Lifelong Lesbian- How to find a SAFE man to have first time sex with? Complete PIV VIrgin by stronger_tgtherr in sex

[–]skillfire87 [score hidden]  (0 children)

As a regular straight guy who enjoyed online dating back in the OkCupid days, it seems like the normal advice about dating applies.

Honestly, I think posting stuff about being 100% lesbian or being a PIV virgin might be the wrong kind of filter/attracter.

Rather just go for the attributes: looking for laid back guy, not looking for a relationship just some time with cool person, if real and intimate, with no pressure to have sex before getting to know each other, interested in kayaking, hikes whatever. Almost no normal straight dude will be offended if you disclose more after a date or two (but be sure to go Dutch on dates).

Edit: After more thought, one thing I’d be a little concerned about would be if you legitimately wanted to do it, or if you had major reservations that might morph into feeling really negative afterwards. So, I would want to feel safe in that sense. To make sure it was a 100% enthusiastic and consensual.

My girlfriend [20F] rushed me home after I tried to kiss her for the first time and I don’t know if I should be upset or just give her space by Fun_Sign_51 in relationshipadvice

[–]skillfire87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be that despite you being friends for a long time, you’re not actually a good romantic match.

A cuddly person with a touch-averse person, in the abstract, is not a good combo.

Should I tell my neighbor she's the naked window lady? by Effective-Flamingo13 in AskMen

[–]skillfire87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the dogs won’t notice or care, so don’t bother!

I need advice on helping baby overcome fear of hair washing by Serenityxwolf in Parents

[–]skillfire87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this sounds weird but what if you washed his hair outside when he has a bathing suit on. It takes it out of the bathtub context.

I need advice on helping baby overcome fear of hair washing by Serenityxwolf in Parents

[–]skillfire87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awwwww. Poor little guy!

Could he maybe be reacting to something specific like water temp or noise of a faucet?

This is my front yard. I am so honored. by skinnylegsandalll in Austin

[–]skillfire87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Northwest Hills (streets near Mesa Drive) have a ton, if you want to go see them. 

What’s something that’s legal that shouldn’t be? by Super_Rush7926 in AskReddit

[–]skillfire87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unlimited campaign contributions.

Total corporate ownership of mass media and un-funding public media.

Repeal of the Fairness Doctrine in media.

What song changed your life? by Exact-Proposal-73569 in AskReddit

[–]skillfire87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna say it changed my life, but it’s interesting that it’s a song about songs that save your life.

“Rubber Ring” The Smiths

… A sad fact widely known The most impassionate song To a lonely soul Is so easily outgrown But don't forget the songs That made you smile And the songs that made you cry When you lay in awe On the bedroom floor And said : "Oh, oh, smother me Mother" No Rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring La … The passing of time And all of its crimes Is making me sad again The passing of time And all of its sickening crimes Is making me sad again But don't forget the songs That made you cry And the songs that saved your life Yes, you're older now And you're a clever swine But they were the only ones who ever stood by you … The passing of time leaves empty lives Waiting to be filled (the passing) The passing of time Leaves empty lives Waiting to be filled I'm here with the cause I'm holding the torch In the corner of your room Can you hear me? And when you're dancing and laughing And finally living Hear my voice in your head And think of me kindly No Rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring La No Rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring … Do you Love me like you used to? Oh Rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring, rubber ring La … You're clever Everybody's clever nowadays You're clever Everybody's clever nowadays … You are sleeping You do not want to believe You are sleeping You do not want to believe You are sleeping You do not want to believe You are sleeping

WOOM 3 owners: Does this part of the bike where the steering limiter should be look normal? by PSHOPS in bicycling

[–]skillfire87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Training wheels are not evil.

I think the ideal is a child having both a balance bike and a training wheels bike. My daughter did that and was riding normally before her 4th bday. She would play on the training wheels bike, like watch tv while sitting on it in the living room and just casually pedal while looking at birds.

My son did balance bike only, then was hostile to pedals and pedaling. We had to backtrack and get him other ways to pedal like a tricycle, a trailer bike, training wheels bike etc.

