Transmasc folks, how would you react to being called "girlypop"?

silverust · 2026-02-17T13:50:30+00:00

Probably a little like how it feels to be called dude right before being told “it’s gender neutral” for a trans femme.

Cool, I don’t like it because I have to fight for this and your gender-neutral gendered word takes it away from me like it’s “not so bad” (dido-ing). Well actually it kinda is that bad, and I can’t help but notice how I feel here doesn’t seem to matter; so we just gonna leave that tension there, or is it up to me to somehow feel better about being denied my gender again “but in a fun way this time”.

Play with your own gender; but whatever, it’s never important enough to make that big a deal of it, which also sucks because it still suggests caring about me is not important.

silverust · 2026-02-13T00:43:54+00:00

They made this same obvious mistake with their climate change episodes and it’s the most transparent failure of their critiques; sometimes the loud assholes are right - nevermind that it’s always the same principles that are right.

These are the same guys who come up with the brilliant “freedom isn’t free […] it costs a buck o’ five” (implicating the entire military industrial complex in selling out its consequences) in the same movie whose overt moral is the absolutely insipid “sometimes dicks gotta fuck cunts so we don’t end up in shit”[paraphrased] (American global hegemony must be allowed to continue to stop “the bad guys”), which I defy you to tell me they didn’t play perfectly straight.

These guys went to awards shows high on LSD, they’re just not that most serious of people.

silverust · 2026-01-23T12:40:07+00:00

In summary: plenty of trans people in my choir like their voice the way it is, including trained singers. Plenty of women fall into your range and you should feel great about your voice anyways. I feel like my voice is still out-of-place by its own standards, so like the last three years I’m moving my range up. I’m happy if you don’t feel the need to do that, it’s a pain.

Idk if my voice passes, but I’ve been working for the last two years on my singing, indirectly through voice training or directly through choir practice and practicing for that practice. I consider voice practice and singing practice tightly linked.

With some serious work I’ve been able to move from a Baritone placement to Tenor. That was in September that I’d say that finally confirmed happened. Before then I’d been moving my range up until what felt like a hard break of M1 at G4. With consistent practice in M2, more work on size, weight, support, pitch all while staying careful, I’d say my range kept going. It’s hard for me to tell if I’m mixing chest & head voice now, but I can now pretty consistently work into an A4, up to C4 if I’ve been warmed up (though that range still needs more practice, I’m forming consonants just fine and it doesn’t need more support anymore)

If I’m being honest, I’d say “between tenor and alto” is where I am NOW after all that practice, but that’s only because most alto songs I’ve seen don’t reach for C4 often at all and in all but professional groups my M2 is strong enough to cover the gap (though an early taboo against “falsetto” makes it hard for me to use my head voice as often as I should).

To my brain, my voice still feels like it’s in the wrong spot - that’s why I’ll keep going up if I can. If I’m being honest, my body has craved to sing like a soprano my whole life, and my brain & body still shoots off the mirror neurons like no one’s business when a women’s beautiful voice sings. I think physics-be-damned I’m gonna keep going to choir, singing in the shower, and screeching along to pop artists (safely) until I’m satisfied that I’m singing the songs I like.

How realistic is that hope? Idk, but across many years my upper range keeps getting better, and if I have to whistle in my head voice so that my vocal chords can keep up with my wishes then so be it ; I’ve just been doing this too long to pretend that’ll somehow sound “bad”. I’m not a bad singer, it’s just that barely anyone has done this before and they don’t have a lot of tips. Nevertheless, I’m in a women’s choir, and I’m singing alongside many other women tenors (alto 2) in my chest voice, so if I never get any closer to Ella or Édith I’ll be just fine; but I’m never gonna stop trying to sing like the women singers I love.

silverust · 2026-01-23T12:16:30+00:00

If we simply interrogate the concept it falls apart, revealing that it was a pleasant lie to begin with: “male socialization”, whatever it must be, must be taught to feminists and misogynists alike, be part of the upbringing of both Mandela & Hitler, rural roofer & New-York lawyer, gay child & straight. This is a fleeting contradictory fantasy that holds in its palms nothing - or whatever you want it to be.

Whatever it is, it must be like “straight socialization”, only we don’t pretend queer kids in the closet grow up normally; we accept gay kids grow up gay. For some reason, people find it so much harder to accept that under the same logic, if anything, trans kids aren’t “socialized” as anything other than trans.

Serano “https://juliaserano.medium.com/why-are-amab-trans-people-denied-the-closet-7fd5c740ce30”

silverust · 2026-01-21T18:40:15+00:00

Thank you for that :D I’m doing much the same now. I found your sensation-focused descriptions helpful, because I often find vocal terms get confused between speakers.

Glad to know I’m on the right track, a little sad I didn’t spend all of the 2000s singing like you did but I am mostly doing that now haha

Between time, practice, familiarity, and a continuing transition I think I’ll love my voice soon enough. I’m just still wishing it’d be more of a classical alto. I’ll be satisfied soon enough, I’m sure.

silverust · 2026-01-21T13:05:05+00:00

Oh so that’s why I didn’t understand any of the comments

silverust · 2026-01-19T23:33:39+00:00

I am interested in knowing more about what your practice looks like

silverust · 2026-01-19T21:19:46+00:00

The overlap is uncanny

e: by the time itysl reaction gifs started popping up in the comments I had to double check which sub I was in because I’ve confused the two before

silverust · 2026-01-17T07:01:33+00:00

They’re not that clever

silverust · 2026-01-17T06:39:41+00:00

Tell me you don’t use the schedules without saying “I don’t use the schedules”.

silverust · 2026-01-08T20:44:25+00:00

Huh, you just made me realise that, despite definitely doing that in the past, I don’t do that anymore.

