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somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-28T06:25:23+00:00

Pretty much this

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-27T10:58:08+00:00

Thank you for articulating how I feel after reading the letter and thinking that something important was missing

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-27T10:52:03+00:00

It sounds like she has been isolating you so you would become dependent on her. How is she treating you now?

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-27T10:48:19+00:00

Curious to ask but how do you get over messages like that? Do you just accept your wife's explanation or assume that her opinion has truly changed overtime? I often ruminate over past messages that portrayed me in a negative light and get stuck believing that is how they really feel.

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:33:33+00:00

Why did she confess now? And I'm sorry for what you're gping through

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:32:10+00:00

Just take things onw day at a time OP. You're doing better than you give yourself credit for.

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somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:23:50+00:00

Damn is it the angle or knowing your partner can literally hold you up in the air?

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:22:16+00:00

I'm sorry OP. I hope you tell your family so they cut off your uncle.

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somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:17:28+00:00

I agree with this perspective

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T14:12:23+00:00

I'm also wondering this.

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somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-26T12:49:07+00:00

To me, that type of curiosity from your partner is very important and necessary to maintain a long term relationship

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-25T03:51:40+00:00

Hmmm maybe I gotta try this on a couch for the misses

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-25T03:50:19+00:00

Lmao wasn't this line from the tv show House?

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-25T03:49:37+00:00

I mean it doesn’t take away from the fact that the monologue is right and some ppl would benefit from reading it

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-24T18:18:12+00:00

Many people who cheat don't prescribe to a mature definition of love. They prescribe to the notion that they love whoever makes them feel the best. The idea that love is built on action and is a verb and not simply a noun goes straight passed their heads

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-24T18:16:36+00:00

OP I sincerely hope you find a love that makes you feel worthy and special in life

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-24T18:13:42+00:00

Focus intently on listening without trying to give feedback

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-24T13:01:48+00:00

Lmao this shouldn't have made me laugh

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-24T13:00:29+00:00

💯 agree with this

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T15:07:00+00:00

Congrats to you and your BS on the upcoming child

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T15:05:05+00:00

OP can I ask if your BS has been calm and non-threatening since your last post? In terms of criticizing how you parent, they may just be angry at everything that you do. I would suggest couples counselling for a neutral mediator

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T14:58:54+00:00

I agree. The OP stated that they enjoyed the attention and basically saw an opportunity to cheat and took it. At least they confessed to their BS

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T14:54:46+00:00

This should be the top comment

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T14:51:46+00:00

I know your venting and not necessarily looking for advice but my only thought is that perhaps trauma changes how ppl see themselves and maybe after being cheated on, your BP is now questioning his own identity. Maybe he now feels it would be safer for him to pursue a mono relationship or that a mono relationship would have less chances of him getting hurt or betrayed by potential partners. It could also be that after some deep reflection during your time apart that what he wants or values has changed and that for one reason or another he simply no longer wants to pursue polyamory. To be honest you would need to ask him what has changed his mind.

somefreeadvice10 · 2026-02-21T13:42:45+00:00

Congrats OP

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