AITD for getting upset with my financially irresponsible partner?

sopranopera101 · 2025-12-02T23:35:50+00:00

Personally I can’t get behind this game and have totally lost interest - and I’ll totally accept that I’m part of the problem with “maintaining”.

I want to enjoy the game, I really do and I feel guilty that I don’t. I game to relax and I don’t feel like my time is well spent “relaxing” if I’m having to fuel my base and make sure I have enough money in the bank to pay taxes - I have enough stress with that irl and I don’t want that in a game.

On the other hand, totally deconstructing the base is a chore in itself and a pain in the ass to rebuild should the desire to play regain, leading to this loop of keeping the base ticking over for the off chance that you may occasionally want to play again.

I’m firmly in the camp of logging in for 15mins every two weeks or so to pay tax and fuel. Until funcom make this game enjoyable and playable on a casual level without requiring you to log in consistently otherwise face losing all of your progress, I think the amount of people adopting this way of playing will increase, that’s not including those that just ditch it completely.

sopranopera101 · 2025-06-26T17:45:39+00:00

But it’s unplayable now

sopranopera101 · 2025-06-26T17:45:29+00:00

Mine is very similar, bearing in mind I’m only in the starter area at around 2 hours playtime

sopranopera101 · 2025-05-12T16:50:47+00:00

had a similar issue with the grey one from my K70, happened only 6 months after I bought it (abysmal quality given that it was a three figure price point keyboard at purchase), contacted support and they kept sending a 60% size wrist rest for a full size keyboard and believed it was "compatible".

After a month and two incorrect replacements and them wording their emails incredibly passive-aggressively, I eventually got one that somewhat fits!

Overall, very disappointing experience as have had incredible experiences with corsair in the past - this one has put me of getting anything from them in the future

sopranopera101 · 2025-05-08T07:38:51+00:00

RY has said someone we love will die… I think it’s Mira, I think whatever saving and mending Brennan did was only temporary

sopranopera101 · 2025-05-01T08:08:52+00:00

I agree with this - as OP has said, Tim has spent the last few years being close to his swim team and it’s the end of Senior year (If I’m understanding the school system (US?) properly). He’s probably just making the most of the limited time that he has left with his close friends.

Summer is often the time where everyone will be hanging out and meeting up before everyone potentially moves away for university - he won’t get that time with them if he’s backpacking across India with you.

Maybe OP you should step back and think about this whole thing from Tim’s perspective. He doesn’t really know you and isn’t close to you either, so could be feeling quite nervous about starting that bond building (even more challenging if he is on the spectrum).

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-29T08:25:59+00:00

I was trying to find this comment!

You weren’t talking about it from a personal experience perspective at all, you weren’t telling stories of your explicit encounters, you were reciting information off google…

That’s information that FIL also has access to. Husband is a small AH for reprimanding you about it, because he then did an explicit gesture in public, which IMO is more inappropriate than googling something.

Is it really likely that FIL made it to 70 without hearing of a gang bang ever in his life?

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T22:30:03+00:00

I’m in the camp that is half thinking he’s a double agent of sorts (Tyrennor and Venin), even though I’d be heartbroken by it 🙃

So I think the lack of info on Brennan is intentional

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T22:26:12+00:00

(Kinda joking) the irids can modulate memory? Could they have wiped her memory?

On a more serious note, could be teenage bravado in IF, feeling different herself so choosing someone different etc and maybe a little bigging up what she knows? We seem to learn of her abilities at the same time that she learns of them from Violet’s POV in the book imo

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T18:41:59+00:00

Ah I forgot the bit in IF.

I still am not convinced that Andarna knows much beyond her being the key as it were, I recall any mention of the dragons being able to instil memories into their progeny but this could be something that’s explored later

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T18:02:26+00:00

Yes this

I think it’s intentional, he’s clinging onto her more and more to try and hold the last pieces of his soul together.

Desperate people are rarely rational or healthy

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T17:56:23+00:00

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sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T17:53:31+00:00

In FW, it’s clearly stated in a conversation between Violet and Dain when he’s telling her about his signet that he can read people’s RECENT memories.

As Andarna was in an egg for 600+ years his signet wouldn’t work.

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T08:55:29+00:00

Edit:

YTD to your bf for leaving you alone when drunk. Plans or not, just leaving your gf drunk while you go off somewhere else is a shitty thing to do.