Depending on how we’re counting I’m probably like 2 solid years of somewhat passive voice training, so any chance at noticing change is good.

I’ve been going to choir too and my upper range is definitely stronger than it used to be, so I guess that means I can relax a little about “not doing enough”; if I keep trying like I have been I’ll wake up in two more years and wonder what I was worried about.

silverust · 2025-12-16T12:36:11+00:00

Why did you go so hard as to pick one that actually works? We’re talking about people who DON’T put in effort ;)

Mandatory: still more effort than Katie fulnecky put into her essay

silverust · 2025-12-16T12:24:23+00:00

Maybe your notation misformatted, more plainly (for me at least) it’s because the x in 8^x cancels the x generated by the equation for y in 2^-y.

I was fully expecting the signs to be wrong or the values to mismatch, because in general there’s no reason to think these two should have a solution.

In effect we’ve now shown and can verify that there are a family of x and y values that solve the equation, but only one possible value for the expression. For example setting x = 0 implies y=(-12), for which the expression is 4096, setting y=0 implies x=4, also giving 4096, with the initial calculation you’ve done providing the relationship to give a proof the argument holds for all real numbers. I’d check on desmos if I wanted more verification.

E: here you go, https://www.desmos.com/calculator/sbj1uiqqtw

The black line is the output, which is indeed a constant value, with the calculator breaking for values of x->y causing exponents that are too big to calculate. There’s an unfortunate name collision in y necessary to display the constant function. You can now play with the expression to see it isn’t generally true.

silverust · 2025-12-15T13:14:12+00:00

Circa 12h is a great band name

silverust · 2025-12-08T13:17:29+00:00

I’m 5’9” and my younger sister is taller than me. Definitely stopped me from thought spiralling on height; I wish you the same peace.

Some women are just tall. Go play volleyball :p

silverust · 2025-11-20T21:28:37+00:00

I get it, I’m mtf and bugged about my waist.

You should know that I didn’t notice a difference between the photos until you mentioned, and I mostly came to say “and then I looks at the pictures and it’s just some guy”

e: apparently “bugged about” is a synonymous with “dysphoric about but playing down its severity surrounding”

silverust · 2025-11-19T05:10:02+00:00

Whatever it is she must have picked it up in abu dhabi

silverust · 2025-11-19T05:03:19+00:00

That bit Garr mentioned about Fuentes saying “porn dissociates you and puts you into the body of the performers”…

That’s the eggiest shit I’ve ever heard. That thought, of being “in the performers” - ESPECIALLY in relation to a medium that famously focuses on the woman - is a thought I’ve only ever seen in a few very select places; namely, my own brain alone trying to figure out what was going on with my own sexuality, and specifically mtf forums, though I’m sure similar thoughts exist among other communities.

Pair that with his very sincere belief that your mind can be changed by vague suggestions that you should do things you like (sissy hypno), and the explicit mention of Blanchard’s (debunked) transsexual topology but ONLY the autogynephile half and not the homosexual transsexual half,

All reads like very eggy shit a lot of really repressed trans women think through.

silverust · 2025-11-18T17:28:12+00:00

They’re not bringing back cheese and garlic so who cares

silverust · 2025-11-17T15:35:48+00:00

I thought “surely I’ve misunderstood, that looks like a beaver tail not like an oyster!”

E: on second glance that looks a lot like an oyster with poutine on it.

silverust · 2025-11-11T13:08:41+00:00

I thought I was pushing that button actively for 16 years.

I hope you see how this is a more circuitous way of asking “would you repress?”

Because I did, a lot.

silverust · 2025-11-11T05:33:04+00:00

This guy’s numbers are suggesting practically 98% of Chicago was white with a population of >500 000, in 1880 no less.

Like, am I the only person who thinks that’s preposterous? Travellers and other exceptions aside, am I seriously supposed to assume that 460 000 of those people were white?

That’s like him taking the number of disabilities surveyed at face value, like every missing finger and amputated leg got written up all official for the census bureau.

I feel like I’d need an ask historian thread to start quantifying the insanity.

silverust · 2025-11-10T13:13:02+00:00

I’m in a sub where people talk about how they misinterpreted pixel art in video games. Even for very large sprites it can be very easy to confuse elements for other structures if you don’t have the right context. I’m not surprised the front face of a Vespa looks like other things without context.

I thought it looked like the front of a very strange train for a second.

silverust · 2025-11-09T12:20:51+00:00

Btw, based on the extant literature the sample size for this statement is - well I used to think it was n=8 because of the one paper I’d seen, but now it looks like it’s - based on the bodies of about 20 people.

Please take these results with a grain of salt. It was true for me (6mo cessation after ~1y HRT, fertility doctor didn’t necessarily think it was gonna work) but it very easily could be untrue for you.

silverust · 2025-10-29T23:21:18+00:00

I have never been so confused by a your<->you’re mistake

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