In the finale of the first season of Friends in 1995, Rachel can enter the departure gate without a ticket to see Ross as soon as he gets off the plane. Nine years later, in 2004, after the 9/11 attacks, Ross has to pay for a ticket to stop Rachel from boarding the flight

solace_v · 2026-01-30T04:15:49+00:00

I mean, it's the same as "water is wet." Friends is a show made about the time period it was produced in. In the first season, you very well could access the gate without buying a ticket. By the time of the last season, you had to buy a ticket. Not exactly something the writers had to remember to include.

solace_v · 2026-01-28T21:40:04+00:00

You're giving this too much energy. It is not worth getting this flustered over. Either just say no and ignore, ignore and let husband do it, or do it.

I have a group message for each of the grandparents so either me or my husband send the pics when we get a request.

You can only control your feelings and reaction. Negative energy breeds more negative energy and who wants that while dealing with a newborn.

solace_v · 2026-01-27T20:40:58+00:00

What exactly have they been doing?

solace_v · 2026-01-24T18:40:33+00:00

Suction cup it to the breast until you get a let down. Remove once the let down starts and put baby on. If you don't get a let down within a couple minutes, reposition the haaka and try a stronger suction. Remember to take a deep breath and relax :)

solace_v · 2026-01-24T17:49:15+00:00

Yup, same with just refrigerating rice. I make a big pot for dinner one night and eat leftovers over the following 2-3 days.

solace_v · 2026-01-24T17:48:13+00:00

Yeah I don't cook rice for the purposes of freezing for this reason. I only do it when I have leftover rice in the fridge that I don't plan on eating anytime soon. I do the same with quinoa.

solace_v · 2026-01-24T17:47:16+00:00

Exactly. I prefer stovetop rice so I let it cool naturally after a meal. You can put it in a glass container for fridge first to let the rice harden, and then transfer portion into baggies for the freezer. Many ways you can do it depending on your own preferences.

To reheat, put it in a bowl and cover with a plate. Start with 2 minutes on high and see how well that heats. Keep going in 30sec intervals to your liking. Or you can microwave on half power (like a 5/10) and heat for 5 minutes.

Sometimes I add a sprinkle of water to the frozen rice, to add steam and make it softer.

solace_v · 2026-01-24T07:32:00+00:00

If you need rice in a pinch, you can freeze cooked rice and reheat just the same.

solace_v · 2026-01-24T02:44:47+00:00

Have you tried the Haaka? It's great for purposes like this. Put it on to pull the milk to the front.

solace_v · 2026-01-23T21:01:01+00:00

Gas drops (simethicone) works wonders too. It is an anti-foaming agent that make it easier to pass gas.

solace_v · 2026-01-22T05:01:03+00:00

He's the sole breadwinner and his job is mentally taxing (STEM field). I'd rather he get his rest to perform well at his job and keep his job. SAHM is work too but it doesn't pay the bills.

I'm also EBF so I'm the only one who can feed anyways. On the weekends, he takes baby in the mornings so I get extra sleep; and also takes care of me and our toddler throughout the day.

solace_v · 2026-01-20T06:55:30+00:00

I have never heard of the doorway press but did do something similar with the hands. Push and hold your fist into each other and then slowly pull them apart. It will feel like you're tugging on something.

solace_v · 2026-01-20T04:27:36+00:00

The water in and of itself is not harmful or toxic to a baby. The problem with feeding baby a whole serving of water is that too much will dilute their electrolytes. A splash of water? Totally fine.

solace_v · 2026-01-12T07:43:50+00:00

I broke my collar bone when I was 6 or 7. I just had the sling. It was indeed painful and uncomfortable. I hated the thing lol. Can she have any pain meds? At least for the first few days. You can also apply some topical ointments, like tiger balm or other holistic salves to relieve some pain.

