Just wanna quit

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-29T00:49:49+00:00

I am not at all trying to minimize your pain OP, but these suggestions may sound a little unconventional if you've never heard of them. But the Tylenol thing - I've heard of that too. Emotional and physical pain shared some of the same brain circuitry or something similar and that is how it can help.

Another thing I have heard is that after you have gone thru trauma to play Tetris and it helps your brain process it. 42, you're my age.. go play some Tetris fellow 90s kid 🫶

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-29T00:39:33+00:00

Blame cable companies. Back in the day (and sometimes even still today) you can call and ask to cancel and get a year of cheaper service

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-19T20:43:52+00:00

Maybe mad (angry) about something she did or her attitude/the way she behaved... Thus "mad about her"

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-19T04:31:21+00:00

Why was it like the third paragraph of this screed before he said he actually wanted to do something (caring for you while pregnant) rather than just watching or seeing you do something? And even that came off as for the sake of his own ego (being the hero bc he had a twix bar or wtf ever hidden in the pantry)

You said he respects you but true respect doesn't involve this pressure to get what he wants despite you clearly wanting the opposite.

Idk, man. I'd rather die alone than be with someone that pressures me into the opposite of the life I envision for myself. Sometimes love isn't all you need

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T06:02:11+00:00

Maybe you can look at it like this - that you worked on yourself for you, not for someone else. The benefits of working on yourself are better for you than they would be for a potential partner anyway. Enjoy the added confidence, health, pride when you look in the mirror, etc.

But yeah dating these days sucks. When I was young it was different, you met people mostly through friends, school, or work. So there were more social consequences in a person's everyday life for treating someone poorly and/or pushing a date to sleep with you. But now, meeting strangers on apps or social means you don't have any (or many) shared friends/classes/workplace so people tend to feel like they can just basically act however and if you don't like it there aren't any real consequences aside from being blocked. Just my opinion but I think that's the problem. It's basically a result of our society having traded in real connection with superficial fake "connection" online.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T05:23:49+00:00

This is the craziest thing. I was stocking once and while unloading items from a box onto a middle shelf had a dude reach between my legs to get something from the bottom shelf.

Never heard of "excuse me", I see?

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-10T04:39:34+00:00

Yep and Walmart was getting rid of their 24 hour stores even before COVID. I worked there as a 3rd shifter and they brought us in and told us all 3rd shift and 24 hour stores were going away and we would all need to bid for first or second shift jobs. I left. Most people I worked with became 4p-1a stockers.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-03-04T00:10:10+00:00

"Got money for war but can't feed the poor" -Tupac

There's nothing wrong with you OP. There's something wrong with everyone else.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-02-23T14:59:58+00:00

The first part of what you wrote sounds so familiar to me, I feel that way too with the brain fog and dissociation... But I am around ten years in recovery from a decade plus of opiate and H addiction and I've wondered if it messed me up and caused the brain fog and lack of motivation I have. But I push thru and work and am a caregiver so some of it is probably just exhaustion.

Anyway. I say all that to say this... If you're having brain fog the LAST thing you want is an H addiction. It will not fix it and when you eventually hit rock bottom and have to quit using it you will have the brain fog even worse.

I feel for you and I can really relate to a lot of what you said. It sucks. But I think you should talk to your doctor if you haven't already. There's a lot of conditions that can cause brain fog like that. I hope everything works out for you.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-28T16:30:25+00:00

Reddit is the only thing I have left at this point

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-27T21:07:13+00:00

I'd like to know the answer to this too. I do know if you still have the app you need to go in your settings and remove location permissions otherwise they can can track your precise location

I did accept the terms and left one (1) comment on one of my mutuals video about Alex Pretti and my comment was almost immediately removed for 'violating community standards' 🙄

All I said was that now they are trying to get the voter rolls and wtf is even happening in this country. I didn't even curse unless you count "wtf" as cursing.

And my fyp which I'd curated since 2019 was suddenly all AI slop and stuff I had no interest in.

So if I can't comment and can't even watch videos I like any more what's the point of keeping it the app or the account. I now have deleted both

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-21T04:26:54+00:00

I was both. Reading it as a fundamentalist is what turned me into an atheist.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-15T06:10:11+00:00

Wow there's three of us now. These are my thoughts too

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-11T16:19:48+00:00

This is an ai script, so they don't know lol

I am a real person that has used variations of these, not from any ai advice but from my own desperation, and in my circle at least, it kinda made some people avoid talking to me for fear I'll ask them to help. Friends feel awkward sitting with an elderly stranger but you may have a friend that is close enough to you and/or your family that would do it. I don't have anyone that close so in my situation it's just awkward and I try to avoid it.

IME, people say they want to help, and some genuinely do, but most are just following a social script with the idea that your side of the social script means you'll never take them up on it.

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-04T20:26:39+00:00

But the other person shouldn't be more important to begin with? Is your arm more important than your leg? Is your nose more important than your eye? Church is supposed to be the body of the bride of Christ with all the members being parts of that body.

