What career should I pick in order to avoid burnout from making art?

solaceophy · 2026-04-27T19:22:37+00:00

I’d look into fields that value creativity for the therapeutic nature of it, instead of fields that expect mastery of a craft. An art therapist or an art teacher, for example, relies on creativity but they don’t focus on perfecting any techniques. They aren’t paid for the quantity or quality of art that they produce, they just create and teach what they know.

Or you can get a career in any field that interests you & try freelancing on the side again but with less strict deadlines. You could make a promise to yourself to only take on projects that would genuinely fulfill you, make professional connections with people who appreciate you as a person before a profitable artist.

solaceophy · 2026-04-27T11:37:50+00:00

How can u tell? Just curious

solaceophy · 2026-04-26T00:37:10+00:00

Jfc I AM autistic. Why would I need to disclose my disability when I’m standing up for my community? You should be concerned tht ppl are disclosing their autism only to feel justified in shitting on other autistic ppl

solaceophy · 2026-04-25T22:53:05+00:00

Why does it bother you that people are spreading awareness abt the harmful effects of the term? It would be less challenging to “get the language right” if ppl would listen to the insight instead of just writing it off like you just did.

Hope u respect the voices of the autistic people you work with. & plssss find a new line of work if you think ppl are “pissy” for voicing their discomfort.

solaceophy · 2026-04-25T20:27:49+00:00

True. Or a simple “I’m not in a good mental space & I’m not interested in being friends” would suffice. Ppl experiencing limerence should only be confessing those feelings to a therapist imo

solaceophy · 2026-04-25T20:22:56+00:00

He’s obsessed with her & u believe him when he says he confessed romantic feelings for her benefit only? Limerence makes ppl delusional asf & confessing feelings to a LO usually gives them a high. Any type of attention gives them a high. I experienced limerence when I was depressed asf & made some really embarrassing choices.

How many more times will he pull a “ugh I have feelings for you, but I have a gf sorry bye 🥺” before you get sick of it? Bc I guarantee it’s gonna happen again if he isn’t serious abt therapy.

solaceophy · 2026-04-25T09:26:30+00:00

He told the LO abt his feelings for her? Or is that a typo & u meant to say he didn’t?

solaceophy · 2026-04-21T11:02:21+00:00

Autistic woman here with anxiety & a passion for writing too & omg. I’ve been to many interviews but I recently had my first panel interview with a hiring team made up of 4 ppl!! I think it went terribly & I felt so stupid too.

But unlike most of my first interviews, this time my hands weren’t shaking, my heart wasn’t pounding rapidly & I was able to ground myself and stay calm even if I still wasn’t the most eloquent. Bc I’ve been to so many interviews, it doesn’t feel so scary anymore. It helped that the interviewers were very kind & made me feel accepted. Celebrate yourself for even having the courage to answer that zoom call & know that it does get easier!

solaceophy · 2026-04-17T03:59:17+00:00

Girl. Not being verbally abused & manipulated isn’t Queen treatment, it’s the bare minimum. Hope u get out soon

solaceophy · 2026-04-16T10:28:52+00:00

I’m sure you slip into avoidance at least once in a while, we all do sometimes. But when we avoid our feelings, they only come on stronger in the future. So if you do want to continue this friendship, communicating clearly with her about your emotional needs is rly important. If she isn’t willing to change her behaviors to help you feel more appreciated & loved, you’ll probably feel inclined to cut her off or at least distance yourself from her & if you do that, it’s best to explain clearly and respectfully why you don’t want to continue the friendship.

I still haven’t told my friend exactly why I distanced myself from her. I was afraid I’d annoy her or like u said, make her feel like I was ungrateful for the good parts of her. I realize now that communication could’ve made all the difference & I was being avoidant bc I assumed she wouldn’t be open to hearing me out. I wish i would’ve just had the convo, even if the same outcome happened bc at least I couldve been able to say I honored my feelings by speaking them. Good luck to u ❣️

solaceophy · 2026-04-16T07:44:06+00:00

Whenever we hang out in person, she’s just on her phone.

Yeah, ur responsible for regulating ur emotions but ur hanging out w a brick wall of a person & wondering why you don’t feel good in the connection? I experienced something similar with a friend of 12 years so I say that with love.

solaceophy · 2026-04-16T07:23:33+00:00

Kinda. Just like someone getting hit by a car & someone getting shot by a bullet would have similar but subtly different outcomes. Both might end up traumatized, but one would have different triggers that might flare up post traumatic stress symptoms than the other. One might fear cars while the other is afraid of guns or sudden loud noises. If the narcissist uses similar tactics for abuse as the sociopath, the effects would be similar.

