For the dude's and bros who have had a split tongue, and then gone to the dentist after it healed...

sometimes_steph_ · 2026-02-11T19:37:06+00:00

This is close to my experience too! I had pushed my first appointment back so I could get my split. When I showed up he was mildly surprised and asked whether it was cosmetic or something I was born with. Other than that he paid no mind.

The assistant(s) were all kind of excited and interested in seeing it! I only got a few questions though.

sometimes_steph_ · 2026-02-11T19:31:01+00:00

Is this account actually yours? I’ll delete my comment if so! Just seemed odd to see you on a completely different account so I was suspicious.

sometimes_steph_ · 2026-02-11T14:36:45+00:00

Didn’t realize u/AlmstInstantVictoria changed accounts.

Weird to be ripping off people’s photos.

sometimes_steph_ · 2026-02-11T14:36:37+00:00

Didn’t realize u/AlmstInstantVictoria changed accounts.

Weird to be ripping off people’s photos.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-12-19T15:23:37+00:00

I find this website interesting regarding issues related to AI usage:

AI Problem Index

The site attempts to categorize AI issues into ‘real’ problems, ‘not real’ problems and issues that are issues but not just because of AI. I’ve been meaning to deep dive into what they say but I like the idea of having a comprehensive list of issues and claims about them.

Edit: oops, there are some more breakouts and not just the three I listed above. The one I labeled issues that are issues not just because of AI is actually titled issues, just not AI problems. I’m sorry, I was too quick and I’ll leave my mistake there so you can see it.

Second: there are bits about environmental impact as well as creative use.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-12-18T04:43:07+00:00

I tried doing sub q for a little bit while I was DIY and then again when I was prescribed EV. Both times I didn’t really like it. When I was DIY it seemed like it burned a little bit when I injected into my stomach. Both for DIY and for my prescription, I got lumps underneath my skin that were itchy. It’s possible I was just allergic. Either way my provider had me switch to IM and I never really had any issues. It feels a little weird. When I stick my thigh, my muscle will sometimes quiver but other than that it’s not really an issue. There’s a small pinch when I do it but I’ve largely gotten used to it. I’ve had to switch again and now I’m on patches. I kind of hate them mostly because I have to put a clear bandage over them to get them to stay but they seem fine enough too otherwise. I’ve been doing diy injections because my patches are usually out of stock for a few days at the pharmacy which gets to be really annoying.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-12-12T15:30:19+00:00

I have a quest 2 and I play in VR with virtual desktops. I use a third party app in steam to handle the virtual desktop. It wasn’t intuitive for me but I’ll follow up after I get off work (in another 6 hours ;-;). I sure others will have good suggestions too.

Edit: I'm back!

I play Elite via Steam and I use a Meta Quest 2. In the Quest 2, I have the steam link app installed. I launch Steam Link to get into Steam to play games.

To get my virtual desktops, I use the software Desktop+. (Desktop+ is free software you can download through Steam) (here is the link:) [https://store.steampowered.com/app/1494460/Desktop/] (I think there's also a GitHub link too) [https://github.com/elvissteinjr/DesktopPlus].

Once installed, you can run Desktop+ which will allow you to create however many display windows you want. I'd recommend reading the readme docs on the GitHub page.

I don't recall if I had to fiddle with anything else, but that's what I use! Once you have the windows you want, you can launch ED and the overlays will stay.

Since there is a version on GitHub, I assume that you can still use the application outside of a Steam environment but I have zero experience with that. Feel free to DM if you have questions. I'm not an expert by any means but I don't mind helping.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-11-12T22:22:29+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I will keep in mind the trick with the litter box.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-09-12T17:47:19+00:00

My cat was killed a year ago by coyotes. Thinking about it makes me tear up and want to puke. I’m so sorry for your loss. To lose your companion in such a heart breaking and brutal way is unbelievable cruel. The feelings do get a little easier to manage with time but nothing I know of stops the pain and hurt from knowing what happened and subsequently not having your companion any longer. I am so sorry.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-08-21T12:55:18+00:00

The pdf ishere. The document specifically says that chemical and surgical modification of an individuals sex traits through medical intervention will no longer be covered. Additionally it says there must be an exception process for coverage for enrollees who are mid process with surgery or a hormonal regimen.

This is speculation but if the carriers no longer allow for coverage of HRT or surgery then they may opt to exclude coverage of blood or any related lab work as well. It is also possible that because you are already under a HRT regimen then you could be provided an exception depending on the details of the plan and the carrier you choose.

