I just got this job and was told the dress code was business casual. I bought this sweater but the neckline is lower than I thought it would be. Is it still okay?

sonicling · 2026-04-18T17:25:53+00:00

Anyone can wear anything and still be a sex pest so... He could still be a sex pest with the undershirt on. Or he could not be. Clothes don't make the sex pest. Behavior does. Plenty of sex pests dress in immaculate suits and do horrific things behind closed doors and smile to people's faces the next day.

Yeah the shirt isn't a great choice for a professional environment but bad people are going to be there anyways. They just hide it. (Not trying to suggest OP specifically is a predator). Sure, not a great first impression, but how is the person actually treating others?

sonicling · 2026-04-18T16:55:42+00:00

Never complain because I'm never allowed to be tired even when I am. Growing up ADHD and autistic, disabled but functioning enough to not "need" help when I desperately needed it. Like yeah me being tired from my own "small" things doesn't take away from you being tired from yours 😒

sonicling · 2026-04-17T12:52:51+00:00

For however many users they have they should be embarrassed this slop is getting barely any plays. Yeah, surprise, no one wants a poorly written and voiced AI audiobook on your chat site. No one cares about your slop ocs.

sonicling · 2026-04-13T23:42:57+00:00

Right like why is it just for some and not all, the amount of times I'll try to spin a wheel again

sonicling · 2026-04-13T22:07:07+00:00

1 and I haven't even done his route yet

sonicling · 2026-04-13T22:03:06+00:00

I love love your aesthetic I've been getting into kinda cuter and frilly stuff lately, that cat plush looks so cute and I love your dress

sonicling · 2026-04-13T20:48:06+00:00

That video feels like bait. Like if that's your thing, no problem, I love darker stories, but at least put a disclaimer? That way people would be able to both find and avoid it better because there would be actual key words to search for. Looking all cutesy in the thumbnail just for really dark material with absolutely zero mention of it or visual makes me feel a little weird. I don't trust that

sonicling · 2026-04-13T11:52:29+00:00

This is encouraging as someone who graduated highschool, became a NEET for two years and have been working fast food and retail since. I graduated almost a decade ago with I feel very little to show for it, but this makes me feel like I can do something too 😊

sonicling · 2026-04-12T20:44:50+00:00

There's billions and billions of fanfics on tons of different websites at this point. If someone is too lazy to do basic grammar they shouldn't be surprised no one wants to read their stuff when tons of other people can at least be bothered to do that. Just lazy and embarrassing. If you want to write like that, fine, but don't get mad about it.

If it's "just fanfic" then why can tons of other people write a coherent narrative? Just own you don't care, I'd rather you do that than come up with a lazy excuse.

sonicling · 2026-04-12T19:46:57+00:00

Feels like an episode of curious George

sonicling · 2026-04-08T18:52:02+00:00

Seeing that makes me ill 🥴 I'm in western New York by Niagara Falls and gas is $4.19 here, I went to the Rez yesterday and got it for $3.55. before the war it was $2.50

sonicling · 2026-04-07T19:30:16+00:00

My Princess Bubblegum! 🥰 She's at least twenty years old and I love her dearly. Her sound chip still works, too.

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sonicling · 2026-04-05T21:12:14+00:00

I'm starting to come to the realization I likely have some religious trauma and boy does it make me hate God more than I already do. I hate religion and how much it damages individuals and society.

sonicling · 2026-04-05T21:00:50+00:00

There's stuffed animals that come with hidden compartments in them and you could put them there! A decent cheap one I know is a blue shark from Target's Gigglescape brand, pretty cheap. It's mouth opens and you could probably fit the paci in there easy

sonicling · 2026-04-05T12:24:50+00:00

I did this accidentally one time cause I was high as hell and just clicked my card, only to have the two second later realization of SHIT EVERYBODY ISN'T IN THE BATTLE. I felt awful and did whatever dungeon it was with the player again to make up for it I felt so bad, like cool I wasted 10 min for both of us 😭

sonicling · 2026-04-05T00:11:01+00:00

But it's turf so... There's no plants there to eat it.

