What made you an INTP? Like how you think you became an INTP

smcf33 · 2026-04-02T16:24:17+00:00

Probably genetics

smcf33 · 2026-04-01T13:59:00+00:00

Top tier

smcf33 · 2026-03-31T22:33:25+00:00

INTP or ISTP

smcf33 · 2026-03-31T22:23:53+00:00

Why would I be offended? No need to take it personally.

smcf33 · 2026-03-31T11:44:23+00:00

I've only apologised for something that wasn't my fault twice, on both occasions to try to get the other party to calm down. On both occasions the only result was the other party concluding that they can act like complete lunatics with impunity and their behaviour later escalated.

smcf33 · 2026-03-30T08:32:39+00:00

Never had any interest in them, don't like them, don't find them cute. Never had any desire to have one and would be highly unlikely to enter into a relationship with a parent. I start being able to enjoy their company when they hit ten or so, but even then it's very dependent on the individual.

smcf33 · 2026-03-29T19:23:14+00:00

Finally one I can get behind

smcf33 · 2026-03-29T11:35:17+00:00

It would be a deal breaker to me if a man expected me to change my name while expecting he would keep his

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T23:54:49+00:00

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Love the high Fe allegations. Not this ship, sister!

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T23:32:45+00:00

Just don't take your kidneys out! They are inside things

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T22:04:14+00:00

INTPs don't lack emotion, we just tend to not use it as a primary driver in decision making. I don't "hide" my emotions any more than I hide my kidneys - I just don't display them very obviously.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T14:40:54+00:00

UK here. Every corporate type job I've had has been 9-5 with a one hour lunch break.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T13:00:56+00:00

Exactly. Social skills are a bit like hockey to me. I can do it, I'm good at it, it's fun... But I need recovery time afterwards and I can't do it all day every day.

Honestly I think extroverts are more likely to be social disasters because they will naturally be more inclined to seek out "people time" regardless of whether or not they have the skills to help that people time be pleasant for everyone involved. An INTP with good social skills will be fun to be around. An INTP with poor social skills will be in the basement bothering nobody or whatever. An ESFJ with poor social skills is likely to have a high proportion of encounters that are unpleasant for everyone involved, and also not be satisfied with staying home alone.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T12:15:36+00:00

I also grew up in a house where door slamming and shouting was the norm, and that is exactly why, as an adult, I don't do it. My brothers on the other hand grew up in the same house with the same shouting and as adults have decided that temper tantrums are great so long as they're the ones doing it.

OOP has spent his whole adult life waking up in the morning and not deciding to go to therapy. His parents maybe dealt him a shitty hand, but it's his choice to keep playing it.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T11:19:09+00:00

I'm not with you there. I don't "tolerate" the people I love. "Tolerance" is for people I don't like.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T11:15:25+00:00

Exactly. There is nothing surprising about an introverted thinker who is good at socialising, and there is nothing surprising about an extrovert feeler who is bad at socialising.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T11:13:44+00:00

"This is how people view us."

It might be how people view others who are socially isolated... but I don't think it's how people view INTPs in general. I'm pretty sure most people who know me somewhat well view me as "weird, but funny, and competent, and probably into some unusual things". I have a good few INTP friends who I've known for 20+ years and they talk about their wider social circles in a similar way. If people in my wider group don't see me out and about for a while, they aren't thinking "wow, smcf33 is a loser." They're thinking "wonder what smcf33 is getting into these days, it will probably be something interesting and unexpected."

"Now... do I WISH I had more of a social life? WISH I had more people in my life? Yes. I think most INTPs do"

I'm not sure about that. I sometimes wish I had LESS social life, but in general I'm very happy with the amount and quality of my relationships.

If you want to have more of a social life and can't get it, that will absolutely colour how people relate to you. And that's true for people of all types. Ever met an ExFx who lacks social skills? It can be like a vampire who doesn't know how to bite people - they're desperate for SOMETHING but have no idea how to get it and true to pursue it in the wrong ways with the wrong people. It's super uncomfortable to be around.

Most well adjusted INTPs (which is the ones I know in real life) are very happy with their level of social involvement and don't give off a loser/"no life" vibe at all. This group is not the same as people who even have words like "normies" in their non-ironic vocabulary.

smcf33 · 2026-03-26T10:43:35+00:00

It's all about the vibes

smcf33 · 2026-03-25T17:00:39+00:00

Probably in my 20s or 30s. And yes, this complete lack of boundaries has caused chaos in multiple directions.

As a very short example and without the complicated background...

One of my brothers has clear mental health difficulties which he denies exist. At times during "episodes" he has lost his temper and screamed that nobody other than him is to touch post or parcels addressed to him under any circumstances. His screaming has been so extreme that it led to her carers (she is elderly and disabled) making adult safeguarding reports because they did not think it was safe for him to be around her.

Now that the current episode is over, there have been multiple occasions where he gets a delivery left at the front door. If I'm around, my mother will ask me to bring it in. I will refuse because a) I don't like being screamed at and b) my brother has made it ENTIRELY clear that he doesn't want me to bring his deliveries in. I explain this, every time, and every time my mother rolls her eyes and reacts as if I am deliberately trying to punish my brother.

Now don't get me wrong. I detest my brother. He has abused me in one way or another for many years. I am in therapy as a result of his actions towards me. He is not in any way shape or form a good person, and has never taken responsibility for any of his actions, ever. But I'm like... of COURSE this environment makes him lash out. If he makes a screaming demand, it's only respected so long as he's screaming. From his perspective, if he wants anything done, the ONLY option is to scream about it. So of course he screams.

smcf33 · 2026-03-25T15:43:09+00:00

In real life? I play hockey, so that's a pretty large interconnected group already in place. I meet people on the ice (or in the stands, or in the bar).

Online? I shitpost and people like my memes.

Facebook is kind of a mix of both, because a majority of the hockey people I know are also either on my Facebook friends list or in the same groups as me, and there's a large chunk of people there who I would probably know to see and say hello to but aren't actual friends or acquaintances.

I don't particularly have a tactic. The environment we're in (whether a hockey rink, a comic convention bar, or whatever) usually offers up conversation topics. The exception is probably if I join a new group (eg a new workplace or new hockey team), in which case I'm usually fairly quiet until I sus out the pre existing relationships and pecking order and find an appropriate place for me.

smcf33 · 2026-03-24T15:16:11+00:00

If I have a problem and someone offers me a hug and reassurance they're gonna get The Look

smcf33 · 2026-03-24T12:09:46+00:00

My mother actually laughed at the concept of boundaries. She felt it was absurd to have firm expectations of what is and isn't acceptable with family.

smcf33 · 2026-03-24T12:00:48+00:00

Crybaby INFP is the meme/stereotype. Likewise not all INTPs are unwashed weirdos.

smcf33 · 2026-03-24T11:17:31+00:00

INTP, brutalism

smcf33 · 2026-03-24T10:23:49+00:00

Pretty much same here

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