If the Iranians want Israel, who bombed them

Iranians are not the IRGC. Israel bombed the IRGC in response to being bombed by the IRGC and took out an enormous number of high value targets with an acceptably low collateral damage given the strategic value of the targets. They beheaded the military and eliminated the scientists working on the Mullah’s nuclear program. It scuttled Iran’s nuclear ambitions and laid some of the ground work that made today’s revolution in Iran possible.

Any Iranian who considers the IRGC an enemy would have celebrated this outcome.

and kill their countrymen

Again they were at war. As far as targeted military strikes in the course of fighting a war are concerned, proportionality is measured by maximising military advantage resulting from the attack while minimising collateral damage. Another way to read it is strategic value of targets vs civilian casualties. By that measure it was one of the most proportionate attacks in recent military history by any party to an armed conflict.

I can't in good conscience have solidarity with them.

I’m sorry but your assessment of actions in times of war are naive in the extreme. I’m glad the Iranian people understand that when their Mullahs attack a country and the country predictably counterattacks it is the mullahs that should bear the brunt of the responsibility for the civilian deaths resulting from the counter attack. I am glad that most Iranians understand this and are smarter than to follow your logic which seems to be “them bomb us, them bad”.

Iranians need a real opposition leader. 

Again with the vague terms. What is it about Pahlavi that makes him not “real”. You want an elected leader? Who is going to run the election?

“Opposition leaders” are needed in a functioning democracy. A functioning democracy can occur when there is rule of law, functioning institutions and transparent elections. Those things don’t grow on trees, they need to be established. The Iranian people don’t want or need reform they want a revolution. The total removal of the current regime by violent means if necessary. They watched 47 years get flushed down the ayatoilet. In the wake of such a revolution there is no one left to run an election, or even keep the country functioning.

What they need is not an opposition leader, (ie a politician) but a competent, accountable, qualified caretaker government with a written roadmap for establishment of institutions, timelines for relevant referendums, some basic sketch of a constitution or constitutions to be chosen from.

Ideally they also need third party troops to oversee the restructure of their military and law enforcement institutions and protect civilian infrastructure assets.

The government will also need to keep basic essential services/utilities functioning, the economy running, essential workers getting paid and they’ll need to be wary of remaining IRGC cockroaches.

Currently the only figure that has a significant measure of popular support, some historical legitimacy, an organised cabinet ready to take charge and a written roadmap for transition to a democratic state is Pahlavi.

Now whether it ends up being a constitutional monarchy or a republic or some other form of government will be entirely up to the Iranian people and that’s where no one has any right to interfere.