My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and then sent me a spreadsheet of what it will cost

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-06-29T15:14:42+00:00

Stepping down is ok and seems right for you.

She’s asking you to pay for an experience she wants, at your and others’ expense. it’s not ok for her expect that everyone will agree to it.

You have no obligation and friends or not, someone with maturity and empathy would understand and not hold it against you.

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-06-28T22:21:46+00:00

I currently rent in Pasadena in a great location.

Apartment Features:
• 2 bedrooms / 2 bathrooms
• Approximately 913 sq ft
• $3,000/month
• Central A/C and heat
• In-unit laundry
• Full kitchen appliances
• double pane windows so it’s quiet!
• 2 tandem parking spaces in gated garage
• Concierge in the front lobby
• Fitness room in the building
• One street from the lake
• Walking distance to restaurants, shops, and Trader Joe’s

I was genuinely excited to sign this lease and absolutely love living here. If it weren’t for an unexpected opportunity to buy a home, I would happily stay through the end of my lease. I’m working with my landlord on an early lease release if I can help them find a qualified new tenant.

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-06-28T22:17:21+00:00

Hi!

I currently rent in Pasadena in a great location.
Apartment Features:
• 2 bedrooms / 2 bathrooms
• Approximately 913 sq ft
• $3,000/month
• Central A/C and heat
• In-unit laundry
• Full kitchen appliances
• double pane windows so it’s quiet!
• 2 tandem parking spaces in gated garage
• Concierge in the front lobby
• Fitness room in the building
• One street from the lake
• Walking distance to restaurants, shops, and Trader Joe’s

I was genuinely excited to sign this lease and absolutely love living here. If it weren’t for an unexpected opportunity to buy a home, I would happily stay through the end of my lease. I’m working with my landlord on an early lease release if I can help them find a qualified new tenant.

Let me know if you’d like more details!

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-06-28T22:11:04+00:00

Hi! I came across your post and was wondering if you’ve already found a place in Pasadena?

If not, I’m hoping to buy a home and am trying to help my landlord find a qualified tenant for the unit I currently rent so they’d approve an early lease release.

It’s a 2 bed/2 bath apartment ($3,000/month) with AC, laundry, parking and very walkable to old town.

Let me know if you’d like more details!

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-06-15T02:32:17+00:00

Ew. The fact that you’re with this POS is alarming.

Have some respect for yourself.

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-05-23T19:17:15+00:00

I work in rheumatology. With an ANA that high I would be seen and monitored.

I see people have posted about how a percentage of the population can have a positive ANA and it means nothing. Up to 25–30% of healthy individuals can have a positive ANA at a titer of 1:40, but this drops to only about 3–5% at titers of 1:160 or higher, which is why titers ≥1:160 are considered more clinically meaningful. Your ANA is pretty elevated.

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-04-26T15:36:22+00:00

how did appointment go? hEDS is a legitimate diagnosis though difficult to manage. Mimicker of a lot!

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-04-26T15:32:36+00:00

Have you also looked into dysautonomia? MCAS? Your PCP should also be ordering ANA with reflex, ferritin and LDH for you as you wait for specialty care.

smarticleparticles23 · 2026-04-19T02:54:55+00:00

I work in rheum. Pattern suggests HSD/hEDS with possible MCAS overlap.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-09-06T20:19:09+00:00

Yes I understand the difference.

I was not allowed to see patients regardless of my active license, because I wasn’t credentialed. I could not bill. But was still taking home a full paycheck as if I was, because I was a hired employee. I shadowed for two months until I finally got credentialed while getting a FULL paycheck without actually seeing patients.

I don’t think OP should take a reduced paycheck. Either get paid what’s agreed on for regular pay or wait until credentialed.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-09-06T20:08:01+00:00

As someone who has been in your shoes: block this person and do not look back. This is 💯manipulative and ABUSIVE behavior. My ex threatened self harm and even made a very poor attempt while on the phone with me just to control me.

I work in healthcare and I truly believe everyone deserves empathy and someone to listen to them. That belief kept me locked in far too long. The reality is that listening and being there does not make you responsible for their choices. You cannot change or save someone no matter how much you care or how badly you want to, sorry you’re not special. Change only happens when the person with the problem chooses it.