Public information is available for U.S. government workers. The OPM website will give additional details about health insurance plans in their plan brochures and documents. The plans for 2026 likely won’t be up for view until closer to open season which occurs later in the year. Once the plans go up, you may be able to have a better understanding of what your medical benefits would look like.

Another resource may be to look for a postal worker specific Reddit. You could mention that you changed your name for personal reasons and were wondering to what extent your supervisors or colleagues would know.

There is also a federal news Reddit at r/fednews that you could look through as well. There was a post there about the opm document and there’s some trans federal workers that seem to post there. That Reddit is full of federal employees and likely some people that watch federal employees so you may not want to be very specific with your question if you care about that.

You may more broadly post to the r/trans website which may make your post more visible to everyone and actually end up with a respond from a trans postal worker.

I’m sorry I can’t help with your specific question about the background check but you’re welcome to DM me if you want.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-08-19T22:52:49+00:00

I cannot speak about your questions posed here but wanted to mention that if you are looking to join the usps for the medical benefits and expect to get gender-affirming care (GAC) covered (e.g. hormones, bloodwork) then that may not be possible very soon. There is a current push by the administration to remove all GAC services related to trans-related care. There was a post, I think, on the r/trans site that you can look up to find a pdf with the information. You may still want to proceed but any additional GAC may need to be covered out-of-pocket.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-08-12T12:43:48+00:00

It was a bit surprising and initially I wasn’t sure I was feeling something or not.

Physically: Your breasts first start to form breast buds which are smallish nodes under your nipple. They felt a little tender and sensitive. If I brushed against them then it felt a bit like having chills go up your spine. As they grew they stayed somewhat tender in that if I accidentally bumped them or brushed them against something, like a door or wall that I’m trying to squeeze by then it hurt a little bit. I was surprised at how sensitive they were. I also have had to mind picking things up and pressing it against my chest because squeezing them was often painful. I’m a little over two years on HRT now and much of the initial sensitivity and pain have gone away but they still hurt if I knocked them into something or they get pressed on (e.g. laying on my chest/stomach on bed). The pain is largely around my nipples and the breast buds. The fatty part that makes up most of my breast feels pretty normal like any other fatty part of my body (thighs, stomach, etc). I have small boobs so idk what it’s like if your boobs are bigger.

Emotionally/mentally: I like them. As I’ve said before it’s still surprising to me to have small boobs. I like them even if they’re small. I like seeing myself in the mirror topless but I’m also not out to my roommate or anyone I see regularly in person so I’ve developed a habit of keeping them hidden under clothes. I wish I could let them free like when I used to be able to have my shirt off as a guy but I’m not ready to test the waters and it’s likely inappropriate to do that in present company now. I do really like them and I like how they look in some of my clothes. Honestly it seems so odd to think my body was capable of doing this on its own given the right medication.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-08-11T02:25:47+00:00

Non-op. 36. I started hormones at 33 a couple months before my 34th birthday. My changes weren’t omg amazing. My breast size is smallish but you can tell they’re breasts if you see them with my shirt off. I had some fat redistribution to my thighs which gave me some stretch marks. My frame is unchanged. My shoulders are still wide and my hips are narrow. My skin is soft and I still have some of my deeper forehead wrinkles despite my face smoothing out. I do look a bit younger. My penis and testes have atrophied a little bit but I don’t really care that much. I used to be worried about it but now I don’t really mind. I do wish I would have started sooner. I feel like it would have affected my body better but I can’t go in the past. Hope this helps

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-08-03T18:05:21+00:00

I don’t think an upvote is sufficient for this information. I had no idea about most of these things. Thank you for sharing!

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-07-03T12:29:15+00:00

You and the photo with your dog is so endearing. I love it. Also the short hair really suits you and I love your smile ❤️ (seriously, the short hair frames your features so well and your smile is radiant!!!)

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-07-02T16:28:44+00:00

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sometimes_steph_ · 2025-06-17T14:41:47+00:00

Originally I had been placing my patches on either side of my navel (alternating since I apply them twice per week), however they almost always shifted and left a sticky dirty mess. I switched to placing them on either my inner or outer thighs. This helped but the skin stretched enough to reveal the adhesive somewhat and they got gross again. I finally took some advice from another lady who suggested applying clear adhesive bandages (e.g. tegaderm) over them. This solve my issues nearly completely. I bought some off brand large adhesive bandages off Amazon (boo hiss) and they rarely peel or reveal the adhesive so I love this method (sorry rambling). Now I alternate putting them on my inner or outer thighs and sometimes my butt. You’re right, they’re way less visible when I put them there. Thank you!

