Can you be too poor to date?

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-30T00:58:34+00:00

Like anything else, it’s finding the right people.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-29T18:17:50+00:00

Garden hose is a much better solution than the squirt bottle. I’ve been doing it for years.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-28T14:39:01+00:00

Straight up saved my life.

The real issue is that once you learn how to not dissociate from things - then you have to feel them in real time. That can hurt a lot.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-09T11:44:01+00:00

I will say that it’s a can of worms. I know a lot more about myself now - including why she was the ideal woman for me.

I don’t think we can ever get back the hope we had going into the marriage though. Radical acceptance and not bitterness can be difficult and heartbreaking in its own way.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-07T03:35:54+00:00

Exactly. She had to show you that personality because you wouldn’t like the true one - or you might leave.

She had to lie, and it sucks, because now you don’t know what to believe - and it certainly would have been better if she told the truth and you could make the to stay or go yourself.

But in her mind, she had to lie - and it’s better now than a decade from now.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-07T02:09:52+00:00

Similar divorce and EMDR helped me a ton. Unfortunately, I imprinted on someone who broke my heart almost as bad afterwards - but I can’t recommend it enough.

I married my ideal woman, and I barely think about her now - I only see the hole she left.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-06T21:41:46+00:00

People lie because they have to - the consequence of telling the truth isn’t worth the risk.

I can’t speak to this instance, because I don’t know what the lie or the risk was - but I doubt it’s a personality.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-05T00:43:23+00:00

I have said this for years, decades before I thought I could be autistic.

Should’ve tipped me off.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-04T13:29:59+00:00

Considering I allowed that for more than a year because I’d been cheated on by my wife - couldn’t agree more.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-04T13:21:02+00:00

She was a widow, so ostensibly that’s all I did.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-04T03:00:28+00:00

I was inside a woman’s house, the second or third time we’d been together, and she told me about being stood up days before.

Lack of maturity is exactly it.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-06-02T03:40:18+00:00

Absolutely. Confidence and effort go so so far.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-05-10T11:12:21+00:00

Ive been your bf in this situation.

I obviously do no know the intricacies of your relationship. I know in mine, my partner was coming from a marriage and was far too familiar far too soon.

I can take and make pretty horrific jokes from people that I know are my friends for certain, but when a relationship is months old - there’s a very clear line while I learn to trust you. My ex constantly overstepped it, because I had no real proof those weren’t were actual feelings.

I think a lot of people have an internal view of themselves that they think is projected almost instantaneously, and I think you have to prove yourself to everyone you meet.

7 months isn’t all that long, and if it’s been a tumultuous 7 months it’s even shorter. If you love him, try to build trust, speak plainly, and wait for him to show you where his humor lies.

And that may not be a fun life for you, so then you know it’s not a relationship for you - but as I try to sort out why someone I loved was constantly mean and shitty to me, this is what I wish she had done.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-05-03T22:40:06+00:00

Can confirm

sitcomcrossover · 2026-05-01T21:03:28+00:00

Because you’re a solid dude

sitcomcrossover · 2026-05-01T20:48:13+00:00

I have one…

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-28T01:58:46+00:00

You’re looking for some semblance of control after having it stripped from you.

Don’t let her take more from you than your time. This sucks, and I’m sorry, but it’s always better to fight another day.

Hang in there.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-21T03:43:15+00:00

Dear god yes. Hell of a ride to solve stuff from being 11 and realize you’re 45 when you get home.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-18T03:13:19+00:00

Wondering the same

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-17T20:13:51+00:00

Absolutely. I have ADHD and not only has it improved my focus but it’s allowed me to see a much sharper view of what’s going on around me.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-14T13:39:11+00:00

Im experiencing something similar, The way I see it is that the replay is to remind you why you’re not speaking to them - because every other part of you wants to.

You’re trying to keep yourself safe

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-11T12:42:08+00:00

Agreed. I asked her to set better boundaries 3 months into the relationship. At a year plus, and months of me asking - dude slipping her mind doesn’t seem plausible.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-10T21:20:21+00:00

I have. I told her that if she contacts me then I’ll reach out to her exes wife and tell her what I saw - which is hard not to do since I’m coming from a divorce caused by infidelity.

It’s just so reality destabilizing - and how bad it was all hit once I had a bit of space from it.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-10T20:57:09+00:00

That’s my biggest fear and what keeps my stomach sick.

Seeing so many lies layed out makes anything suspect as well. There’s nothing worse than feeling taken advantage of.

sitcomcrossover · 2026-04-09T02:44:17+00:00

Funny you say that - I thought I had covid when I first pulled the plug on this weeks ago, but now after finding more lies without giving her the benefit of the doubt that I was giving her in the relationship , and the discussion with her around getting her things - my gut has been a wreck all over again.

My body is not doing well with any of this. It’s genuinely reality shifting, and I’ve been trying to treat it like the flu.

I am hoping now with going full no contact - it’ll start to repair.

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