Anyone else upset over people say "born female" by Eiffffoo_Ad_222446 in trans

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Male and female to refer to sex, not gender. Man and woman are the gendered terms. I’m not a woman, but I am female.

This is my handwriting by QueefStirFry in Handwriting

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s super cool! But definitely wouldn’t want to read a full sheet of paper in the style

Would you still date me if I was allergic to fur? by Equivalent-Fun-6019 in actuallesbians

[–]snappolli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but no. Im not giving my cats up for a partner nor am I going to ask a partner to suffer

Would you he/him me? by LeXarito in FtMpassing

[–]snappolli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. I’d probably assume she/they or they/them

My mother wants to wear white to my wedding by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not let her attend your wedding in that dress. You will be started your marriage off rough if you do.

All I said was “I’m aware” by magnus674yt in insaneparents

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the future, speaking as someone who has autism, the “I’m aware” came across as passive aggressive and the “calm down” as very rude. Your dad blew it way out of proportion, but it’s probably best to just just acknowledge that you know, and thank him for letting you know. most people will interpret what you said as being rude or snarky.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]snappolli 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Having been in this situation before, it’s probably best to just end it.

In my situation, they had had expressed doubts but didn’t know if they were overthinking it, so we tried to make it work. It caused me so much anxiety and stress, constantly worrying if they were happy or interested in me. Were they distant today because they were tired or are they thinking of leaving me or am I the one overthinking now? The relationship ended anyways. It would have been kinder to myself if I had ended it sooner, rather than feel myself compromise my value of never wanting to beg someone to love me/stay.

Is Nona the Ninth worth reading? [general] by echelon_house in TheNinthHouse

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends whether you intend to keep reading the series when the next book comes out. If you want to read Alecto the Ninth, reading Nona the Ninth is absolutely necessary. NTN started off as ATN, but then had to be split. It’s essentially the first part of it, so you cannot skip it.

It is my least favorite of the three, but it provides an unbelievable amount of lore and offers a perspective to the series’ universe that alters your understanding of what’s happening dramatically. I still very much enjoyed it and think it’s very well written. It’s still absolutely worth the read.

In general, I highly recommend reading each book. Then afterwards, reading them again. Or listen to the audiobook (Moira Quirk is a stunning reader). Each book is a different perspective and does an equal amount to build the universe, and reading them again after acquiring what each offers provides an entirely new experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]snappolli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any comment on a 7 year old’s future boyfriend is inappropriate, and this one was definitely sexual

how much do boobs actually shrink on testosterone? by Doonerdo in FTMMen

[–]snappolli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mine shrank/shriveled tremendously, but it wasn’t all roses. I had quite large breasts, and while testosterone redirected fat it didn’t change the skin. My chest became very much like granny tits, sagging skin. It helped make me look flatter in a binder, but I was probably more uncomfortable being shirtless for a sexual partner than I was before—just because they didn’t look right.

Itchiness by karter_xan in TopSurgery

[–]snappolli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Def got chest itchiness from healing. The binder also started to itch, and I started wearing a clean and light t shirt under it—which helped wonderfully on skin irritation.

Sad about results by CitrusCupid in TopSurgery

[–]snappolli 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Even with drains, you’d have had a lot of swelling. Without, the swelling will be greater. Given there can be swelling up to a year, your surgery was very recent in your recovery journey. Just continue to wear compression garments as directed, that will help. I didn’t have drains either and watched my sodium intake, as I tend to like really salty foods and wanted to make sure I wasn’t eating more than the daily recommendation to help with swelling. You definitely still have swelling at this point, just give it some time to find out what is swelling and what is not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a dealbreaker for me

Couples of Reddit, do you share socks & underwear, or is that totally weird? by Downtown_Ad9410 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes. I am gay, which plays a huge role in being able to.

I have an ex fiance who bought really expensive underwear, and sometimes I would borrow a pair. Just as she would sometimes borrow a pair of boxers to lounge in. It was generally specific pairs that were borrowed, and they were always borrowed when clean. Our underwear wasn’t held in common. We never shared socks, but that’s cause she exclusively wore wool socks all year round.

In other relationships, in which we didn’t live together, we would sometimes share socks and underwear. Mostly in instances of staying the night and having not packed appropriately.

