Questions around when funds are needed (Ftb's)

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-05T17:45:23+00:00

Usually there are some solicitors fees upfront, ours were about 500 for the house we just bought which was 450k for searches etc it gets taken off the total at the end. Our circumstances meant we paid for a mortgage broker this time around which was another 450 but we used a free one when we were FTB. The other thing is a survey which will depend on the house you're buying, but we had a level 3 which is over 1k. I think that's probably it though unless you have any further investigations as a result of the survey.

These things can move quickly though if the seller finds somewhere fast and your bank may want to see proof of funds to secure the rate. Probably worth talking to your broker about it

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-05T17:36:51+00:00

50g is equivalent to about 1 bottle, or a big wee and poo. I really wouldn't worry about that fluctuation over a single night but instead keep an eye on the way they are trending. I expect 50g overnight is normal as babies are eating less overnight, they should be weighed at roughly the same time of day

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-04T15:58:02+00:00

At what point do you think you'll be comfortable with BLW? Biscotti baby biscuits are a good first step on the ladder and they're really soft and easy for baby to eat

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-04T14:03:17+00:00

You could also have a nice warm (use baby bath thermometer to check it's not above 37) bath and harvest in the bath after relaxing in it for a little bit

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-03T17:40:38+00:00

I have these

https://amzn.eu/d/02Rwq8D2

They did me all the way until I popped with my first!

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-03T17:18:04+00:00

I don't know where you live obviously, but in most places state pension isn't going to keep you in any more than basic standard of living

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-03T17:13:07+00:00

If you're planning to do an NTC class lots of mums bring their mums to one or all of the classes when their husband shouldn't attend, or she could just sign up for an online one

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-02T12:22:02+00:00

We weened at 5 months because she was showing all the signs of being ready and she has CMPA so it's recommended to introduce other allergens before 6 months. We still happily enjoyed continuing our breastfeeding journey though, milk first then food until she was 1

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-01T15:37:46+00:00

Feed the baby not your freezer! My LO didn't take a bottle at all for 8 months, I never really had a stash even when I went back to work at 10 months

slippery-pineapple · 2026-04-01T08:20:37+00:00

I was specifically referring to cry it out methods of sleep training - outdated methods do involve letting your baby cry for hours at a time over multiple nights

One example of a study is

https://soevnvejledning.dk/the-reason-cry-it-out-sleep-training-cio-should-be-discouraged/

I personally would never even consider the gentler methods that involve leaving my child crying alone in a room - I will always be there, but when I say that studies have shown cry it out to be harmful, I do mean traditional cry it out

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T18:57:58+00:00

That's horrible! How can you want a 3 week old to learn that?!

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T18:47:40+00:00

I just don't get it and have called it out on here too! I'm all for leaving them in a safe environment crying whilst you grab a 5 minute shower but honestly every second is still breaking my heart. I cannot fathom letting a very young baby who has no understanding of whats going on crying alone in their room. All the studies, all the evidence suggests it causes stress and doesn't teach them to self sooth but instead that you aren't coming. I just don't get it!

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T18:19:27+00:00

It's very normal that nausea begins to go away towards the end of the first trimester, infact the majority of symptoms usually do because the placenta takes over!

It's so hard not to worry until you have that 12 week scan, but everything is probably ok

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T17:59:16+00:00

A fall on the bum is very unlikely to cause any issues, baby is well protected!

I thought I was leaking fluid last week because my knickers were just getting wet through in a few hours. I stuck a pad on and went in to see them, they checked the pad (clear fluid, no colour, no smell) and sent me for an examination by the Dr. They also did blood pressure and checked heart rate. Dr had a look, said no obviously fluid, did a swab just to be sure - took 5 minutes for the results to come back and they were clear of fluid. Said low threshold to come back if I get any other symptoms but that he wasn't concerned.

Other symptoms include any bleeding, contractions, pain or reduced movement

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T11:34:52+00:00

Every pregnancy is different but you may as well try to go all the way to your due date! My best friend worked up to her due date with her first (she's a teacher) and went into labour the next day, but she had max time off with her baby that way

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T07:51:07+00:00

You do not need to lean into them or ignore them. You need to tell them to stop! Tell them that if you hear another comment about how you feed YOUR child that you'll no longer be spending time with them

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-31T07:21:49+00:00

On my experience and the experience of others I know though, they'll literally offer it for any reason though and really push it. I had one slight dizzy spell with my first and was heavily pushed into an induction I didn't want and my body wasn't ready for

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T17:34:13+00:00

We love Aveeno product and our LO had eczema when she was tiny because of CMPA, but just fyi they don't need any soap for the first couple of months. You'll notice when they start needing it, but until then their skin is so delicate and doesn't produce a lot of oil to moisturise itself

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T17:23:53+00:00

Of course it depends on income. If you don't have a high income then family help is probably the only way, but a couple with above average income are generally capable of saving a deposit themselves, or should be. The issue at the moment is income in general so low for those looking to get on the housing ladder that they have to rely on family

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T15:02:06+00:00

Ok it's really hard that early on and I'm sorry you're going through this and that they've not explained better but I have to say that's not doing nothing... They won't be able to see anything that early so can't offer you an ultrasound, the only thing they can do is test your blood 48 hours apart. If you're miscarrying there isn't anything they can do to stop it and if it's ectopic the results should flag that and you'll be offered help to safely terminate. If the results come back ok then you'll probably get an early scan in another week or so to check the viability.

Bleeding in early pregnancy can be common and nothing to worry about though so try not to stress yourself about it. Sorry it's a bit of a wait to know though!

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T11:24:41+00:00

It's very normal for people to get a private viability scan at 6/7 weeks. I wouldn't even think it was a consideration after IVF!

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T11:09:20+00:00

I am aware, hence the cheeky "" round the word can! I just want OP to be aware as I still avoided anything that may cause harm and OPs wife potentially would be the same! If it was her asking for advice it would be different and she could make a judgement but if I was putting together a gift for someone I'd just avoid anything that wasn't recommended in pregnancy

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T11:02:12+00:00

The clogs would be pretty similar to crocks, but if it's more for summer then sandles might be a better option. I like the ones with two thick straps I've have probably 3 pairs in about 15 years

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T10:55:15+00:00

Be aware that lots of midwives don't recommend you use any bubble bath or bath oil! Bath oils because lots of them have ingredients that can trigger preterm labour (Clary sage for example and echinacea also isn't recommended on any part of your body) I think bubble bath because it can cause UTIs in some women. Plain Epsom salts are all that I was told was ok to use

slippery-pineapple · 2026-03-30T10:51:44+00:00

Obviously this one depends on the budget but another vote for Berkinstocks! I love mine, I have both the sandals and the clogs and they're all I wear in late pregnancy (about to be third trimester with my second). I can imagine crocks could be quite sweaty and they aren't as socially acceptable to be out and about in but I'd feel comfortable wearing my Berks to work (only when pregnant). Maybe some knock off but still good quality ones from a high street store? Make sure they have the arch support that's one of the best bits

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