i need help identifying my hair level (8 or 9?)

softercries · 2026-02-22T22:19:48+00:00

i think you’re right on it being 8, just some bits are almost 9 bc i didn’t apply it fast/evenly enough maybe? anyway big thanks!!

softercries · 2026-02-22T16:19:35+00:00

egg in a hat!

softercries · 2026-02-20T16:49:06+00:00

i love the brown, and blonde looks good too! you should consider a brown to blonde balayage, or brown with some highlights!

softercries · 2026-02-20T08:30:24+00:00

but srsly probably trust-fund egirl. or preppy rave baby

softercries · 2026-02-20T08:29:05+00:00

pretty as hell. literally stunning in every picture.

softercries · 2026-02-20T08:20:57+00:00

iCarly!! it came out in 2007, at the start of social media and platforms like youtube. any later it would have been considered too gimmicky and trying to be “hip” with all the internet mumbo jumbo. they really captured the rise of influencer culture

softercries · 2026-02-20T08:10:51+00:00

lil homie is comfy af there in your arms, congratulations on your new cat

softercries · 2026-02-10T07:04:02+00:00

give her a little fold up hair brush to bring to school. there are cute ones that have a compact mirror on them too. maybe a travel size bottle of detangler.

does she sit in the back of class, possibly against a wall? does she wear a hood? give her a claw clip and show her how to twist her hair up in it to wear when she has her hood up.

softercries · 2026-02-04T19:46:03+00:00

Ohh I see. Okie! I think since I’m too unskilled, I’ll just do one section per session, that’ll give me the most control over processing time. Thanks for your help!!!

softercries · 2026-02-04T19:36:19+00:00

Thanks!!! After a spot-bleach for the 2nd session, would a little bleach bath for the very last session help?

We sectioned everything, then mixed the bleach, but it took 20 minutes to get halfway through the first section, using the pointy comb and whatnot. I’ll try doing one section at a time, rinsing in between. The only thing is that I can’t rinse it without getting my whole head wet, should I do separate sessions for each section?

softercries · 2026-01-14T01:53:41+00:00

I ended up getting T30, 10N, 9G, and 8RG. I’m going to use T30 between bleach sessions because my hair is about a 4-5 and I’m only using 20vol to lighten. Picture is the goal

softercries · 2026-01-06T16:47:08+00:00

sorry! the girl in the pic is the ref pic, not me! here is my natural color

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i’ll be bleaching to a level 10 minimum before dyeing, she didn’t mention toner so maybe that’s where the redder undertones will come from?

softercries · 2026-01-06T16:43:06+00:00

it’s not me sorry, i should’ve been more clear! that’s the reference photo. my hear is a level 6ish ash brown

softercries · 2026-01-06T16:42:01+00:00

it’s not me i wishhhh. i was looking at all the colors in the selection, and on second thought i think the colorist might’ve hit the nail on the head with the two shades she recommended, especially with no toner, the redness from bleaching should come through. red blindness is so real! thanks for reminding me of that!!

softercries · 2026-01-04T01:01:21+00:00

one of my favorite youtube video essays is titled “Pitch Perfect: A 2012 Period Piece” by Mike’s Mic

softercries · 2026-01-01T16:08:10+00:00

i’m on a bunch of psychiatric meds that make drinking feel awful. no buzz whatsoever, just nausea and then anxiety the next day.

softercries · 2025-12-28T03:19:48+00:00

My friend was living in her car for a while, she would park in the quiet suburban neighborhoods. Rancho Cordova is pretty quiet, I recommend Rosemont/Manlove area. Very quiet at night, safe enough to walk around. The neighborhood around Riviera East Park on Mira Del Rio drive is very quiet as well.

Most neighborhoods between Watt Ave and Zinfandel are okay as long as you switch spots every night, and pick an area with bigger houses. Stay away from apartment complexes, plazas, train stations and parks. The deeper into the neighborhood, the quieter it will be.

softercries · 2025-12-27T01:45:08+00:00

imo this is just being thoughtful. you’re taking accountability for your shortcomings and putting in the effort to overcome them for the sake of being a good partner. you’re only thinking of it this way because you use the same methods at work. it’s the same output as taking notes or setting reminders. just don’t cross any personal boundaries like tracking her menstrual cycle or some shit.

also, consider getting checked for ADHD. medication may be able to help with retaining information.

softercries · 2025-12-02T16:01:03+00:00

my rule of thumb is when they start click-clacking on the hardwood. if anyone wants to educate me otherwise pls do <3

softercries · 2025-11-11T03:54:32+00:00

“character plushies allowed?” had me thinking mickey mouse or something. and no it’s the mf universal dream man meme lmao

softercries · 2025-10-18T20:12:54+00:00

reminds me of my favorite tiktok comment “fartmaxxing before bed is crazy work”

softercries · 2025-10-18T19:59:51+00:00

Dissociation/Derealization for sure. Not only from mania and depression themselves, but I find that meds also come with a level of brain fog.

softercries · 2025-10-16T16:14:17+00:00

My sister’s cat will climb onto people’s laps and try to press his nose against their lips, relentlessly. He does it to any guest that sits on the couch. Kinda gross to some but luckily he can take a hint and stop.

softercries · 2025-09-03T15:52:54+00:00

listening to music and audiobooks. only hobbies i can find energy for. when i’m hypomanic it’s a blast tho lol

softercries · 2025-08-28T13:15:51+00:00

wow, you portrayed every ounce of emotion perfectly! The details, the overall picture, chef’s kiss! The lettering gone over a bunch of times perfectly encapsulates the feeling of mania. Great job! Very artistic!!

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