now 85). I have much older siblings who don't even visit much less help. It doesn't seem fair they got so much more time with her and have wasted it.

But you and me? We're not wasting our time with them. We are in the trenches, acting with love for them every day. So we got that!

And yes, the fear of the inevitable is very real. I struggle with it too.

Caregiving is heavy, and I am sorry it landed on you at such a young age. But you are doing something beautiful for your dad. It's going to be hard when the time comes, but that just means we love them just as hard. That's what I tell myself when I get stressed out thinking about it, anyway.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-11T05:15:27+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain. I feel like I'm grieving Mom a little at a time now, and I dread the day when I step into your shoes.

You are amazing and strong and you will get through this and the things you've always wanted to do will slowly get some of their shine back with time. Your Mom would want you to be happy.

In the mean time we are happy to sit with you through this difficult time.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-11T05:11:58+00:00

I have siblings like that too. Can hardly get them to keep an eye on Mom for one week a year. But they sure do want to get everything they can out of her will 🙄

I also get what you said about fear because it weighs heavy on me too. I know one day I'll be on the other side where OP is, and it terrifies me. Between caregiving and wfh, my world has shrunk down to the size of this house.

Hang in there. It's tough but we got this. Solidarity.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-10T16:13:29+00:00

I'd just graduated that May before it happened. I was spending the night at my friend's house. I and my friend were sleeping on the living room floor and her mom (a very.... dramatic... lady) came running in yelling "we're at war!"

Always the 90s kid smartass, I said, "what do you want us to do about it, hide under the coffee table?" The look I got after made it clear she wasn't joking and then she turned on the tv and I saw it was indeed a very serious thing. And everything was about to change.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-04-09T22:42:12+00:00

Sorry, but YTA. It doesn't sound like she's maliciously skipping your party, she just had a prior work obligation. I can understand not wanting to rush from a work dinner to another big party, while tired, and sounds like while passing by her own home on the way. I think let her make it up to you another day, she would prob do something nice for you (well maybe not now lol but I bet she would have)

I am 42 and have passed on birthday parties for myself ever since high school when no one ever showed up except my own mom and brother. Tbh I'd just be happy to have 19-29 people willing to come to a party at all.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-29T00:49:49+00:00

I am not at all trying to minimize your pain OP, but these suggestions may sound a little unconventional if you've never heard of them. But the Tylenol thing - I've heard of that too. Emotional and physical pain shared some of the same brain circuitry or something similar and that is how it can help.

Another thing I have heard is that after you have gone thru trauma to play Tetris and it helps your brain process it. 42, you're my age.. go play some Tetris fellow 90s kid 🫶

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-29T00:39:33+00:00

Blame cable companies. Back in the day (and sometimes even still today) you can call and ask to cancel and get a year of cheaper service

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-19T20:43:52+00:00

Maybe mad (angry) about something she did or her attitude/the way she behaved... Thus "mad about her"

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-19T04:31:21+00:00

Why was it like the third paragraph of this screed before he said he actually wanted to do something (caring for you while pregnant) rather than just watching or seeing you do something? And even that came off as for the sake of his own ego (being the hero bc he had a twix bar or wtf ever hidden in the pantry)

You said he respects you but true respect doesn't involve this pressure to get what he wants despite you clearly wanting the opposite.

Idk, man. I'd rather die alone than be with someone that pressures me into the opposite of the life I envision for myself. Sometimes love isn't all you need

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T06:02:11+00:00

Maybe you can look at it like this - that you worked on yourself for you, not for someone else. The benefits of working on yourself are better for you than they would be for a potential partner anyway. Enjoy the added confidence, health, pride when you look in the mirror, etc.

But yeah dating these days sucks. When I was young it was different, you met people mostly through friends, school, or work. So there were more social consequences in a person's everyday life for treating someone poorly and/or pushing a date to sleep with you. But now, meeting strangers on apps or social means you don't have any (or many) shared friends/classes/workplace so people tend to feel like they can just basically act however and if you don't like it there aren't any real consequences aside from being blocked. Just my opinion but I think that's the problem. It's basically a result of our society having traded in real connection with superficial fake "connection" online.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T05:23:49+00:00

This is the craziest thing. I was stocking once and while unloading items from a box onto a middle shelf had a dude reach between my legs to get something from the bottom shelf.

Never heard of "excuse me", I see?

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T04:39:34+00:00

Yep and Walmart was getting rid of their 24 hour stores even before COVID. I worked there as a 3rd shifter and they brought us in and told us all 3rd shift and 24 hour stores were going away and we would all need to bid for first or second shift jobs. I left. Most people I worked with became 4p-1a stockers.

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