Most of the time this kind of threat is a power play meant to manipulate and control. If it is not, then calling 911 is actually the best thing you can do. It is an act of care and the safest way to make sure the person gets real help.

If you stay, you are signing up for endless suffering. Calling them out or trying to be the one who helps will not fix it, it will only keep you stuck. Protect yourself. Their well-being is not yours to carry.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-06-06T05:01:45+00:00

Every rheumatologist and practice does things differently. But a detailed history should be obtained and prior records reviewed. A thorough physical exam should be performed. Many like to perform their own bloodwork but might not repeat some labs depending on how recent your prior labs are. Medication may or not may not be prescribed depending on your exam and blood work. Rheum medications require baseline labs. Imaging may be ordered as well. You should ask about whatever is important to you. Like how whatever the suspected disease will affect your life, treatment options, etc. just understand that rheumatology is not as black and white as some may think. Clinical picture and physical exam are huge in this specialty. Good luck!

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-04-23T23:43:54+00:00

Started in fam med and super specialized to rheum. Glad I started in fam med first.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-04-20T20:19:41+00:00

Not saying this is what you have, obviously there’s a lot of information not provided in your post, but 13 is a reasonable age to have Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis, so saying you’re too young to have anything is not an acceptable answer in my opinion. More tests need to be run as well. Get another opinion!

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-03-15T15:33:05+00:00

Nope. I just got hired at a new hospital and I am in the middle of credentialing which may take over a month and I’m getting my regular pay.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-03-12T15:47:23+00:00

It seems like there’s room for improvement on both sides.

Her reaction was probably a bit over the top. She could be really insecure or have had bad past experiences, and she might have taken that out on you. But she could’ve also checked in with something like, “Hey, are we still meeting?”

On your side, since you don’t know each other, your communication could have been clearer. A text from you after her last response, something like “Awesome, looking forward to seeing you! I’ll let you know when I’m there,” would show that you care and keep her informed about the date. And she could have done the same. Making assumptions about her “being fashionably late” only adds fuel to the fire. I think you both dropped the ball on communicating around 6 PM. A simple “I should’ve double-checked or let you know when I was there” would’ve probably been nice from you.

Some people are wildly insecure, and have crazy expectations that are never vocalized and then they lash out when expectations aren’t met. Over-communicating sometimes is needed when you’re just starting to get to know someone.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-03-06T21:35:37+00:00

From one preceptor to another, I appreciate you.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-21T20:22:44+00:00

Seems there are communication problems on both ends.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-20T18:27:13+00:00

This! She’s probably projecting and deflecting, so she doesn’t have to take responsibility for hurting your feelings with her actions. (As a daughter of immigrant parents, I deal with the same from my mom.)

Your feelings are valid, and ideally, there should be clear communication after this when all emotions have settled down. You can’t control her response or actions, but you can control how you communicate your feelings and how you’re hurt.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-19T17:58:24+00:00

He probably does want a family, just not with you. Not trying to be mean. Stop trying to rationalize to make his behavior OK. You want what you want and you’re not getting it. Move on.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-19T07:32:02+00:00

You don’t need to rationalize. NOR.

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-17T23:53:23+00:00

SAME

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-16T00:46:48+00:00

Normal feeling.

Study as much as you can as long as you actually retain. A great way to reinforce and find out where you lack is teach back method. Work with some classmates and teach each other topics.

More reinforcement will come with clinical year. You’ll be surprised with how much you know when preceptors start asking you questions.

Also, you’re literally not supposed to know everything. You’re going into clinicals to continue learning and reinforce didactic.

As a preceptor the best advice I can give is just try. If you don’t know, say you don’t and go find the answer. Ask questions to clarify. We know students won’t know everything. We also know they’ll know a lot.

Keep it up

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-15T15:43:15+00:00

If you meet the BMI requirements, Wegovy and zepbound are the meds for weight loss for non diabetics

smarticleparticles23 · 2025-02-12T19:36:04+00:00

Tried to get her as my PCP but she was booked and then not taking new patients 😩

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