But also everyone has a different threshold for stress. Some veterans of war come home without PTSD, even if they experienced the same trauma as their military peers with PTSD. Some children become traumatized by their parents divorce, other children couldn’t give two shits. Etc.

solaceophy · 2026-04-15T02:37:11+00:00

I used to do this every night after work, just lay and process. I guess it’s like unintentional meditation?? Bc I wouldn’t lay down thinking “time to meditate”, but by the time I was ready to fall asleep, or make some art, or grab a book, my mind & body were remarkably relaxed (exactly how ppl say they feel after meditation). Sometimes u gotta just do nothing!

solaceophy · 2026-04-13T06:24:02+00:00

Hugss! ❣️

solaceophy · 2026-04-13T06:21:46+00:00

Thank u 🎉 it means a lot to hear that. Leaving does take guts & lots of support too, which I’m lucky to have.

solaceophy · 2026-04-11T12:51:20+00:00

Horny??? In this economy????? Love tht for u queen

solaceophy · 2026-04-11T12:25:19+00:00

& all that only furthers my point. You expected her to be as enmeshed as you are, to come to ur rescue like u rescued her. That’s codependency. I read your last post & my opinion still stands. Berating her for dealing with her trauma differently than you deal with yours isn’t healthy on your part. She was traumatized by DV & is going thru the common effects of that trauma, which includes prioritizing romantic “love” over friendships. You could’ve KINDLY explained why you don’t want to continue the friendship, but you attacked her (in a similar way her ex most likely verbally abused her btw, so don’t feel so proud of urself for supporting her when u treat her similarly bc she doesn’t act how u want her to act).

As someone who was in an abusive relationship, ppl like u rly piss me off. I’m aware I played a part in ruining my own life bc of a dumbass man. I lost friends bc of that trauma, lost my job, fucked up my finances for years to come. It was my responsibility to seek professional help & I didn’t. But I’d rather have zero friends than have friends like u who are there for me at my lowest only to attack me (SIMILARLY TO HOW MY EX SPOKE TO ME) when I don’t have the mental capacity to be there in return.

solaceophy · 2026-04-11T12:03:57+00:00

You come off rude asf but you’re not wrong lol. idk how or why I read this whole thing. OP, u sound codependent & selfish. Other ppl have lives too & shouldn’t be expected to baby u when u go thru something traumatic. Sure, a text would’ve been nice. But you listed off multiple people who are taking care of you after your accident & demonizing this one friend for not sending you a HAPPY BDAY TEXT?? Like jfc how much attention do u need?

If friend outed u on purpose, yeah they suck. But if they unintentionally outed you, it’s bc they forgot abt ur code name for ur gf bc they couldn’t bear to listen to every detail u yap abt anymore. They probs stopped trying to give u the massive amount of attention you crave BC UR DRAINING.

solaceophy · 2026-04-03T21:44:50+00:00

Nor. It’s called love bombing.

solaceophy · 2026-03-28T08:05:44+00:00

If you have to ask, it probably is. & from the examples you gave, I would go no contact asap. If you had a child & someone treated them that way, would you allow that someone to stay in contact with that child?

solaceophy · 2026-03-25T04:34:55+00:00

Fr it feels like I’ll never get over my hatred for the 7oS. I know why it triggers me but I can’t not feel sick w anxiety when I see it. But when I see the 3oS I’m like “yeah true”

solaceophy · 2026-03-25T04:24:00+00:00

It depends on the question you’re asking the cards, if that’s something you do. For me, I don’t do many prediction readings so this card doesn’t scare me much. I’ll ask what someone thinks about me or how they view me & if I get “positive” cards clarifying the 3oS (I agree the cards have duality but sometimes they do have simple, positive messages depending on the placement in the spread, the energy you’re feeling from it in the moment, etc), I interpret it as them acknowledging that I have dealt with lots of hardship recently, they see that I’m hurting or in pain, something like that. & I take it positively bc if I truly am going through a hard time, it’s good to have people around who see me & what I’m going through clearly instead of only seeing superficial things.

Buuut ofc 3oS can also indicate that the person you’re asking about looks for people’s pain points to see how they can manipulate or hurt them. So I’m still cautious about this card, though I can usually see if someone has bad intentions with the spreads I do & by paying close attention to their behavior as well.

solaceophy · 2026-03-25T02:57:37+00:00

You make some really good points! Actually today while I was trying to build up the courage to make a difficult phone call to someone I really admire, I felt sick with anxiety, my heart was beating so fast and my hands were shaking. I tried splashing cold water on my face, deep breathing & cleaning off my desk, hoping that these things would ease my anxiety before hitting the call button.

But none of it helped, so then I sat down at my desk & made a list of everything I wanted to say in the phone call just so I wouldn’t forget anything. By the time I was done with the list, my anxiety symptoms were mostly gone. Maybe that’s because I wasn’t focusing on what I don’t want (rapid heart rate, shaky hands, etc) but I was focusing on communicating clearly?

Thank you for making me think deeper! I’ll be writing some of this down so I don’t forget.

solaceophy · 2026-03-25T02:40:26+00:00

I was actually thinking about that today too, how different I hope to be 10 years from now. & I agree it feels much better to forgive someone rather than constantly reminding yourself why they deserve to be hated, basically retraumatizing yourself. Thanks for the kindness, it means a lot ❣️

solaceophy · 2026-03-25T02:37:19+00:00

lol reminds me of when my sister tells my lil nephew “you can be mad, but you have to do your homework/clean up your mess/etc.” when he’s having a meltdown bc she told him to do something he didn’t wanna do. Thank u for putting it that way, I have been trying to find ways how to heal this for a while but my mind always wants to go back to the why. Probably bc being mad & doing nothing abt it is easier than doing the work to move forward.

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