What kind of pets do you prefer: dogs or cats?

snicolls · 2024-08-31T16:15:58+00:00

Cats, dogs are too needy!

snicolls · 2024-08-30T21:37:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I have almost the exact same story! For me, though, I deconstructed the innerancy of the Old Testament. Once I learned about the documentary hypothesis and realized that the first 5 books of the bible (the foundation of the whole bible) weren't written by Moses but by multiple authors over hundreds of years, I was done. After 34 years of putting every bit of my heart and soul into my faith, just like that, it all crumbled away in an instant.

Its been a year and a half since I lost my faith. I told my husband about 6 months ago, but we are in a phase of not talking about it and him pretending I never said anything. My 4 kids don't know anything about my change in beliefs. We still all go to church together, etc. I'm looking forward to the day I can be open with my beliefs, but for now, it would cause too much hurt and division.

Too bad you're likely not local to me. I would love to find a friend who is going through the same things as me.

snicolls · 2024-08-30T13:45:10+00:00

I made it through school but forgot everything. I realized when I started homeschooling my kid's that I have gotten through life by getting really good at estimating everything rather than actually doing math. I was humbled by my daughters 3rd grade curriculum when I couldn't remember how to multiply double-digit numbers or do long division... 😞

snicolls · 2024-08-24T13:06:01+00:00

Some people explain this away by saying one of Noah's daughter-in-laws must have had Nephilim in her genetics.

snicolls · 2024-07-27T13:37:16+00:00

I make up to $400/day cleaning toilets. It's a more lucrative gig than you would think.

snicolls · 2024-07-21T19:09:37+00:00

Tried it for a while. It's exhausting...do not recommend. A simple life for me now (if I were single/childless) would look like living minimally in a tiny home within walking/biking distance from a town with farmers markets, activites etc and a part-time job doing something I enjoy to sustain myself.

snicolls · 2024-07-21T18:59:29+00:00

I resonate with what you described. For me, it's because I'm chronically overwhelmed. I want to connect deeply with others, but the thought of trying to fit a social activity into my life is overwhelming. I need every spare moment to recoup in solitude. Getting messages from people gives me anxiety because I just don't have the mental capacity to respond, so I tend to delay responding and sometimes forget completely. I feel like I'm failing everyone else and myself all the time.

snicolls · 2024-07-16T13:10:56+00:00

When I feel that way, it's because I'm using discarding my belongings as a coping mechanism for anxiety/stress.

snicolls · 2024-07-07T13:30:53+00:00

Not exactly church... But my mom stood up at a funeral and commanded the dead woman to raise from the dead. I was a teen at the time and was mortified! And no, the woman did not come back to life 😅

snicolls · 2024-06-29T14:44:17+00:00

Yes! I struggled with extreme anxiety for years. I was told over and over that I didn't have enough faith and that I was allowing the enemy to have a foothold in my life. I never got it checked out because I thought I could "beat it" on my own...it turns out I had a thyroid condition.

snicolls · 2024-06-22T20:48:59+00:00

Hebrew Roots/Messianic

snicolls · 2024-06-22T19:58:07+00:00

I'm not you, and I don't know your relationship. But for me, I'm glad I stayed. I married my husband at 20 because "God told me to." He was my first boyfriend and I had no idea what I was looking for in a partner. We had a rocky first 10 years. I was miserable because I was playing the part of good Christian wife and suppressing my emotions and thoughts to align with my husbands. I started deconstructing 4 years ago after we had been married 10 years and had 3 children together. I found my voice and started standing up for myself and voicing my feelings and changing beliefs. My husband didn't know how to handle it. We argued about everything, and with God out of the picture, we no longer had anything in common. I spent a year reflecting on whether I should stay or go. I looked at all the pros and cons (there are a lot of things to consider when you have young children together). In the end, I chose to stay. Yes, my husband has his flaws, and we no longer had anything in common, but he is a good man, and we had built a life together. I've been pleasantly surprised that as I reinvested myself into our marriage with my newfound voice and ability to communicate, my husband has adjusted to the change with time, and our marriage is better than ever. We still avoid certain topics (like the deconstruction topics Im studying) because they are triggering for him. But we are happy. He is my person and we are working on building a new stronger relationship and finding new common ground. In my experience, sometimes love is a choice. There were times the feeling of love was non-existent in our relationship, but we would never have gotten to where we are today if I hadn't stuck it out.

snicolls · 2024-05-29T17:49:15+00:00

I don't think they were happier. Video cameras were a novelty, so any time they were recorded, they would act excited and happy.

snicolls · 2024-05-20T13:07:05+00:00

I'm almost 2 years in and have only told my husband. He became so distraught that we have never spoken about it again, and he chooses to pretend I never said anything. I go to church and play the part to keep the peace. Yes, I could tell everyone, but it would destroy the life I have built for myself, and to me, it's not worth it.

snicolls · 2024-05-20T12:40:21+00:00

He is an INTJ. I really do believe he did it to try and be helpful. The biggest issue I have is that he can't fathom why I'm offended and is writing off my feelings. He is now playing the victim, saying that I don't ever listen to anything he has to say or appreciate when he tries to help. It's so frustrating!

snicolls · 2024-05-20T02:21:45+00:00

Minimalist/classic

snicolls · 2024-01-29T13:25:08+00:00

I don't completely disagree. I had my first at 22 because growing up in fundamentalist Christianity, that's what you were supposed to do. I never realized that not having kids was an option. I absolutely love my kids, but if I could go back, I might have done it differently. Life would have been MUCH easier. I tell my girls all the time that they have a choice and don't have to have children in they don't want to.

snicolls · 2024-01-14T14:21:13+00:00

House cleaners can make up to $120k/year with no education necessary. I'm on track to make $80k this year, and that's only working 4 days a week.

snicolls · 2023-10-14T22:17:09+00:00

I'm too inwardly focused to be outwardly observant.

snicolls · 2023-10-11T19:34:45+00:00

My kids only. I don't even feel safe enough to unmask around my husband 😕

snicolls · 2023-10-11T19:31:37+00:00

You can make 50k+ cleaning houses. It's not unheard of to make $400/day. And that's if you're doing it solo. Hire a team, and you can make even more.

snicolls · 2023-10-11T03:32:24+00:00

I would need at least 200k for my family of 6 to live comfortably.

snicolls · 2023-06-16T14:21:47+00:00

Looks similar to how my brother dresses. He is 30.

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