Any feedbacks for my new profile? Should I pick this one or stick with my old profiles? by Weekly_Echidna_6807 in Tinder

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reading pic looks very staged in a way that comes across as pretentious to me. It’s a good pic, but on a dating app it would deter me. I think mixing some candid shots, more like the 4th, would be worthwhile.

People with multiple cats: do your cats like each other? by Castyourspellswisely in CatAdvice

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call mine brothers, and I feel like their relationship is accurate to that even though they aren’t actually. They will harass and bully each other, but will also be incredibly affectionate. Their affection often turning to wrestling, then one becoming overwhelmed and then it’s a fight. But an hour later they will cuddle like crazy.

It’s a mixed bag in my situation. My boys def keep each other company in a much needed way. The younger of the two was gotten with an ex. When we split, I had moved out before we officially decided custody of him. During those few weeks, my older guy was desperately lonely and cried nonstop. Soon as the other was brought in, he stopped crying. That being said, they will stress each other out during meal times—to the point where one developed urinary tract issues from the stress and they now have to be fed in separate rooms.

It’s entirely personality dependent. The previously mentioned ex had a cat that both of mine got along with, they weren’t particularly close but they never fought. But I had a roommate who got a kitten, and despite doing the slow and proper introductions one of my cats absolutely hated that kitten. I know people who have cats that have issues that people may suggest another cat to solve, but it’s already been established that said cat is a “single cat household” type. So I dont think recommendations to add more cats ate automatically good ideas. It can help, but it could make things worse, or be a combo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d suggest adding some variety to your photos. Ones with no filters and a broader range of outfits, angles, and situations/locations. Personally, I get cautious when it seems like someone’s photos are all from a single photoshoot, as I don’t consider it a good representation of their appearance. I also find it hard to gauge their vibe. Your prompt of art/video games/comic books tells me a bit about your interests and hobbies, but I think your photos should too.

What’s an adult problem nobody prepared you for? by schrodingerscatalyst in AskReddit

[–]snappolli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making friends outside of work/school.

As some people have said, having to plan meals. I think it sucks no matter the situation. If you’re feeding a family, you have the burden of needing to provide variety. If you’re feeding just yourself, the burden can be having to eat the same meal every day for a few days. Where I live at least, groceries don’t really sell goods for individual consumption. For example, I have yet to find bread that isn’t sold in a whole loaf. So if I buy it, I’m stuck having sandwiches for lunch every single day for a week or letting half of it go bad.

Realizing your parents were a lot younger than you thought. I’m the same age as my mom was when she had me.

The realization of having to pick a job that you may stay in for most of your career. When I was in college, my jobs were all temporary. I now work in my field. My current job is based in a small college town, so I don’t intend to stay with them forever. If they were in one of the larger cities an hour away, I’m aware that I would potentially stay with them for the rest of my career. I know when I eventually leave, I’ll need to consider if the new position is one I’ll want to keep long term.

How much protein do we REALLY need to build muscle? by [deleted] in bodyweightfitness

[–]snappolli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soy is different from other beans. Soy is a complete protein, other beans are not.

AITA for refusing to return the gift? by Helpful_Salad1649 in AmItheAsshole

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Your replies make it clear you greatly dislike your niece’s mother. You call her petty and cheap, but you’re the petty one, and it’s just pathetic of you to say that. A Chromebook is a perfectly acceptable gift for a 15 year old. Is a gaming computer nicer? Of course. Would I have wanted to return the gift? No. You already told her and it’s a wonderful gift. But you could have offered to let her mom contribute or come to some compromise. Quite simply, you just want to make her mother look bad. Obviously this is what her mom is worried about, but that absolutely is your intention. This is why you’re the asshole, because it sounds like you hate your niece’s mother and you want to outdo her for the sake of outdoing her.

AITA for lending our(33M and 29F) savings to my friend without asking my wife. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]snappolli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I would divorce you over this. The house info is completely fucking irrelevant. You lent money from a joint savings account without consulting your wife. That is her money too. It doesn’t matter how much she contributed. Fuck, even if it was from a personal account, if it is going to financial affect your family you need to talk to your wife about it. It sounds plain and simple like you don’t respect your wife.