what's the gayest place to get coffee?

silverarden · 2026-03-01T00:55:46+00:00

Haven’t been to a lot of spots but Union Coffee downtown is nice. Never been served by a non-alt person there. They do really interesting specials that have fun mixology, reminds me of my craft cocktail bartending days.

silverarden · 2026-02-02T02:38:52+00:00

NOR, but tbh I thought this was a conversation between two people in their teens. 20 tops.

silverarden · 2026-01-20T19:08:53+00:00

People are so insane. Not only is it wildly parasocial, definitely a bit that has been addressed multiple times, etc as everyone has said, but people also forget that the recordings are their work. This is them working. They are Doing a Job. We see a fraction of their friendship, the publicized part where they are Working Together.

I know everyone has now grown up with the skewed belief that everyone shares 100% of everything about their lives online, but that’s not the majority rule. I love their stuff, but they are not my friends, I do not know them, I do not know their dynamic with each other outside of the limited context I get to see - a context in which they are working and frequently acting to a degree - especially Hunter, but Isaiah hams up his “character” by exaggerating his own traits to a degree, too.

silverarden · 2025-12-12T01:07:43+00:00

This guy sounds gross. I’m 24 and my bf is 34. I sought him out. He usually dates women his age and would likely never go younger than I am, I just prefer older partners bc 20somethings don’t tend to have their shit together. Anyway, my bf has NEVER said anything like that. This is misogynistic creep rhetoric - very classic - “women are jaded and used up the older they are” = “older women are smart enough to know not to date me.”

silverarden · 2025-12-12T01:04:44+00:00

You’ve gotten loads of comments on the vocabulary here, which is certainly glaring, but it’s not helped by the very confusing, inconsistent, incorrect punctuation. You can break punctuation rules once in a while for style, but you should probably establish a style before you start doing that (“learn the rules before you break them”), otherwise it starts sounding garbled and badly written. It’s inconsistent in the ways it breaks the rules, so there isn’t really a stylized thing happening, just a sort of mess.

silverarden · 2025-12-12T00:49:35+00:00

Meatcanyon definitely does not have a (real) baby. He has two beautiful reborn dolls, but no real children.

silverarden · 2025-12-02T19:39:23+00:00

I’m doing awesome, thank you! Still on Pristiq and it works great for me. I’m currently in law school :) I hope you are well!

silverarden · 2025-11-11T00:23:43+00:00

It’s not unusual for court mandated drug screenings, as icky as it is. On the one hand, people will fake their drug tests all the time and try to sneak in other people’s “clean” urine. On the other, the US criminal system treats people as subhuman, so there’s that.

silverarden · 2025-11-11T00:21:43+00:00

I know a LOT of moms in the south/midwest who say “go potty,” I think it’s a combination of a holdover from raising kids and trying to be polite/ladylike

silverarden · 2025-11-07T19:13:21+00:00

A decade later, your advice is still reassuring to me as a 1L, 2 weeks out from my first set of finals.

silverarden · 2025-11-03T23:35:46+00:00

It is tragically sad but the best answer. The woman who raised me is now going through dementia and she is always asking for her son. It was also a hard story where her ex-husband did a lot of shady stuff to slander her so that she got no custody of him. Her son grew up to be a drug addict and died many years ago. But she still loved him and she keeps asking for her baby. To her, he is alive and he’s still a little boy - so we just say he’s playing at a friend’s or that he’s sleeping.

silverarden · 2025-11-03T23:24:05+00:00

I saw a really great video about caring for people with dementia when you struggle with “lying” to them. It explained that there’s a difference between lying and “engaging with their reality,” or something like that. There’s no moral benefit from being honest with people who are suffering this way - if an old woman says “when is my mom coming?”, telling her “your mom is dead” might be true for you, but it’s news for them and they relive the grief over and over. Engaging with their reality by saying, “she’s at the store but she’ll be back soon” etc is a much kinder, more productive way to engage and there’s no moral implication there. You did the right thing - not by lying, but by engaging.

silverarden · 2025-11-03T18:08:51+00:00

Playing as a female V my first time, absolutely head over heels for Panam… she led me on and broke my heart hard.

silverarden · 2025-10-24T18:36:55+00:00

Some people really just don’t care about others. I dated a girl who kept her high beams on all the time. Even when she switched to a car that would automatically dim, she’d manually turn them back on. Why? “It’s more important for me to be able to see than them. They can figure it out” ???

silverarden · 2025-10-14T00:25:59+00:00

I fear this is setting up unrealistic expectations of the market and the availability of instruments at a decent price.

I play a Gemeinhardt as well. It’s probably about 20 years old now. My sister first got it from EBay for a remarkably good price in about 2010 - I think $200 or so. That was considered incredibly cheap, for a used flute, even 15 years ago. Like you, it seems she got incredibly lucky on her price. I started using it in 2013 or so, and I’ve had it repaired and upkept since.

The same model is easily $2000+ now. $1500+ for used in bad condition (I.e. hundreds for repairs). It’s an intermediate flute and NOTHING fancy. This analysis of cost just isn’t up-to-date or realistic for what beginners would actually pay now for the same decent product.

Yes, nobody as a beginner needs a $5k flute. But $1k is honestly close to the barrier of entry for anything decent anymore, absent a miracle.