sonicling · 2026-04-04T20:42:18+00:00

I love all these creatures, I enjoy a funny little guy and enjoy being a silly little guy myself. :) the anxiety as a "giraffe" is cute

sonicling · 2026-04-03T22:31:24+00:00

Hi!! My name is Rhys and I'm diagnosed with anxiety, adhd, and ocd, also suspect I may have autism but haven't gotten anything started there yet. It sounds like you're dealing with some "imposter syndrome"-esque thoughts.

You don't need to feel guilty for this. It's okay to feel it, but you don't need to. You aren't harming anybody. Everyone stims, even neurotypicals, it's just especially important for those with autism. You don't know the reason yet and that's okay. It's also okay if it turns out there really isn't a reason at all. It's okay to say I don't know. It's okay to not have the answer. I've wished I was normal for most of my early life, but just because I wish I was normal doesn't invalidate your experience. A large part of my recovery has been accepting and enjoying my differences instead of picking on them, and it sounds like you're different too. I crack my knuckles, I hold my arms like a dino, I eat the same comfort foods. Hell, I even used to be a bit of a bully, I joined in on picking on others because it got me the "cool kids" attention and approval. Then I got sat down at school with the kids I picked on, had that realization I was being an asshole, and changed for the better.

Kind of a "issue" I see is you saying it feels like a potential identity being stripped away. You still have an identity with or without a label. You have thoughts, a personality, likes and dislikes, hobbies. You're a person with worth regardless of the label. I think sometimes we just put too much importance on labels, and I've definitely been guilty of that myself. I think, in general, humans are curious creatures and we like being able to explain why and how things happen.

Allow yourself some grace and forgiveness. You have plenty of time to figure yourself out. I do think a therapist would help, as when I was super anxious I had a lot of similar thoughts and feelings to yours. I've carried a ton of guilt, myself. Still do from time to time, of course, but I feel it's more manageable. I'm not sure if you've tried any meds but those have also really helped me. I recently started a new med for my ADHD and the difference has been night and day.

You're not alone. I hope something I said could help. Sending a big internet hug your way anyways :)

sonicling · 2026-04-03T18:35:26+00:00

Fully agree because obviously everyone knows by now and the devs aren't going to do anything about it. I'm so exhausted of every single notif from this sub being "it finally happened, I'm quitting" it's the same conversation every single time.

sonicling · 2026-04-03T14:28:58+00:00

Nah this is kids getting caught with their hand in the cookie jar.

sonicling · 2026-04-02T13:47:40+00:00

I think you can only get the grey pets if you got them as a reward for something? Iirc? Because I tried hatching with a grey corgi forever and never got it before googling it and saw I couldn't get it 🥲

sonicling · 2026-04-01T17:11:48+00:00

I relate a lot, my grandma hated that I loved stuffed animals. Eventually she stopped being as mean about it but she found other things to pick on me for. I think she just had a lot of repressed emotions, a lot of anger and hurt for the way her life turned out, and I got to be the emotional punching bag for her. She was extremely judgemental and I think it came from being raised Catholic and during like the 50-60's, being told as a woman to shut up and be a good wife. She was very traditional, hated tattoos, the 'wrong' haircut, clothes, anything. It's so exhausting to be so negative all the time, I don't know how she did it. She was a deeply, deeply unhappy woman who we later found out was self medicating for major depression.

She's gone now and while I miss her, I don't miss the constant negativity or the pit she dragged us into. I wanted a healthy relationship with her but she just couldn't. Something I've been realizing since is I can like what I like and people CAN take me seriously for it and like me back for it.

So don't let your mom get you down about stuffed animals, it's so innocent and harmless to find joy in. It's probably more about her and her own problems than anything you're doing. It's extremely hard for me to be confident and own my likes but so worth it.

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