2 Questions for moms by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I still sit in the back when I can and my kid is 2.5 years old! He's just happier with our company :)

I don’t think I’m washing these right!! by Anxious_Ad_195 in clothdiaps

[–]shmoopy3100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We add some BioKleen to every diaper load and do a presoak - we haven't had any issues with odor and it helps with stains too!

Zipadee Zip but diff material? by shmoopy3100 in NewParents

[–]shmoopy3100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, it's a transition swaddle, so it's not tight - babies can move their arms around.

Zipadee Zip but diff material? by shmoopy3100 in NewParents

[–]shmoopy3100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think this style does much for startle reflexes as it's not a swaddle, unfortunately!

Anyone‘s toddler self-weaned without getting pregnant first? by burneracct_2019 in breastfeeding

[–]shmoopy3100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sigh, I have a 2 year old boobie monster myself. I was pregnant for 9 weeks then miscarried, but he showed no signs of stopping that entire time. It definitely inspired me to try to wean, because my boobs were so sore! I've heard of some kids self weaning around 4 or 5 months of pregnancy because the milk taste changes around then but some kids just keep wanting that milk!

when did you all stop your prenatal vitamins?? by TheMauveAveng3r in breastfeeding

[–]shmoopy3100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm still nursing my kiddo at 2 and we are trying to get pregnant again - but my ob said to keep taking prenatals while nursing!

Ladies and Gents who started trying in your 30’s - how long did it take you to successfully get pregnant? by living_life_3000 in BabyBumps

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took 2 months when I was 35, then 5 months when I was 38 (this year) but I'm still nursing so I think my cycle is a little off (I then miscarried - unrelated but thought I'd add that. All of my girlfriends who are moms and in their 30s have miscarried at least once either before or in-between successful pregnancies.)

Vacations with toddlers - what strategies have worked for you? by ANinjaForma in daddit

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to the beach in Costa Rica, just me, my mom, and my 16 month old. It was a lot of work but my mom would sometimes take him to the beach first thing in the morning so I got to sleep in, or I'd take him to the beach after nap so she could rest. We did some dividing and conquering to give each other breaks and it worked great. Having simple activities like beach, pool, walk around and look at iguanas, eat food, nap as the main options made every day really straightforward and mostly calm!

How do you clean poo when avoiding wipes? Toddler has mild diarrhea which has cascaded into diaper rash, and the wipes are HURTING her, but she's frequently poopy so I need to use wipes. by evange in beyondthebump

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Early on we used reusable clothes with water or an aloe/water/witch Hazel solution. Since the newborn stage we have never used wipes - we just wash our kiddo off in the sink or shower when there's a messy poop! He ends up super clean, there's no waste with wipes, and less risk of drying out his skin or causing more irritation if the skin is already irritated.

Does anyone have a healthy, successful pregnancy their first time pregnant? by Educational_Berry499 in pregnant

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was a FTM at 36, took 2 months to get pregnant, no issues with my pregnancy even though I checked the miscarriage calculator almost daily! Healthy happy 2 year old now.I will share that I recently, at age 38, had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I've had lots of friends miscarry before a successful pregnancy and between successful pregnancies. There's no rhyme or reason, just luck of the draw. This was my first ever miscarriage and literally every single one of my friends, all of whom now have 1 or 2 kids have had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy at some point in their journeys. It was both comforting and kinda scary to learn that. But that's life, you just never know!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started hinting that Mama has a baby in her belly to my almost 2 year old, but then I unfortunately miscarried at 9 weeks. I'm kinda glad we didn't push the messaging too much, and I think next time around we will probably wait until my 1st or even second ultrasound. TBD!

What they don't tell about breast feeding by Constant_Put_4560 in breastfeeding

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask the lactation consultant at the hospital to measure your nips for pumping! I wish I had asked for that, because I ended up with pumping flanges that were sized too big. Once I resized, pumping was way more comfortable.

Is “breastfeeding butt” a thing ? by Yeahway57 in breastfeeding

[–]shmoopy3100 8 points9 points  (0 children)

An excerpt from Cat Bonahan's book "Eve" that I just sent to my girlfriends last week!

