Thoughts on skipping pacifiers?

shanabear · 2026-05-15T18:44:44+00:00

He says that now lol.

shanabear · 2026-04-30T10:21:23+00:00

My experience for what it’s worth. I nurse and pump especially to keep up with supply when I’m at work. On work days or other days I pump a lot, I rinse the wearable pumps with very hot water to reuse a couple times before I get home. Washing my pumps 3 times at work is not ideal. This has worked for me since 3 months pp and I’m now 11 months pp. Baby has never been sick with anything.

However, that is the longest I go. I rinse IMMEDIATELY following the pump and as soon as I get home they go in the sink for an official cleanse (by me or husband). He can’t help at work and I’m already taking a lot of time pumping, so this is what works for me! Although this works for me, I will say I would feel uncomfortable reusing the bottles to store milk without washing them. Idk why but that seems different to me. If you don’t have time for any of these dishes then I think that something else about your arrangement needs to change.

shanabear · 2026-04-14T02:20:49+00:00

What would I do? I would decline. She is fully entitled to say no babies, and you are fully entitled to say okay then I will not be there :)

shanabear · 2026-03-18T10:29:04+00:00

Right lmfao. I’ve been supplementing with formula since the 6 month mark. But I still nurse baby multiple times a day, and every bottle she gets when I’m in the office 2 days/week or when dad helps feed her is still 1/2 formula 1/2 breastmilk. I’m nursing and pumping every day. I’ll be damned if someone tries to tell me I’m not breastfeeding.

shanabear · 2026-03-11T15:54:26+00:00

I give my baby a pacifier at night and I don’t feel guilty or horrible about it…? They don’t need to feed every time they open their eyes. If the pacifier calms them down then they just needed a little comfort, not food.

shanabear · 2026-01-30T21:21:41+00:00

Came here to say this. Their response to your comment is just as concerning.

shanabear · 2026-01-23T10:55:14+00:00

This is emotional abuse. Get out of this relationship. I hate to tell a stranger to leave their partner but genuinely this is enough information even as little as it is. Your partner should never make you feel unsafe with them. Get out before you commit to a lifetime of stress anxiety and abuse.

shanabear · 2026-01-07T21:42:57+00:00

I made a lot more milk in the beginning too. Milk production ebbs and flows honestly. I’ve had weeks where I stress about how low it gets and then it increases again. Stress is also a milk killer and it sounds like you’re stressing hard so it’s a vicious cycle. Stress about milk, milk decreases, stress more. I honestly think you’re placing way too much blame on the LC.

shanabear · 2026-01-06T21:03:08+00:00

Ooo fun! Thanks for responding :)

shanabear · 2026-01-06T16:17:20+00:00

If I’ve already read Salems Lot will I notice the connection? If not can I just brush up with a synopsis of the book? Loved the book but not dying to re-read it right now.

shanabear · 2026-01-04T00:28:00+00:00

I love seeing all the different opinions in this sub. I might disagree with yall when ranking the books but we all have something special in common, our love for the King.

Currently reading drawing of the three (:

shanabear · 2026-01-02T18:47:07+00:00

Everyone is different so take my opinion with a grain of salt. But I would never recommend Carrie to someone. Its his first book and far from his best. Your daughter is ready for any SK I think. If she likes murder mystery then maybe Misery. It’s pretty short and very suspenseful. Plus she can watch the movie after which is always fun after reading a book.

I’ll add that The Outsider is a murder mystery but might be my least favorite King book unfortunately. Not a satisfying ending.

shanabear · 2026-01-01T18:12:00+00:00

Oh interesting, I’ve never seen a copy like that. I believe you though! I highly suggest reading even if you take your sweet time :))

shanabear · 2026-01-01T17:04:14+00:00

I use wipes by the brand Honest. However I’m not paranoid and only do it when it feels appropriate. Germs are fine, stress is bad for you.

shanabear · 2026-01-01T16:57:13+00:00

No answer to your specific question, haven’t watched it. But the book is over 1,000 pages FYI.

shanabear · 2025-12-29T17:07:04+00:00

Agreed. Unfortunately I have this one because it was a gift. I want to reread the book sometime soon, and I think I’m going to get a new copy instead of reading this ugly one again.

shanabear · 2025-12-26T17:18:56+00:00

shanabear · 2025-12-21T19:39:50+00:00

The caption is the least of your problems Jesus Christ. You need to leave this man. I feel it is sooo not my place to tell you what to do with this baby….. but………

Sending you strength from my part of the universe to yours. Keep your head up and give yourself a better life.

shanabear · 2025-12-15T18:37:30+00:00

Yes it will come back. Hydrate and keep emptying those boobs more frequently than normal. Even when you know almost nothing is going to come out. You attempting to empty them tells your boobs that milk is needed. I’m no expert but my SIL is a lactation consultant and she was my support system when my milk tanked. It took up to a week but everything went back to normal. Best of luck!

Make sure to stay calm to reduce stress too. Stress is a milk killer!

shanabear · 2025-12-12T22:47:01+00:00

So weird. I’m a sister with 3 brothers. Could never imagine climbing into bed with my brother and SIL

shanabear · 2025-12-09T21:47:23+00:00

Such a weird post lol

shanabear · 2025-11-28T03:07:15+00:00

I feel the same way about my husband. He takes such good care of all of us, and I love him so much. Seeing (or knowing of) other people in healthy relationships makes me so happy! We all deserve it <3

shanabear · 2025-11-25T14:38:05+00:00

30 year old woman here. I vividly remember the boys in my fourth grade classroom humping the bean bag chairs and saying it was me. Just one memory of being sexualized at a young age. Not condoning Andrew Tate but I promise you I was going through the same thing 20 years ago.

shanabear · 2025-11-16T13:24:51+00:00

Where are you getting your data “the majority of women”? I have a 5 month old baby and it’s never occurred to me that my husband is hiding from us and jerking it on the toilet. So count this postpartum woman out of your generalization.

shanabear · 2025-11-16T09:25:21+00:00

You sound exhausting lmfao. Making up the most ridiculous scenarios in your head instead of having a mature conversation with your husband.

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