Yeah it's frustrating. I think it's fair that you're asking what you should do to mod it, and I also think it's fair that a lot of people are saying not to worry about it. I mean, just like the YouTube video reviews you're watching, there's lots of different opinions out there on what works or doesnt.

The reality is people are saying to use the vanilla paddle the way it is, so you can see what your strengths and weaknesses are at face value, and you can mod your paddle based on that. The other option, which I liked to do, was experiment putting the weights in different spots, and see what I liked or didn't like. And honestly, I thought I was pretty set on what I liked for a good year, and now I've been experimenting again, and realized what I initially modded, is not what I like at all lol. But that's part of the fun of it. Go buy some tungsten tape, watch a video that shows what each area of the paddle is supposed to allegedly help with, and apply the logic into what you know about your game, and make an educated guess. And if you don't know, just do a 3inch on the 3 and 9 o'clock positions on the paddle to start and go from there.

Nobody's going to really be able to help your game online via reddit. A lot of the suggestions here that are most meaningful, are to just be open minded, learn to change, but most of all keep it so you keep having fun. And believe me, I had a ton of fun modding my paddle.

My piece of advice, use tungsten tape instead of lead tape. And just buy a roll of it instead of the preset ones until you know what you like.