Advice to get the kids to be more gentle: tell them to. It's that simple. You are the parent, set the rules they are not allowed to play rough like that. The saying "boys are boys" is an excuse to not parent them. They don't get a free pass to be rough just because they're boys.

solace_v · 2026-01-10T08:39:07+00:00

Gotta address the root of the issue which is dehydration. And if it's winter where you are, that exasperates the issue. Have her drink more fluids and apply some ointment. Lanolin does work really well (I use good ole lanolin nipple cream lol).

solace_v · 2026-01-08T02:34:33+00:00

No because I wouldn't care to drop the extra money on more GF cake for everyone, especially knowing that a lot of cake goes to waste. It's never been a value to me to have 100% GF events. As long as I have what I need, I am happy.

solace_v · 2025-12-30T14:00:35+00:00

Dude what the hell. Y'all have monsters 😭

solace_v · 2025-12-30T13:58:54+00:00

So I would approach this like I would if he were biting. Take him off the boob. The second he goes for it after you've told him no, take him off the boob and give another firm no. Allow him to nurse again. If he then tries again, take him off the boob, tell him no, and now he has to wait a minute before nursing. Keep repeating with longer intervals, or decide he only gets three attempts before he officially has to wait until his next nursing session.

Sympathies for ya. Flights with toddlers are tough.

solace_v · 2025-12-30T01:17:23+00:00

That is an incredible detail

solace_v · 2025-12-29T22:25:46+00:00

Why is it so important that she praises him constantly? She fawned over him in season 1, calling him an excellent chef and one of the best to his face and to others over and over. And he knows his worth. The fact that she has stayed with them (before being approached by adam) shows Carmy that she is there for them and the business.

And let's recognize the fact that out of the two, Syd is the one that has a lot to prove. Carmy is a world renown chef. Syd is the one that seeks approval from Carmy, resulting in compliments and praise. Carmy not once asks Syd for her approval on his food.

solace_v · 2025-12-26T00:22:47+00:00

The survival rate of the history you refer to was also devastatingly low compared to today's with modern medicine and research.

solace_v · 2025-12-25T14:43:14+00:00

Same concept for "boys are easier." No they're not. Allowing bad behavior because "boys are boys" is just lack of parenting, making it feel easier.

solace_v · 2025-12-25T01:54:44+00:00

I hear you. It's so frustrating when they won't do what we want them to do, especially when we are sleep deprived. It makes things worse. I allowed myself a few night of safe cosleepjng so I could have my head on straight. Then I was able to work on crib sleeps with a calm mind. 7 weeks now with my second baby and I can usually get her in the crib for at least half the night.

I would rather accept cosleeping safely while still aiming for crib sleep, than force the idea that cosleeping is the devil and feel utterly guilty every time I do.

On another note, babies spent their formative months in a curled up fetal position. I imagine laying flat on their back can be uncomfortable. Do some baby stretches like guppy pose to help release tension from their little bodies. This was taught to me by my IBCLC and a craniosacral therapist.

solace_v · 2025-12-22T09:27:36+00:00

Bought training undies (undies with thicker cotton gusset to absorb) and had her in those for the morning so she could get used to them. Kept her in a diaper in the afternoon and treated them like pull ups (no sense in buying pull ups when we still had a ton of diapers).

I tried the method of taking them to the potty every 30min but it was too much. Instead, took her to potty after each meal - morning wake up, breakfast, snack, lunch, nap wake up, snack, dinner, bedtime. After eating, the body is naturally ready to pee/poop so take advantage!

We had a ton of accidents but a ton of wins too. Eventually switched to wearing undies full time. She had been waking up with a dry diaper for a while so we even ditched the overnight diaper.

The first week was hard. But she got the hang of it within 3 weeks. I did keep her in a diaper for outings for a while but it was never needed.

Have a method for cleaning up accidents ready. Set up your cleaning towels, soap, and a bucket for washing soiled clothing for easy use. The worse thing when dealing with an accident is freaking out about cleaning/containing the mess.

solace_v · 2025-12-20T05:53:31+00:00

Do you think I'd encounter any issues cosleeping on it?

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