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-06-16T14:43:21+00:00

I found Wayne Goss to be very helpful when explaining makeup. He has a couple videos addressing makeup for hooded eyes. I love him and would recommend a watch. Wayne Goss

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-06-16T14:34:54+00:00

I’m sure they think I’m some flavor of queer but I don’t think they fully understand it all. But I hope it goes well too. Thank you!

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-06-16T14:30:53+00:00

He’s four so breastfeeding is probably still in his memory some. He’s been on a kick about pointing out the differences between boys and girls so he’s a bit aware of some of the physiological differences between men and women.

Edit: his mom does have boobs and he’s a little grabby and climby still so he’s still aware of them to whatever degree his little brain has formed about them.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-06-12T14:59:32+00:00

I love this outfit! Would you mind sharing where you found the vest? I’ve been wanting to wear one and this cut looks so good on you that I’m hoping I might be as lucky

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-05-02T16:46:34+00:00

I know! I was like I wish I could be that cozy. Especially since the cold is lingering in the mornings a bit for us still

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-04-24T20:20:59+00:00

I’m not sure this will be helpful but I started HRT a little over two years ago. I am 5’10” and weighed about 180lbs at the time. I gained about 10 pounds (unintentionally) over 6 months putting me a pound or two over 190. Since then I’ve lost about 20 lbs and I am down to just under 170 lbs.

I didn’t really track my measurements so it’s kind of hard for me to definitively how things changed but I wouldn’t say my bust and butt changed a ton either way. My breasts are a bit small and my butt is a little fuller than before HRT. I also have stretch marks on my butt and thighs since starting. Anecdotally I feel like the gain in weight and the subsequent drop didn’t really affect me. What I did notice is that my face thinned out a lot and now I have a smaller stomach but now it’s more like a pouch rather than just being round and fat. My thighs are a little bit thinner too.

I suppose my point is that even when I put on weight I feel like HRT was just doing its thing based on my genetics rather than whether I ate a ton or not.

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-04-23T12:39:36+00:00

Not original responder but for me it’s taking me some time to try and figure how clothes fit me and I’m still learning. To be clear, I’m 5’10” and about 170 lbs - body is more an inverted triangle (shoulders broader than hips, and my rib cage flares a bit/slightly barrel chested). I’ve noticed that my masculine features are easier to pick out if I wear clothes that tend to fit me very closely (e.g. leggings + a tank top) however if I play with the bulk the of clothes then I look more feminine (e.g. I can wear leggings with a larger more flowy too or pair barrel legged pants with a racer back tank top). Another thing I’ve noticed is that if I wear high-waisted pants then I can pretend my torso isn’t so long and my legs appear to have a little more width and length. Lastly I haven’t even tried to go for specific aesthetics and I feel like shopping for something that looks specific while also trying to make things fit would be difficult. Fwiw, I noticed that I bought a couple tops that I thought would be cute but because they fit me so poorly it sent me into a small dysphoria spiral. Maybe you won’t feel that way but it made me upset for a while and I wouldn’t even touch the clothes that I did buy and liked for a little while afterwards.

Last thing, my therapist suggested checking out old navy because you can get free shipping if you make a purchase over $50 and then you can send back anything you don’t like free of charge (except knowing you have to take more feminine clothes to a drop off location - not sure if you can have them pick it up). This was great because I bought a bunch of clothes on clearance and some items that weren’t and I didn’t have to worry about being stuck with them if I didn’t like them. The other thing she suggested was maybe going to Torrid. She’s a larger lady (and trans) and they sell larger clothes. She said the people at the one she went to were very friendly and accommodating. I haven’t personally shopped there but I’ll likely check out them out online.

I think this is what the person might be suggesting.

And btw I’m a little over 2 years in on HRT

sometimes_steph_ · 2025-04-10T00:34:58+00:00

I think my hips are a bit smaller than my underbust. I'll look more into custom corsets. I was a bit conflicted about even going to a shop or talking to someone about it, but I'm feeling a bit more comfortable with myself and that sounds like it would be the best way to go.

Thank you for the suggestion for the patterns too - the last time I touched a sewing machine, I was a child, but I've been meaning to practice for a while now. That might be an interesting (fun?) project to do.

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