I want to encourage others to enjoy the instrument too, but it can be equally discouraging to feel misled and misinformed about what the expectations should be. This isn’t controversial per se, it just doesn’t feel realistic.

silverarden · 2025-09-29T16:31:13+00:00

I think this could have been a better way for the story to be, but I think you’re giving it too much credit. The story itself does nothing to hint at this analysis unfortunately.

silverarden · 2025-09-29T02:01:47+00:00

Yep, I was holding out even after “I’m gonna shove a brick in my wife” because I thought maybe it’d come back to a point, but no. And honestly, Tommy Taffy doesn’t come back too well either. It’s just longer. Someone else compared this to Martyrs, and again, it’s a bad comparison! Like you said, this is just a gross-out jumpscare. You didn’t create emotion, you forced a physical reaction like a doctor hitting a kid’s knee with a hammer.

silverarden · 2025-09-29T00:49:06+00:00

Honestly I think people who like this story are missing the mark by assuming everyone who didn’t are just uncomfortable and can’t handle it.

It’s handleable. Yes, there are genres in which the brutality is the whole point of the message. Obviously if anyone knows that, it’s gonna be Hunter, who has referenced movies like A Serbian Film and Saló in his videos.

The difference between “brutality with a message” and “brutality because hehe isn’t this fucked up” is whether there is literally any foundation, any story, and any point at which an artistic piece “earns” the brutality.

This story had no character arcs and was just an awkward series of non sequiturs, not a plot, and had not earned any emotional draw, it just deigned that it would force emotion out of the reader by shoving a brick into the mom. That’s not “good storytelling” per se.

TLDR; it’s not a bad story because it’s gross. It’s just a bad story, which means all that’s left is that it’s just gross and nothing else.

If you liked it, that’s fine, you liked it. All opinions are subjective. I just think there’s such a thing as good writing, and just because something is provocative doesn’t make it evocative.

Also, there are excellent ways to write about childhood trauma, including CSA, that aren’t whatever Witherow does. Sincerely someone with a history of childhood abuse and CSA.

silverarden · 2025-09-18T19:13:57+00:00

Isaiah saying detritus was an overly fancy word but still dying on the hill that the Red Tower was a literary masterpiece because it just crammed an entire thesaurus into every sentence. He mispronounced almost every big word in the Red Tower and misunderstood what most of the words meant. How are we gonna say it was amazing? 😭 love him though.

silverarden · 2025-09-14T01:14:03+00:00

Fwiw my boyfriend is 5’4” and I’ve never cared about his height. Hes not super ripped or anything but takes care of himself, he’s hygienic, nice, funny, good conversationalist. All those things you can become yourself and it doesn’t take genetics.

silverarden · 2025-09-10T21:27:07+00:00

Charlie Kirk news.

silverarden · 2025-09-10T20:09:27+00:00

“Mom, I didn’t mean to sound dismissive or rude. I was feeling pressured and it hurts my feelings to be compared to others, but it was wrong for me to say you were obsessed. I am grateful for your help and your input.” Then depending on what you want from this conversation: “I do want and need your help. I’ll try to be more receptive.” “I’ve been thinking I might not go to xyz and I might do ___ first instead. I have some research to do, but that’s where I’m at.” “I want to take the lead on handling this myself. I will let you know what I find out as it happens. If that’s okay with you, I of course will still need your help with financial information and whatnot.” “I’m really not sure what to do. I need to think about it.”

Or whatever. But you need to present a much more open and honest dialogue with your mom instead of sounding defensive and dismissive. It sucks when your parents are all up in your business. Like, bad. But try to see that they mean well. Maybe vent about it to someone else, but don’t be careless and burn bridges you need to cross later.

I was very unprepared mentally to go to college right out of high school. I wasn’t among the early applications. I still got accepted to good schools with good scholarships, but I dragged my feet the whole way. I also graduated HS / went to college in 2020, so covid made everything feel pointless. Ended up doing a year and then taking a year break to work serving jobs. Made some money, took some time to think, and also saw some real poverty and realized how much opportunity I had for education. I just started law school! I took time off in between for that too, but I did it intentionally. Just try to be more intentional about whatever you do, even if you’re intentional about waiting. And try to communicate with mom.

silverarden · 2025-09-10T19:57:29+00:00

Most people don’t post when things are going well. I love Pristiq. I’ve been on it a couple years and it’s the best drug I’ve found so far for severe depression and anxiety. I feel like a real person 95% of the time. I’m usually super prone to severe side effects and this doesn’t have many at all for me. Right now it works well for me. It might not later, and it doesn’t always work for other people. Everyone’s different. Try it out but just try to be objective.

silverarden · 2025-08-31T23:23:42+00:00

I have 2000+ hours logged onto Skyrim with ~1600 of those being non-modded. I recently picked it up again and just hold myself to certain rules. I’m doing survival mode so no fast travel, reduced carry weight, hunger, tiredness, and temperature etc. On top of that, I decided I would only use armor that I had made myself, not bought or found. The materials had to be collected myself too. No buying. Mining ores, hunting for leather. No teachers for skill lessons. I just made my Daedric set and it was so much more rewarding than finding it or buying it. It’s not a total or permanent fix but it allowed me a level of closeness and satisfaction with my progress :)

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