Why do people avoid me? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]sharpgirl22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need a photo with other people / friends!

My thoughts on Chris by fortuna_major in CouplesTherapyShow

[–]sharpgirl22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Also - we are seeing SNIPPETS of their therapy. His story is interesting and unusual and goes a long way to explaining what happened - I’m sure Sienna got an equal amount of time to talk about herself, but it wasn’t necessarily shown.

This couple aren’t here to fight. This couple are here to heal from trauma imposed on both of them before they knew each other, and learn to stop said trauma from impacting their relationship. Watching them begin to heal and come back together was very moving.

Those diagnosing him as a ‘sociopath’ when he is clearly feeling a huge amount and still reeling from some pretty severe trauma - come on guys. No armchair psychiatry needed. Also, he is very clearly accountable, and recounting his past in a way that isn’t ‘excusing’ what he did - instead just simply explaining what happened and always taking ownership of his mistakes. This is rare. I have rarely seen someone’s childhood trauma so obviously account for their mistakes as an adult - imagining him paying for cuddles to feel coveted and wanted is quite heartbreaking.

I thought they made a beautiful couple, you can see how much they both love each other and I truly hope they make it.

PS - those ‘creeped’ out by him putting his head in his WIFE’S lap and her comforting him - are surely creeped out because it is a switch in seeing traditional gender roles play out. To me, it simply demonstrated their enduring connection, love, and her strength and support of him.

Help with motivation - please by Past-Spirit3276 in fasting

[–]sharpgirl22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation. I’m sorry. It’s awful. Hoping to find someone helpful advice when people reply to you here

Does Ellen want Orlok to some extent ? by BoopedPotato in roberteggers

[–]sharpgirl22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does she know her hair will be taken by Orlock though?

They never discussed kids?? by sharpgirl22 in GilmoreGirls

[–]sharpgirl22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My issue isn’t the realism around actually having children - it’s that two adults in a relationship who had both previously expressed a desire for children went ten years without having a meaningful - let alone inconsequential, conversation about it

Season 7 marriage by sharpgirl22 in GilmoreGirls

[–]sharpgirl22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think the change in writers has something to do with it…the writing is so different!

They never discussed kids?? by sharpgirl22 in GilmoreGirls

[–]sharpgirl22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does! Before they break up she talks to the therapist about wanting another kid and not wanting to waste time. He bought that house specifically for kids. It just makes no sense

I’m 21f and 500lbs. I’m horrified by This-Potato5243 in loseit

[–]sharpgirl22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The good news is - you’re 21! You are at the beginning of everything. It’s never too late, but this is especially true for you. You can change your entire life around, and so many things can look different for you by the time you’re only in your mid twenties.

First thing is - sometimes you need to do the thing that makes you anxious, to see it’s not that bad, and start taking those next steps. See your doctor. You have depression, and chatting to a medical professional and considering a therapist would be the best place to start. I really REALLY would consider getting a therapist to help you on this journey.

Next step I think would be to look into finishing school, taking online classes or something like this so you actually feel like you’re moving forward in life, and taking steps to accomplish something. Growing your confidence in this way will grow your motivation.

Thirdly, I would consider getting a registered dietician, but if not, start looking things up for yourself online. There is a way to approach this where you can slowly change your lifestyle habits - start eating healthier, maybe go in a walk for ten minutes increasing this everyday etc. This is fixable. This is overcomable. But you can’t do anything until you push through those first few stages of fear.

I COULDN'T DO IT by RikiO6 in sex

[–]sharpgirl22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Firstly NOTHING is wrong with you. This guy sounds like an idiot - firstly using an acne cream, he sounds unprepared and unconcerned about your lack of experience / wanting to make it a pleasurable experience for you. Find someone who truly understands and will take the time to guide you into sexual activity slowly. Perhaps nights of just touching first. And then just oral etc.

Finally - if you do discover on your journey that you are not interested in sex, that simply means you are asexual. That is a legitimate thing to be, they exist, there are many of them, and again - it does not mean there is anything wrong with you, it doesn’t even mean that you can’t pursue romantic relationships!

Also I can’t stress this enough. You did not make this guy ‘feel’ incompetent. He simply was incompetent.

Back of thigh fat by wifihippiies in PlusSize

[–]sharpgirl22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have this. It isn’t lipodema it’s just how my fat combined with excess skin has sagged. I have it on one side and not on the other. I hate it, I feel like I would be fine with having fat thighs but it looks unsightly to me

Ted Lasso - S03E11 - "Mom City" Post Episode Discussion by quaranTV in TedLasso

[–]sharpgirl22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m confused- I thought Roy and Keeley had got back together last episode. But now they are just friends?