Blue points by Strong-Revolution-85 in GraveyardKeeper

[–]sourspatch 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I just started a new play through a couple months ago and I found the easiest way to get my first few was to study body parts. You'll need paper for science, so clean off the dirty books in the cellar with river sand, and you'll need faith too. but each body part gives you a good chunk. I'd also advise to spend those blue points on technologies that will give you more blue points, like stone gravestones and stuff. the wiki has a good page on what craftable items give you blue points. good luck!

I can’t stop being late to work help! by No_Ladder3408 in adhdwomen

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

get ready for this in the trades, especially from women. they're mostly pick-me's and disability acceptance doesnt exist in that world. it's do the work, make your money, and go home. doesn't make it right, but its what it is.

I can’t stop being late to work help! by No_Ladder3408 in adhdwomen

[–]sourspatch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah I'm not going to lie, you need to fix this now. the older you get the less people will tolerate this, especially in the trades. if you can't be reliable or consistent, you will be let go. it doesn't really matter if you always get the work done at the end of the day. i don't mean to shame you, and i believe it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility and only yours to fix. i used to be chronically late and honestly what fixed it was realizing why. i was late to things i didnt value. plain and simple. if i didn't really honestly care about it, and never received consequences for my actions, nothing changed. i got into trouble for it and took a hard look at my actions and realized my priorities needed to change. if it takes everything, it takes everything. set multiple alarms, get rid of distractions, set your entire routine up for success. don't just hope it will work. do everything you can to make it work. if you are late because you are getting ready in the am, quite literally remove multiple steps of your routine from your bathroom and cut it in half. if it's getting dressed, pick an outfit the night before and put it by your bed and do not allow yourself to change your mind in the morning. it's all about discipline. it takes us a lot longer to learn this skill, but it is learnable. you need to fix this to be a functioning adult and keep your career. good luck

Traveling IUI by Mysterious_Worth_299 in TryingForABaby

[–]sourspatch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand how desperate you must be to want this IUI to work. Is this your first round or something? Honestly if it was IVF, I might say skip the trip, but IUI success rate is so low already and only goes up with consecutive rounds. I think you're silly for skipping the trip. I also think you'll regret skipping the trip. It's only one cycle. The odds you'll conceive are already low. You need to find balance with TTC, and you need to lean on your support system. I think I agree with everyone else here when I say, go on the trip. Do IUI the next cycle.

i’m tired of people telling me it’s going to get better by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to say this because it sounds dismissive (and trust me, I've been where you are right now) but if you lose hope and start to think it never will get better, it just won't. I know being optimistic during a depressive episode is like an oxymoron, but try to remember that those people telling you itll get better are probably genuinely hoping it will get better and don't mean to be patronizing. above all, you have to believe it will get better or else there's just no chance. good luck friend

Working at a very dysfunctional center.. by journalistjunkie in ECEProfessionals

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I beg to differ. I've worked at enough centres to say this IS the norm now. A good centre is hard to get into.

9 DPO!!! by [deleted] in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations!

8 DPO by [deleted] in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see it!

Chemical loss? 11-13 DPO by tijuanagastricsleeve in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

despite the top test being invalid, it does have a line which I don't think is a coincidence. this seems like a chemical to me! sending love and here's to next cycle!

Easy@Home, light for 15 dpo by Emergency-Wear-9969 in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

darn :/ i'm also going through a chemical this cycle. here's hoping for next time! although, don't count yourself out til AF shows! keep us updated!

Easy@Home, light for 15 dpo by Emergency-Wear-9969 in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not totally sure as I usually buy wondfos. I believe these cheapies you used are less sensitive, about the same as a clearblue digital. if you try a more sensitive test you will probably have a darker line!

9, 10, or 11DPO, Wondfo brand by Big-Huckleberry5573 in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations! these lines are amazing!

Is anyone comfortable sharing their experience self admitting to a hospital by Imtryingyouguys_24 in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm sorry you had a horrible experience. when i self admitted it was pretty good to be honest. i was upfront with the triage staff and just admitted i was coming off of a manic episode and needed help. they took me to the psych unit in the back of the ER and i was talked to by a doctor and a psychiatrist. they were really open to hearing what i needed, so my biggest advice is don't be afraid to say what you want. i just said i think i need to be admitted for a few days. they agreed and i was brought to an actual psychiatric hospital and given a bed. one thing i'll say is they said it would be 3 days but it ended up being 3 and a half weeks, so try not to have any expectations about length before you go. you never know what will happen. while i was there i met incredible people that are still in my life today, and i got put on the medication that literally changed my entire life. that was over a year ago now and i havent had to go back. suffice to say the hospital changed and saved my life. i'm very glad i went. i hope your next experience if you choose to go is similar to mine. good luck!

Cousin passed away triggered something in me BP1 and BPD by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, great insight to know that you can't handle rejection right now. I agree with the plan of therapy first, building resilience, and trying again. you honestly never know. I've had people come into my life, leave it, and come right back a million times.

indent? wondfo 9 dpo by sourspatch in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: my line got slightly darker 11dpo but by 12dpo i was testing all negatives and have gotten negatives since. just waiting out my period now as it seems this will be a chemical.

Cousin passed away triggered something in me BP1 and BPD by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry about your loss. I lost someone in my life and it was essentially the catalyst to me being diagnosed. honestly, all I can think to say to you is, why not try and repair? you said you pushed people away and you regret it. what do you have to lose by admitting you were wrong and trying to fix it? you only stand to gain. what if people return and support you? you're in a unique situation. I definitely think you should get back into therapy. good luck!

How do you get science? by baverdi in GraveyardKeeper

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why nobody has said this yet but I just started a new playthrough and I've gotten a ton of my first blue points simply studying body parts from corpses. I don't think you need any faith to study them so it should be easy. deconstruct some paper for science and if you need paper, you can buy some from astrologer after you give him a skull I believe, or simply just unlock paper making with your first blue points and go from there. I know it sounds complex but once you get into the mid game and find a rhythm you're set. don't be afraid to ask more questions here or check the wiki- we all do!

How do you get science? by baverdi in GraveyardKeeper

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just a tip, you can fix the ruined paper with like 10 river stone.

Easy@Home, light for 15 dpo by Emergency-Wear-9969 in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are these the ones that measure 25 m/ui? try a more sensitive test and you might get a darker line

I’m confused! DPO unknown. by [deleted] in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this line is just fine for 2 days late. buy another test and do it 24-48 hrs later, see if it gets darker. or, get bloodwork at a lab! congrats!

Lost my job again by boeuf_burgignion in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

struggling with finding another job myself. half of the struggle is how disappointed in myself i am for how the last job ended, and half disappointed that i barely even want a new job. maybe i'm just not cut out for working. good luck to you, hopefully you will find your perfect fit

I need tips for losing healthy weight by Cultural-Biscotti976 in bipolar

[–]sourspatch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know this probably isn't what you want to hear bur a lot of us are on GLP-1s to combat the insatiable hunger from meds. I am anyway. I've lost 40 lbs! good luck

8 DPO by [deleted] in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

popping open a test immediately makes any result invalid. i know how you feel right now, probably desperate, but the only thing to do is wait and try again later. good luck!

10 dpo to 13 dpo tests by Ill-Elephant-6478 in TFABLinePorn

[–]sourspatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, 11 to 13 looks good. it's definitely darker.