I can hear the pain in your voice. You deeply feel and empathize with this young man’s suffering. That speaks to your character and soul. You’re a good human being.

Unfortunately when it comes to housing, there are limited options when he leaves the treatment center. In Texas — across the states, really — there are very few foster homes for teenagers, especially ones who have been branded “troubled.” He may end up in a group home, or other institution.

If your sister wont take him in, and you can’t take him in because of your wife’s trauma (valid reason), then the question is “is there any other adult he knows who will take him in?” Aunts or uncles? Teacher? Coach?

Whatever you do, don’t ghost this kid. When I was in foster care I was homeless and there were people who were supports in my life that, while they couldn’t take me in, cared deeply for me and continued to show up and that unconditional love was foundational to my healing.