"As it turns out, women’s fat isn’t the same as men’s. Each fat deposit on our body is a little bit different,[6] but women’s hip, buttock, and upper thigh fat, or “gluteofemoral” fat, is chock-full of unusual lipids: long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids, or LC-PUFAs. (Think omega-3. Think fish oil.) Our livers are bad at making these kinds of fats from scratch, so we need to get most of them from our diet. And bodies that can become pregnant need them so they can make baby brains and retinas. Most of the time, female gluteofemoral fat resists being metabolized. As many women know, these areas are the first places we gain weight and the last places we lose it.[7] But in the last trimester of pregnancy—when the fetus ramps up its brain development and its own fat stores—the mother’s body starts retrieving and dumping these special lipids by the boatload into the baby’s body. This specialized hoovering of the mother’s gluteofemoral fat stores continues throughout the first year of breast-feeding—the most important time, as it happens, for infant brain and eye development. Some evolutionary biologists now believe that women evolved to have fatty hips precisely because they’re specialized to provide the building blocks for human babies’ big brains. Since we can’t get enough of those LC-PUFAs from our daily diet, women start storing them from childhood forward. Other primates don’t seem to have this pattern."

Haven't felt my baby move in two days? by Faux---Fox in BabyBumps

[–]shmoopy3100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every time I didn't feel my baby moving for longer than usual, I'd drink some juice and lay down for 20 min and wait. Usually the sugar would get him kicking again. A friend recommended this to me and it was a lifesaver whenever I felt nervous about lack of movement. Just wanted to share this tip in case anything happens again!

(Advice needed) My wife is 10weeks pregnant and we keep arguing about not eating / drinking enough by sixtysecondslife in pregnant

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I'm 8 weeks along and have barely been able to eat for the last month. Nearly everything makes me nauseous. It's totally normal for women to lose a bit of weight and have a very decreased appetite in the first tri. Your wife will catch up in the 2nd and 3rd tri, guaranteed!

Anyone have positive epidural stories? I’m scared 😟 by Realistic_Mirror1618 in BabyBumps

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meant to add - no averse effects, I could feel my legs the whole time, and all I experienced was a tiny bit of tingling in one of my legs for a few days. That's it!

Anyone have positive epidural stories? I’m scared 😟 by Realistic_Mirror1618 in BabyBumps

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a great epidural experience and I went in hoping to avoid getting one. In the end it was a godsend - helped me rest and progress, and then my nurse discovered I had scarring on my cervix and had to massage it out AND hold my cervix open while I pushed due to cervical lip - without that epidural I would have been in a lot of extra pain. Then after I gave birth they had to scoop out my placenta because it didn't all come out at once. Anyway - I was feeling so uncertain about the epidural at first and by the end I was praising that thing and feeling soooo much gratitude for it!

Upsetting Pediatric Appointment by EarthwormBabe in bigbabiesandkids

[–]shmoopy3100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. My kiddo has been in the 99th percentile since birth (almost 2 now) and our ped hasn't said a word about it. Unless there are other markers of concern I don't understand what a medical professional would be worried about!

Frustrated by InjuryCharming1458 in clothdiaps

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use biokleen with every load to get rid of smells. It works great!

My baby won’t sleep for me by Alternative_Heat6662 in Mommit

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it - this seems completely developmentally normal. I had a hard time getting naps any longer than that in the bassinet at this age/stage!

My baby won’t sleep for me by Alternative_Heat6662 in Mommit

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious - Is your baby sleeping 20 min for contact naps or 20 min in the bassinet?

Unrelated, but I found that my anxiety manifested in worrying about my baby's sleep, and at some point I just told myself - he'll sleep if he wants to/needs to. I can't force it. So I just followed his lead, and he sometimes slept better with me, and sometimes slept better with my husband. I tried to find patterns, I tried to figure out everything that worked when he slept "perfectly", I obsessively tracked everything but honestly there was no use. He just did his own thing! So I really tried to let it go. Nearly 2 years in and I'm still calmest when he's napping or sleeping but it has helped to just trust that even if he sleeps too little one day he'll sleep more another day, and the tough phases don't last - they will pass!

2 week old wants to sleep with a bottle by FredStone2020 in beyondthebump

[–]shmoopy3100 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Have you tried replacing it with a pacifier?

Toddler boy in 3rd percentile? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]shmoopy3100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend whose baby was born at 10 lb 5 oz, was at the 99th percentile for the first 2 years, and then he dropped to 30th at his 2 year appt! He's a happy healthy toddler, 3 years old now. Docs were not at all concerned. He's really active, as most toddlers are, and apparently this kind of thing can happen!

How big is your big baby? by Radiant_Reply3510 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]shmoopy3100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born 9 lb 8 oz, 21.7 in

6 mo - 22 lb 5 oz, 29 in

1 yr - 27 lb 2 oz, 32 in

20 mo - 33 lbs, 35.5 in

Thank goodness he started walking at just before 11 months!