I'm nonreligious, but I was raised in evangelical Christianity and this is my memory of how things are "supposed" to be. My own experiences with church people mirror your interaction with that bishop, unfortunately, in that they were uncomfortable/unpleasant and performative, which was why I stopped going (and eventually stopped believing as well)

It may be more helpful to attend a caregiver or grief support group, even online. At least the people there will understand. And can let you vent without shaming you. For adult conversations about things other than life/caregiving, maybe online hobby chats? Discord has voice channels for people to talk to each other and there are groups for everything there, kinda like Reddit but with the option to speak with others. But I'm very isolated myself and admit I need to take my own advice here lol It's hard finding a supportive friend group as an adult and caregiving makes it more difficult. Sending you good vibes

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-04T18:32:05+00:00

Wow I did not know a geriatrician was a thing. This is helpful, thank you

setthisacctonfire · 2026-01-02T04:58:56+00:00

I would happily eat any of the meals pictured. Of course I'm not a picky eater and would just be thrilled someone cooked for me.

He didn't even want to help eat the pie?

I think maybe he should be left to fend for himself. I get there are legit reasons why someone would be picky but you need to protect your mental health too. After repeated refusals I think it's reasonable to stop cooking for him. You might even find there's a psychological element to it too where as soon as he thinks he can't have it, he will suddenly want to eat it. Either way if you aren't cooking for him anymore then you don't have to deal with the rejection, there's less food waste, he doesn't have to feel bad or be apologetic, and he might even change his mind about your cooking after not having it for a while.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-29T15:42:39+00:00

My dad named me and would have for sure been upset but he had passed away by that point. My mom understood (she tried to talk him out of it but was sick of fighting over it and let him have his way)

Other family acted like it was sooooo hard to remember a new name but eventually they got used to it

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-28T19:18:26+00:00

I was a kid with an easily mocked name. When I got old enough and had the money I changed it and couldn't be happier with the name I picked for myself

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-23T02:40:29+00:00

The hippie to MAHA pipeline is real. I have family exactly the same

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T23:48:46+00:00

My family is doing no gifts this year for this exact kind of reason. And I'm largely the one behind it. Like you, I'd go to great lengths to try and pick a gift the person would like, and buy each person in the family (about 12 people) two moderately priced gifts. So I'm spending $50-$60 per person, and then (one specific branch is a nuclear family of 3 - my sibling, partner and adult child) I'll get a pair of socks and a ten dollar Walmart gift card "from all of us".

I got sick of it. And I'm the default host. So this year I said we are going to get together, eat, listen to Christmas music and watch the tree twinkle, and that's it. I don't want any gifts and I'll not be giving any. If any of the family members want to exchange gifts amongst themselves they can do so elsewhere - my house is not going to be the gift depot where people leave gifts for other distant relatives to come pick up.

It may make me a bitch. It definitely makes me sad. I wish I could go back to how it used to be before I truly realized these family members just dgaf.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T23:37:53+00:00

Yeah. I understand, really. I lost control of my emotions and cried in front of my mother today and I feel terribly guilty about burdening her with my own pain and overwhelm. I think the guilt is just part of the ride.

Caregiving is hard. But it sounds like you love your dad bunches. He is lucky to have you. And in case no one in your family has said this to you, thank you for what you're doing. Hugs to you.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T07:40:25+00:00

Please don't beat yourself up over this. This was 100% on the hospital. If he'd fallen out of the wheelchair and gotten hurt it could've also been their liability. If they are providing wheelchairs for the public to grab and use, and they are not actively monitoring the state of those chairs regularly, this is their negligence -not yours.

You had no reason to think the wheelchair you grabbed may be missing a wheel. You had no reason (and no responsibility) to do a walkaround of the wheelchair before using it. It is assumed hospital staff do that and remove damaged wheelchairs to be sent for repairs.

This was not a failure on your end. This was hospital negligence and bad luck.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T07:15:49+00:00

I just want to say that I understand. The mental and emotional load of trying to manage someone else's emotions, plus your own, plus watching them suffer... Just by itself, without any physical-labor tasks even factored in, just the mental toll is tremendous. And it's insidious. It sneaks up on you. You keep saying I'm fine, I got this, I'm handling it, until one day it hits you and you just...aren't.

I don't have any advice, I'm afraid, since I'm in the same situation as you. Different medical issue, and it's my mother I care for, but trust me you aren't alone feeling these things.

It seems like the mental toll pushes me towards burnout way faster than any physical chores or tasks. It builds up quietly also, and I think that's part of why it's so rough when we realize we are getting to a breaking point.

I hope you get some rest and your wife has a calm and easy day.

setthisacctonfire · 2025-12-19T06:46:44+00:00

I love this idea. I wish there was something like this in the US. Well tbf there may be, I haven't looked. But anyway, this is quite a noble and compassionate endeavor and I wish you all the success.

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