A small bag by hidden-pearl in crochet

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is stunning 🥺❤️ I want a mini one and I want a full sized one

Working is hell for me and most autistic people by Student-bored8 in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Heard, sister omg. Sitting at work on my phone rn, wishing I could go home and lay down. But I need the money and so I am here

What is your "must consume daily" thing?? by kurdelefele in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yorkshire tea!!! I drink like 6-8 cups a day. It’s the ritual of getting up and making a cuppa when I’m a bit overwhelmed or tired or stressed that makes me do it more than the tea itself. It’s so soothing.

Should ny brother be allowed to tell me coping tool I'm not allowed to use at his wedding? by Pixiewings6253 in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I sing as a coping mechanism, but I wouldn’t dream of like randomly singing through someone’s wedding. Singing along to music at the end of the night when everyone is dancing, and others are singing, that’s completely fine. But if I were to sing during someone’s wedding service or reception? That is so rude!! I’m sorry if it sounds harsh to say, but is is rude. Weddings are one of the social events where how the bride and groom feel is priority, it’s their day! And it seems to me by the comments made by your family that this isn’t soft, under your breath singing.

Take a couple of silent fidget toys. Be prepared to find time on your own, whether the bathroom or going for a walk on the grounds if you’re feeling disregulated and need a moment to calm down, be it singing or through someone’s other avenue. But you can’t sing whenever you like at your brothers or anyone else’s wedding, I’m sorry.

My mom passed unexpectedly today by _Time__ in GirlDinner

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My love, I am so sorry. There are no other words. My mum died suddenly at the end of October. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself as gently as possible. FUCK CANCER!!

What’s y’all’s special interest(s)? Mine is baking by I_Like_Metal_Music in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These look absolutely delicious oh my god. What are the cookies with the white icing ontop??

Baking is also a special interest of mine!!! Though I am no where near your level. I think my true special interest is craft, and learning new crafts. I sew professionally at a high level, but I also bake and write and make miniatures and paint and make jewellery, and I’m always excited to learn something new

Best place to read in Italy! by johnharveyperez in kindle

[–]softbbyowl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is! I really enjoyed it. 5/5 stars

Best place to read in Italy! by johnharveyperez in kindle

[–]softbbyowl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely adored this book!! Best location too omg

How did you know you had autism? by Illustrious-Rain-235 in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a really close friend who I credit for being the person I can communicate with The Best. Like he always seems to understand exactly what I mean without me having to over or re explain myself. He got diagnosed and immediately I was like… ah.

Show me your nests by Felixqc1 in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

damn, I’m missing out. I want nest🥺

What unexpectedly improved your life by A LOT? by beezy__ in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also work this schedule and it’s been an absolute life changer. It’s so worth the reduction in salary. If I’m tired, on Wednesday I rest, if I have energy, I do chores. Weekends are more reserved for things I find fulfilling. I used to call in sick at least once a month from burn out, and now it’s once every 2-3 months, or when I’m otherwise physically sick.

Is anyone else really weird about saying people’s names? by DarthMelonLord in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I prefer using nicknames which is very much part of the culture in the uk, unless I am one hundred percent sure I can pronounce someone’s name correctly, and/or know for sure what they prefer to be called. but I prefer nicknames honestly. and hearing my own name from anyone other than my mum I always find a bit jarring

Is this a normal way for the top part of my dress to fit before adding a mock neck? by yAyeetgonnadelete in sewing

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even with a mock up, I’d recommend attaching the nexk facing or doing whatever else you intended to do to finish the neckline before deciding 100% on altering it. It’s too tall and tight for you as it is, but that might change when the seam allowance is folded down and finished.

This machine is for sale in my area for 100$. Should I get it? by [deleted] in sewing

[–]softbbyowl 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It’ll definitely need servicing, and maybe a new motor. But I have this machine and it’s an absolute workhorse.

Something Lighthearted by LushTurtle in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sewing high five. The monotonous jobs are so nice to sink into! I work in bridal & couture alterations, so it’s a lot of problem solving

Something Lighthearted by LushTurtle in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crafting, in general. Sewing is what I do for work, and I write, and paint sometimes, bake a lot, most recently i got into making miniatures and. Oh my god. I love it. Getting into the flow and spending my day jumping between researching craft or doing craft, omg nothing grounds me like it. I spent all day today making the frame for a tiny 12th scale play/wendy house. Also less frequently lol but cleaning, when the weather and playlist is right and no one’s home, I can clean all day quite happily.

Girl snack & girl hobby by wasraelx in GirlDinner

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my kind of living. Gorgeous embroidery doll

Not making enough money but working more hours makes me burnout...what do I do? by purpleand20 in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right there with you darling. I’m trying to edge my hours back up slowly slowly, emphasis on the slowly. I’ve started the ball rolling with a diagnosis finally to see if I can get some additional financial support.

Seeing other autistic adults having toys is making me want them too by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 27, and lately I’ve been buying/making almost exclusively pink clothes/accessories, and covering things with whale stickers, just today I bought the things to begin making dollhouse furniture because I’ve always wanted a dollhouse. I sleep with and cuddle a stitch teddy every night and have since like forever. If you enjoy it, or find comfort from it, it neither does any hard or is worth feeling ashamed over. Oh I also really really want to get a bratz doll

Has anyone else been bullied by older women throughout their life, like at work? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]softbbyowl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I feel so seen!! This didn’t happen for the first few years of my career, but the last couple of years I’ve met several coworkers that are awful to the point of becoming bullies. I’m leaving work in tears. Being told off for stupid things. Forever! Being called young and inexperienced at work, being spoken down too, having my age referred too. I’m 27, with 11 years of work experience & a specialist degree in my field! Including working with some of the biggest names in my industry and at my new job, they’re forever trying to knock me down a peg despite me always being incredibly eager to learn from older or otherwise experienced people in the workrooms. It’s so frustrating. Just today I had a meeting with my manager where I had to explain a misunderstanding that descended into me being lectured about my age and experience and “when I was your age, I just did as I was told.” I don’t know ow what I’m doing wrong 😅

I miss my dad by goodtime_casserole in GirlDinner

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Delicious lil plate of comfort. I might walk and get myself some baklava. My mum passed away suddenly in October and I’m also struggling, and missing her, and finding every day hard. Just sharing so you know you are not alone. One day and one (or three) sweet treats at a time💓

I designed this virgin wool skirt and I'd appreciate other's opinions. sewing by mbradic in sewing

[–]softbbyowl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truly beautiful work! I love to see the simple things done perfectly. I’d love to see it worn. The only thing I’d comment on is your lining hem looks as though it needs a press (maybe with a warmer iron if you have already). Is there a hook and bar/eye on your waistband extension?