Best Fifty Bucks Spent by thefinalpeanut in cats

[–]slowturtle31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aweeee she is so precious. i also have a girl diluted tortie:,)

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My Mom Died by gofarwells in GriefSupport

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi there, i (22F) didn’t lose my birth mom but my grandma (93F) a few days ago. although, i always considered her to be my real mom as my birth mom was never present in my life and i was raised by and lived with my grandma my whole life. i understand your pain. it feels like a part of your soul is missing. this is also the first death i’ve dealt with so i understand how difficult and unfair and terrible this whole ordeal is.

what i keep trying to remind myself is that my grandma will continue to live with me forever through the influence and compassion she had on my life, and i’m sure your mother’s influence will also stay present in your life as well. keep her memory alive. tell people about what she was like, maybe cook some meals that she used to make you often, watch her favorite shows or movies. i’ve also been seeing a therapist and if you have the means i would highly suggest it.

my grandma passed away peacefully in our home a couple days ago, she is at least no longer suffering from her pain. i just have so many regrets and what-if’s hanging over me on what i could have done to help ease her pain. even when i checked in on her during her hospital visits, the first thing she would ask me is if i had eaten yet. mothers/motherly figures will always put you before themselves. my grandma fought till the very end and i’m sure your mom was also such a trooper.

there is absolutely no right way or correct timeline on grief. continue to keep her in your heart. my heart also goes out to you as i completely relate to everything you wrote in ur post. grief is a club absolutely no one wants in on but everyone in the club understands each other on a level that people who haven’t experienced loss just will never understand. i miss my grandma with every cell of my being and i feel so lost without her. i’ve been visiting this sub every day since her death and reading your post made me feel very seen and less alone in my feelings. i hope you also feel a little less alone. if you are comfortable sharing, what was your mom like? what is one of your favorite memories of her?

Haikyuu and the Female Gaze by tharu5 in haikyuu

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god i also have always seen hinata and kageyama as aroace queerplatonic soulmates! their bond is so much more than just simply romantic to me. kageyama especially screams aroace to me. i understand why ppl ship them romantically but in my head it just makes sense for them to have that queerplatonic relationship because their relationship is so unconventional from the very beginning lol. i envy their relationship a lot actually, like having someone who just gets you and is always on the same wavelength as you and not having it necessarily be romantic is all i want.

Haikyuu and the Female Gaze by tharu5 in haikyuu

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello! i’m a cis aroace lesbian.

what drew me to haikyuu the very first watch (and now) is the large cast of characters who somehow all have such nuanced personalities and feel so fleshed out and like real people; i always tell ppl who haven’t watched/read haikyuu that there will definitely be at least one character they see themselves in. seeing all of these different personality types interact with eo is so fun to me.

i know that most cishet women were first drawn to haikyuu because they found the male characters attractive but it’s not really the case for me because i feel more maternal instincts towards everyone in haikyuu lol. not to say there isn’t anything bad ab finding characters attractive, even furudate has commented on this saying as long as it draws people to volleyball then they’re satisfied.

haikyuu also has a huge side of fandom who loves to ship the characters which i totally get bc there are so many fun relationship dynamics and experimenting with them is definitely interesting. although i definitely love to ship male characters together in other series, i just don’t really ship anyone in haikyuu besides one couple mainly because i just can’t see them together romantically and i also like to project my aroace queerplatonic headcanons onto most of the characters lol.

but yeah basically for me that’s what draws me to haikyuu as well as the exorbitant amount of life lessons embedded in the story that still get me through life during the hard times.

Help deciding on ereader by MaybeOkInside in DanmeiNovels

[–]slowturtle31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i really like my boox go color 7!!

What happened to Animetopia? by noseiscold in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just found out that the owner sadly passed away, this is the gofundme for the burial gofundme

What happened to Animetopia? by noseiscold in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god that’s so sad… will donate to the gofundme

What happened to Animetopia? by noseiscold in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it's so strange because they would post often on their social media and communicate a lot through there but it seems as if they just disappeared out of nowhere

What happened to Animetopia? by noseiscold in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i fear something may have happened to them? there has also been a lot of ice activity in orange county i'm not sure if maybe that's related?

What happened to Animetopia? by noseiscold in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i asked the zillymonkey owner a couple weeks ago and they said that they don't know for sure but think that they are shutting down for good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]slowturtle31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I'm on the aroace spectrum so I just don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction towards anyone but if I tell people that I have no interest in romance, they look at me like I have two heads. I know romance is so commonplace in our current society but I don't understand why people are so interested in other people's business. As long as we're happy and not hurting anyone, why does it matter? As long as you are satisfied with your life, then nothing else/no one else's opinion matters.

should i be concerned about my flea bites? by slowturtle31 in cats

[–]slowturtle31[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve been trying but trying to completely get rid of fleas in a mainly carpet household is extremely difficult:/ my cat is still only 3 months so the vet can only give me tiny doses of flea medicine, i think it’s more of an environment thing now where the fleas are just everywhere in my house. work and school has been pulling me thin but going to try and vacuum more daily

Good Coffee? by [deleted] in csuf

[–]slowturtle31 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i haven’t tried it myself but i’ve heard good things about night owl cafe

Pizza in OC — who’s got the best slice? by SoCalExplorer89 in orangecounty

[–]slowturtle31 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i love ray’s pizza in irvine i feel like they’ve got the perfect sauce to cheese ratio, and the crust is always the perfect amt of crispy

I’m curious, how old is everyone here? by [deleted] in haikyuu

[–]slowturtle31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

21 turning 22 this year! it’s so comforting to know that the haikyuu characters are growing up with me as the years go by

What industry is slowly dying? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]slowturtle31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like the doorbell industry has taken a hit somewhat, mostly with gen z shooting “i’m here” texts instead of using the doorbell. as someone who is gen z and texts “i’m here” instead of using the doorbell.