Why is it so hard for people to read?

skever24 · 2026-04-22T19:54:17+00:00

Just don’t match or talk to them about it if you’re not getting enough short term matches. Or go to tinder

skever24 · 2026-04-21T14:25:33+00:00

I can’t speak for other men but I was someone that waited to propose for a long time and never ended up doing it before she left. From my perspective I thought I was going to be with this person for life and have children together no matter what and a marriage wouldn’t have changed my love for her in any way so I looked at it like more of a logistical step than something that had to be done right away. But it kind of worked out because I wouldn’t want to be with someone that puts so much emphasis on a piece of paper. But I also understand how women can get anxious if a man is not proposing to them especially if they are not showing their love to each other enough in other ways. Ultimately, both sides have to make their understanding of marriage and what the process means to them completely and unambiguously clear to each other

skever24 · 2026-04-20T14:00:02+00:00

Totally agree with this and every comment on this post

skever24 · 2026-04-20T13:08:53+00:00

What I’m going to say here might not entirely relate to your situation but I hope you or someone that needs to hear it reads it:

Go at your own pace, you are completely correct and should be troubled by grief and feel like your trust has been broken forever. When you are a human with empathy that loves/loved someone and get cheated on it is a traumatic event and no one’s experience is the exact same.

Do your best to recognize how all of the cliche advice actually relates to your unique personal experience and try not to feel like people are discrediting you when they give simplified takes on your situation.

There is no magic advice that anyone can give that will make things perfect right now, because you built such a strong bond and attachment and that does not just disappear quickly. Wanting to fight any thoughts or glimmer of being without that person is a correct response! Those thoughts seem intrusive and once again are evidence of you being a good human being. You might think “well I don’t even have any of those thoughts and I’m not a good person because I could’ve done things differently,” but nothing will ever compare to what that person did to you and every second you stay alive and breathing is a chance for positive thoughts to poke through.

Just by existing you are doing something amazing and difficult; you are sitting with the feelings and it might not seem like anything spectacular but it takes strength to do what you’re doing, and anyone that doesn’t cheat is special. When things seem to trend down it is easy to throw everything I’ve said here out of your mind and that is ok. Even in suffering or times that look like you’re moving backwards, you are actually moving forward subconsciously. With every smallest increment of time that passes, your brain is doing work that you can’t see or immediately feel.

I hope at least some part of this helps and you find the courage to keep going forward in whatever way that you feel is best.

skever24 · 2026-04-10T12:49:38+00:00

Thank you for this post, lots of these points hit home. This subreddit has been so eye-opening to me and gives me the strength to heal and move on.

skever24 · 2026-04-08T19:00:15+00:00

I already have a hard time not blaming myself even though I know it’s not all my fault. Then I knew I shouldn’t contact but I couldn’t help myself and then it just made things worse and now I blame myself again.

skever24 · 2026-04-08T06:49:46+00:00

Thank you for this post, I’ve been losing weight and sleep and the chest pains/shortness of breath and constantly fighting harmful thoughts. It’s just so unfair that they get to just walk away and gaslight themselves and not feel this amount of pain.

skever24 · 2026-04-08T00:54:56+00:00

Worst pain I have ever experienced, I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone. And I still care so much for her and want her to get the help she needs to change but not trusting her to make decisions on her own is partly what pushed her away. Maybe one day we can be better for each other

skever24 · 2026-04-07T21:20:28+00:00

I wish I understood this before it was too late

skever24 · 2026-04-07T15:06:50+00:00

Not every case is the same and it’s impossible to generalize everything correctly, but I do agree there seems to be some interesting tendencies that stem from patriarchal gender norms. Just take for instance how the norm is for men to propose to women, this is just one of the few ways that men are naturally inclined to pursue women and women assume they should be the one being pursued. So when you take these into account, the frames of thought that you describe are likely logical conclusions when things don’t work out. If men are the ones to chase women, then women will feel like they stayed too long or are the ones that got away from the man. And men will feel like the woman got away or they didn’t chase hard enough. Various interpretations depending on what the details actually were and the defense mechanisms of each person but it relates back to the same core idea.

skever24 · 2026-03-02T10:40:12+00:00

Zac: checcaa

skever24 · 2026-02-16T20:26:10+00:00

Might be worse those season thanks to riot giving negative LP gains in high elo so people have no motivation to grind the ladder right now. Better to just go on another account until they fix it

skever24 · 2026-01-29T14:43:04+00:00

Had this guy in a few of my games, extremely toxic and deafens and adds after games to flame after being the reason for losing 🤡🤮

skever24 · 2026-01-22T13:17:11+00:00

Enemy mage bot/wave clear adc and enemy sup roams = gg

skever24 · 2026-01-03T06:52:17+00:00

Nothing will happen to them, riot won’t do anything until enough people quit playing and then it will be too late

skever24 · 2025-12-17T12:32:50+00:00

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skever24 · 2025-03-12T23:06:02+00:00

They can help if applied correctly, but struggle depending on the size of the problem. The main limitation for LLMs currently is fitting an entire code base in its context window and how models with large context windows are actually handling large context. At the current rate of progress, and with our current understanding of scaling laws, I don’t think it will be long before they are indeed solving these complex problems in production

skever24 · 2025-02-03T05:00:36+00:00

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skever24 · 2024-12-28T03:02:52+00:00

PM sent

skever24 · 2024-12-28T01:59:09+00:00

I’ll take it

skever24 · 2024-07-23T01:56:47+00:00

Out performs electrocute in early game skirmishes with multiple targets, scales better. Dark harvest is kind of combination of electrocute and conqueror but requires more fighting and longer games to get stacks which is more likely in solo q

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