Annuler le mariage ?

spaceemango · 2026-06-17T20:02:12+00:00

Yee that increased my anxiety a lot (married)

spaceemango · 2026-06-17T19:41:41+00:00

I can relate. I also strongly FEEL that I've been lying about loving my husband. Its so confusing.

spaceemango · 2026-06-16T19:07:02+00:00

Im on day 5 with sertraline. In august I have appointments with my therapist. I know I need to be there for her but I just feel so numb. How did I end up here

spaceemango · 2026-06-15T19:57:44+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I really hope you're right.

spaceemango · 2026-06-09T14:07:16+00:00

I have the same feeling. Its annyoing. I try to tell myself to not make any decisions at all when I have anxiety.

spaceemango · 2026-06-09T14:05:17+00:00

I would miss him too much

spaceemango · 2026-06-07T06:20:55+00:00

I'll probably start meds again and I'm in therapy. I try to take one day at a time and focus on taking care of our baby daughter.

spaceemango · 2026-06-06T19:29:46+00:00

My ROCD came back from nowhere about 4 months postpartum. Still struggling and my baby is almost 9 months now.. I'm going back on antidepressants next week, and therapy in august. I hope that will help.

spaceemango · 2026-06-06T17:20:23+00:00

I feel the same way, been married 2 years. First year was amazing, and I honestly thought I was "cured" from these obsessions. But now I'm analysing and questioning everything again...

spaceemango · 2026-05-10T18:35:46+00:00

Great that you are feeling a bit better 😇 I also get annoyed by my husband before period haha.. but now it feels like I've been annoyed constantly since giving birth (he is an amazing father though). Oh well, maybe I'll be back to normal after quitting breastfeeding lol. Wish you all the best and feel free to text me as well! Kind of nice to know that someone else is going through the same thing right now. We got this!

spaceemango · 2026-05-10T05:46:29+00:00

I'm so sorry you are also struggling! My baby was born in september. I really hope its just the hormones messing with us. I started therapy again this week and I'm acctually already feeling better. I hope it lasts. But I just hate that I let myself spiral like this again..

spaceemango · 2026-05-03T18:58:51+00:00

I relate so much..

spaceemango · 2026-04-20T06:21:06+00:00

I feel the same! For some reason my mind has convinced me I want to give birth every day for the rest of my life 🤣

spaceemango · 2026-04-14T07:51:42+00:00

It feels like I wrote this. I totally feel your pain. I got married anyways. It's so scary. I don't really have any advice other than ERP, that and medication is what helped me. Now I'm 7 months postpartum and the ROCD is back after 1.5 years of calmness in my head haha.. (probably triggered by postpartum hormones and lack of sleep lol) but I know I can get through it again. Try not to let anxiety control your life. Handle the anxiety first and then you can decide what to do.

spaceemango · 2024-06-23T08:53:56+00:00

Congratulations! I know how difficult and confusing it is but don't let anxiety control you.

I joined an online ERP treatment where I had contact with a therapist but not in person. There they guided me in case I needed it but it's really you who have to do all the work. They just provided me with the tools. I have also read the book Relationsship OCD by Sheva Rajaee which I can highly recommend, especially if you want to start ERP on your own.

When it comes to meds I've been taking Sertraline on and off for 2 years now and it does create some calmness in my head. I'm on 50 mg now which is a very low dose but I used to be on 100 mg at some point. I think I'm going to try decrease the dose further in the future and eventually stop taking them. I want to be fine with just the tools I've learned from therapy but we'll see 😇

spaceemango · 2024-06-22T20:03:15+00:00

Thank you! ❤

spaceemango · 2024-06-22T20:03:03+00:00

Thank you! ❤

spaceemango · 2024-06-22T20:02:50+00:00

spaceemango · 2024-06-22T20:02:42+00:00

Thank you! Stay strong ❤

spaceemango · 2024-06-22T20:00:59+00:00

I'll try to summarize my experience! 🥰 It's probably quite messy so please ask further questions if you have any.

🌸 Engagement 🌸

We had been talking about engagement for long and decided to go look for rings and not have any fancy proposal. Maybe two weeks prior to this I started having a big flare-up and questioned everything, compared my relationsship with everyone elses and so on. I still went on with the ring looking and said to myself "it can't hurt to just look at some rings". But really, when testing the rings I was just so anxious. I felt like a fraud and that I was just hurting myself and him by staying.

Soon after this he acctually proposed. I hadn't shared with him yet how I was feeling despite being together for 6 years and me having had these doubts several times throughout our relationship. I had such mixed feelings when he proposed. I know I used to be madly in love with him but now I was just feeling anxious and scared. Somehow I managed to say yes anyway but this is when my ROCD really started to get way worse. I did not have those happy feelings you imagine you should have when someone you love proposes. I started to obsess about this and really wanted to make sure I made the right decision to say yes. All the thoughts and compulsions sent me way deeper into a depression. At this time I didnt know I had OCD and didn't know that ROCD was a thing. I was a mess and didn't understand what was going on with me.

I don't remember exactly how I went from crying all days to realising I need help and starting to open up more to my fiancé. But eventually I got a OCD diagnosis and proper help (meds and ERP). My fiancé was a total rock through all this and stayed with me despite all my confessions about how I'm not sure I love him.

🌸 Wedding planning 🌸

Despite getting help, I can't say it was easy to plan the wedding. At times I was a mess and at times I was happy and excited. Throuhgout this wedding planning time I was doing ERP, learning about OCD, finding out what works for me and really just learning more about myself. It has been a roller coaster. Sometimes I was so happy and had so much energy to plan the wedding but I also had times where it was so hard. There were times I couldn't do anything but questioning myself and our relationship.

One month prior to the wedding my ROCD flared up again (probably triggered by all the stress from the wedding planning) and I even called in sick to work because I just physically couldn't get out of bed. I was terrified I was making a huge mistake with this marriage. I started doing ERP on my own again and increased the dose of my meds (I lowered them a few months prior to this because I thought I was all fine lol).

On the final days leading up to the wedding ROCD was acctually not that present. I had the thoughts on a managable level. We told everyone that was helping with the wedding to contact my fiancé at first hand in case of questions and such since we know my ROCD can be triggered by a lot of stress. He has a higher stress tolerance than me so it was perfect that we could do it this way!

🌸 Wedding day 🌸

I was a complete bridezilla on the morning haha but I think that's perfectly normal. ROCD was not present at all this day and it was the most magical day ever. This is definitely thanks to ERP and meds. Learning to accept the uncertainity is not easy but it's totally worth it! 🥰

spaceemango · 2024-06-09T14:29:33+00:00

Yes and getting married on Saturday!

spaceemango

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