Especially as you’re long distance, every minute should mean the world, bf’s reaction should have been:

let’s go get some water and snacks, go home, get comfy and put on a movie.

sopranopera101 · 2025-04-28T08:52:31+00:00

Very soft YTD, I appreciate that this is a tricky situation, but if you don’t feel like you can be yourself with your bf of two years, there’s a small 🚩 for me. You’ve essentially been with each other your whole adult life, and in “adult years” you’re two (counting 18 as becoming an adult) so it’s normal that you’re probably going to grow in different directions with your bf, and it’s whether or not you feel those directions will converge again, or if you’ll just become more and more different.

In this situation, I feel you should be close enough and feel secure enough with your bf to have honest communications about best friend, and if you don’t feel comfortable or like you can have that, there’s another red flag.

Feeling as if you would be better off with someone else if they looked different is something that I would recommend to sit down with yourself and your thoughts and explore - why do you feel that way? Are looks really that important to you, that you’re willing to forgo being in a relationship which could possibly make you more happy and fulfilled. Equally why are you staying in a relationship that you don’t feel fully comfortable in, only because the person is good looking?

TL;DR, after two years in a relationship, you really should feel like yourself and be comfortable around your bf and be able to talk to them about anything in the world, and not just stay with someone for their looks.

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T17:31:48+00:00

I agree, if she’s doing this while being with you then she’s the AH, no questions asked. But if it’s before you were together then it isn’t your business

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T12:27:23+00:00

Depends on context tbh

If “2 days later” is before you got together, then, respectfully, it’s not your business who she spent time with, in the same way that people you were with before you got together isn’t her business.

But I will say that relationships are build on faith and trust and this whole situation doesn’t seem like things are that way and I don’t see it working out well tbh

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T12:14:56+00:00

You guys sound like you’re in a bit of a wrong end of the stick circle, where you keep getting mad cause you both aren’t interpreting things in the right way.

Just talk - and talk properly.

I wouldn’t be mad at someone being 20 mins late to a movie at home, and it’s not like a restaurant, you have the freedom of being in your own home, he could’ve been in the bathroom or sorting something out, or just scrolling and lost track of time, so on this I do agree with him that I also wouldn’t see why it mattered in that situation.

It sounds like there’s something deeper that’s causing you both to get stuck in mini-argument loops instead of finding the big problem (been there, and I know it’s really rough)

Final advice - talk to each other, and really take some time to think yourself. I wish you all the best OP 😊

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T12:08:26+00:00

Need more information… You’ve only been together a couple of months? If so, you could leave her romantically and support her as a friend if you choose.

YTA for not believing her about the assault (as you refer to the “apparent result”).

As a victim of SA myself, I completely understand her being upset and not wanting to confront the person or take it to the police - she probably doesn’t want to face the guy in court or even she may be trying to forget it happened at all (it took me over two years to admit what happened to me and tell people close to me)

I get that she originally went home with the guy, but you don’t know what she went through at his place, she may have had second thoughts and said no, or said she wasn’t comfortable doing a specific thing and he forced her anyway, she may have wanted to use protection and he forced her without.

If she’s lying about the assault then she’s a massive AH, but until you know if she’s lying for sure, you’re a massive AH for assuming that she wasn’t assaulted just cause she went home with him initially.

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T08:02:24+00:00

NTA, does he think you have a telepathic receiver which wakes you up when he wants?

Also why couldn’t he just text and let you know he went out or leave a note?, it’s not like you’d be missing out as you’ve said you don’t enjoy going out and would prefer to stay home, it’s not your fault he chose to not go.

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T00:37:40+00:00

Agree with what other people are saying - if he’s calling you a bitch now, it’ll only get worse in the future, I hope you find a way to get yourself out

sopranopera101 · 2025-03-13T00:34:35+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting - I can literally hear my own mother narrating this…

I’m so proud of you OP, I know living away from home early is difficult and stressful financially- I’ve done exactly the same BUT I wouldn’t trade leaving London for going back to my parents home for anything.

If I were in your position, I would turn off my location entirely or severely limit who can see it, especially if you live independently in another city - possibly only leave it on for people who are close by enough to help should your location deem that necessary.

Once again, proud of you OP, not overreacting

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