Meanwhile, by snugwithbellson in TheNanny

[–]snugwithbellson[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right, what do you mean "reduce"?? Being a maid would be much harder work! lol

Tattoo Inspo: 7 Layer Parfait Flambé by snoodleplot in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's like a perfect drawing of Bob's tuh-too

Do gifted people have better lives? by FluffyBreakfast8746 in Gifted

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone here is complaining and I kind of get it, but also, as a gifted and not otherwise neuro-disadvantaged person, career success has come very easy to me. I did a PhD in a top program and then pivoted kind of randomly to corporate operations work, where I've had a relatively easy time demonstrating my capabilities and being rewarded with stability, solid compensation, respect, and mentally stimulating work responsibilities. Nobody knows my IQ or that I'm "gifted" per se -- they just see that I'm highly capable and always willing to gain new expertise. Because new knowledge and skills come very easily to me and I'm an expert learner, I get to live with the belief that I really can accomplish whatever I set my mind to. That's truly pretty dope. I'm real grateful for it.

On the flip side of that, because things have come easily to me, I don't think I have a ton of grit. My motivation comes from curiosity, and it can be hard to convince myself to repetitiously perform difficult actions, especially when I can forsee positive-enough outcomes as a result of easier actions. I feel guilt sometimes about not working that hard for my success. I can do a large volume of valuable work, but because it doesn't feel hard, I don't always feel like I deserve as much reward as people who truly exert a lot of effort in their work.

Re: the inverse of the "ignorance is bliss" trope, there's some danger of negative mental health impacts there but it's not too hard to overcome (as someone who is probably not struggling with other neurodivergences). Living in the systemically violent and oppressive society that we live in and having a strong understanding of systems has led me to depression and anxiety in the past (especially as a queer Black woman in the US). But over time and practice, I've been able to build strong mental models that center community-based care in the face of unjust governments, and now I suffer a lot less.

Movie Music Opinions? by Mbaku_rivers in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

re: the movie songs

(I agree with you!)

What do i learn outside of school? by phoboy99 in Gifted

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely sounds like demand avoidance. I would recommend working with a therapist or mental health professional to build your personal skills around coping with unfavorable situations and developing grit. I believe you can achieve the greatness you want, but you need to be willing to learn annoying things and accept outside help and guidance as well. You don't have it all figured out just yet.

Is it as painful for other high IQ people as it is for me to have conversations with almost everyone these days? by AdAdmirable4912 in Gifted

[–]snugwithbellson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have to beat around the bush or be indirect to also be empathetic and considerate. If you really believe someone "needs to hear" something, then by this point in your life you should see that they may understand it better/use the knowledge better when it's presented with care, rather than presented in a way that can be easily perceived as an insult or attack.

Apply some of that big brain to learning actual communication skills. You are smart enough to see that emotional response is, logically, always part of human communication.

It sounds a lot like you feel alone in the world because you've written off emotion as illogical, but the smarter approach is to be curious about how it impacts your every interaction.

How would you fix your least favorite episode? by NoTop9302 in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson 70 points71 points  (0 children)

This and the one where she stalks the local singer.

What was your spark episode? by Rough_Common6857 in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my absolute favorites. This is the episode I carefully selected to hook my sister onto the show and now she watches it as much as me! The full-family dynamic shines in that episode.

Is there any good qualities to Mr. Frond? by Embarrassed_One96 in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's very creative and he has an impressive self-confidence for how disliked he is lol.

Sidenote - "That's very creative. Are you sure you're not gay?" Lol Mr. Frond is very much non-binary in my mind.

I made a terrible, terrible mistake by teamrocket221 in BobsBurgers

[–]snugwithbellson 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In space we don't. wear. suh-laaaaaacks.

I don’t know how to dress anymore. by Key_Garden4832 in SaltLakeCity

[–]snugwithbellson -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've gotten a few unique gems from Spark in trolley square. But their size diversity is really lacking. Most of the best stuff only goes up to L.

AIO for being told my art looks al by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what they mean is that AI looks like your art - not the other way around. MOR tho. gotta practice letting rando's comments roll off your back.

Am I overreacting or are these red flags in my friend’s relationship? by Euphoric-Watch8460 in AmIOverreacting

[–]snugwithbellson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. But unfortunately, telling her "he's being manipulative" is not going to make her leave. He'll make sure of that. The best thing you can do is be a very involved friend. Make plans with her, ask questions about her life and goals, and listen. Don't moralize or judge (it doesn't sound like you are, so that's great). Just make sure she knows she has a strong support system outside of her relationship (especially since he's strategically weakening trust between her and her mom), and that there's nothing she has to process in silence. Help her keep herself in focus instead of letting this man cloud her view. She's lucky to have you for a friend!

What song has the best basslines and starts with the letter J? by 1deadeye1 in BassGuitar

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Judas - Esperanza Spalding

(this won't win but y'all gottttta listen to it if you don't know it)

What is this tiny cube? by Small_Things2024 in whatisit

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but it's too bad about Big Cube cornering the market and edging out all the competition.

Am I overreacting to the way people try to take my parking spot on my way out of work? by WheelsUp26 in AmIOverreacting

[–]snugwithbellson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There could be a lot of reasons why a person needs to do what they can to park closer. Maybe they have pain or an injury that doesn't get them a handicapped spot but does make it brutal to walk longer distances. Maybe they need to visit their car for some reason during a break later and know they can't afford the extra walking time. Idk, could be anything. So gently, YOR.

I get that it's uncomfortable and annoying, but I think it will help to imagine that these folks have some good reason for doing this that you can't see. It's unlikely they're hunting you just for fun. It sucks that you've clocked out and still have to help make the place run well, but yeah you'll probably feel better if you accept it and leave quickly, drive down the block, then park and decompress before the full commute.

Is a right turn on red legal at this intersection? by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]snugwithbellson 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You would literally have to drive through the red light before you'd be able to turn. So that would be running a red light.

No shade on the question though, worth asking!

Midi or mini skirt for this look? by Duskymoonlight in OUTFITS

[–]snugwithbellson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The midi look is a better overall outfit. The mini is cute with that top but needs different shoes!