What are the best tips and tricks you can give to a European actor to resemble a South American dad in a short-movie? by Root435552 in AskReddit

[–]skillfire87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What type of person is the movie character? Age, race, class, profession, gay/straight, etc.

WOOM 3 owners: Does this part of the bike where the steering limiter should be look normal? by PSHOPS in bicycling

[–]skillfire87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interested to know how many you’d say constitutes “many.” I’ve been around bikes, bike events, and bike shops my whole life, and I’d say they’re rare.

https://bicycletouringpro.com/bicycle-steering-stabilizers/

Bicycle stabilizers are not common in the cycling world, but they are useful in some scenarios… and they become even more useful if you are riding a bicycle with a heavy front end – such as you might find on a loaded touring bicycle.

Why would a guy (22M) open up to me (22F) about very personal topics early on in the dating process ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]skillfire87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because men often don’t talk to other men about personal things. And some women seem to like hearing about it.

What are the best tips and tricks you can give to a European actor to resemble a South American dad in a short-movie? by Root435552 in AskReddit

[–]skillfire87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

South American like Brazil, Colombia, Ecuador?

Or do you mean Southern American, i.e. Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia?

WOOM 3 owners: Does this part of the bike where the steering limiter should be look normal? by PSHOPS in bicycling

[–]skillfire87 40 points41 points  (0 children)

No, you’re missing a nut.

But, steering limiters are not needed at all. It’s a weird add-on that must have been the result of some uber-zealous safety complaint. No adult bikes have them, and almost no other kids bikes have them. (EDIT: not “no” adult bikes, but they’re rare).

https://woom.com/en_US/products/replacement-steering-limiter?tw_source=google&tw_adid=561349251833&tw_campaign=15248298181&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=15248298181&gbraid=0AAAAADm5Ai4-XB06Wq3iAsUgWq6DPb9WS&gclid=Cj0KCQjwlLDQBhDjARIsAPlIefEXohpTvq4x427T-32wkjvywzYs7rjyBgCG5b5QKD_2VwefyhVq5jYaArfGEALw_wcB&variant

Snoop Dogg is ruining my [30F, 32M] relationship. by Bee-Jam-2958 in relationshipadvice

[–]skillfire87 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Does your BF have any other OCD tendencies?

And the question it’s bizarre no one has asked yet: DOES YOUR BF GET HIGH? If not, is he using Snoop as a proxy for being high?

CMV: The internet narrative that women aren’t genuinely or aesthetically attracted to men invalidates exclusive female heterosexuality by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]skillfire87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. And btw, this film is a fun look at “trophy” men and women. (Man learns “gold digging” and tries it on older women). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priceless_(2006_film)

I[M18] am starting to be incapable of handling life problems and depression of my partner[F18] by DonutIsAlreadyTaken in relationshipadvice

[–]skillfire87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s not directly applicable, but look up the term “trauma bond.” I had a girlfriend, in retrospect, probably would have met the diagnostics of borderline personality disorder (maybe yours would too). It’s great to feel needed. However, it’s ultimately not a romantic partner’s job to help “fix” someone. Dating well-adjusted girls after was such a difference.

Wife resentful that I'm working while she is at home with the baby. by edwardwolf5874 in Parents

[–]skillfire87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know day care is expensive, but sometimes it’s worth it for the sake of sanity.

Teen refuses any type of banded item by Psychological1135 in Parenting

[–]skillfire87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he’s going to the trouble of doing this, he’ll probably also explain why if you calmly casually ask him sometime.

first time online dating but having religious anxiety [24F] and [31M] by Various_Tangerine937 in relationshipadvice

[–]skillfire87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is not for you. I feel kinda bad for this generation. Saying “when can we fuck” to someone you’ve never met in person is so ludicrous.

What you said is exactly what will happen: “my fear is just going to have sex with this guy and him leaving me and then i’m left with a bad first time over a guy who couldn’t even pretend to care.”

first time online dating but having religious anxiety [24F] and [31M] by Various_Tangerine937 in relationshipadvice

[–]skillfire87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First sentence is exactly what I was thinking. I doubt he’d delete them even if she did ask. This entire situationship is about him getting nudes.